Ok now this is unique to SD, I have never found it EVER i another city , but I am sure it applies , maybe I just get the odd people.

Why do people I have seen , message me, (understanding that they have a good time when they visited and wrote a nice review) , but they message me pretending to be someone else,they ask or are critical of sonething, then after a few replies as I attempt to explain my position on a subject , be it unsafe practices or rates or whatever, then they block you from answering, after revealing themselves.

Now I understand it means that their visit was a once off and thats fine, I cant be for everyone , I know there are cheaper girls out there,  but do you really think it makes you look clever , because Im really easy going and Im happy to debate anything you gentlemen like to throw, really I do, I mean we girls can chat to each other, but I really do like to hear peoples grips and wants and desires etc. But with the new system its often hard to get a conversation going on a subject with guys on the boards , I mean I dont even know if this post will go through.

But I only find this in SD. I am curious seriously curious of what you guys think about this. Im just relfecting no dramas at all, just opening up lines of communication.

I have lived in SD for 40+ years and I have spent some time away from here as well. People here are "quirky", but far less than LA or NY city. I think you just ran into a string of SD weirdness that does exist.

When you get to the grass roots born and raised people form SD, they are the best in the world! 80% of the county was on fire in 4 years twice and everyone pulled together and helped each other.

In the 80's (way before your time I am sure!) everything was so low key and chill here. Now it seems that everyone has a firecracker fuse up their ass and it is rush, rush, rush. I know I get sucked into that a little bit as well.

The problem that native SD people have mostly has to deal with outsiders. Few know this. Most SD folk would rather just have this place be populated with SD folk. What i hear is that Bostonians and New yorkers are particularily unkiled here. For the most part, I don't have a problem with those people....but they are normally not chill and kind of high strung. People that migrated here are probably the people that you are having to deal with. Old school SD peeps are very chill and don't do things like you have described.

SD is a melting pot and sometimes you just have to let things fly over your head. It's tough and I get it. I don't know if that helps, but I can see this place for what it is and what it was. The core SD people are the greatest in the world! Rest assured.

My dear,
we in San Diego are a differnent breed.  We live in the best city in the world.  Everything comes and goes here, good and bad. When ever  the temp drops to 69 degrees we complain.  Otherwise, we shrug our shoulders, head for the beach, and have a drink.  Many of the ladies, wheather local or visitors can't quite grasp why the guys are so.....distracted, unsatisfied, or finicky(?). We have too much of a good thing, i.e. beautiful women to the excess.  No offense to you, but your just another lady, albeit "VIP", but none the less replaceable (as we are of course).

Why this particular fellow chose to approach you this way is a little piculiar, but that said, sounds like the MO of a guy who is not a native but a transplant, probably from the east coast.

Cheers, go to the beach and have a drink....

First off, I am a San Diego native but a little less laid-back than most and very brutally honest.  Tara, this is not the first post where you were bitching about hobbyists in San Diego.  I recall a post from a few weeks ago that was titled "A Serious question ...".  In that post you went on to complain about some guy or guys wasting your time with 30+ emails to set up an appointment.  Now you are complaining about WHAT?  I don't know.  Someone critical of you?  Is that it?  Honestly?  There is a saying that you reap what you sow.  Is this the case with you?  Is the KARMA Train catching up with you?  In my opinion YES because when I first cotacted you, you were very unfriendly and stressed that your 1,000/hr rate was non-negotiable.  THEN 2 weeks later you announce a 50% off rate.  A few months later I try to contact you for an appointment at your discount rate and you were practically never available or had an attitude.

If you have so many issues with hobbyists here in SD and truly think it is all the hobbyist and not any of your doing then please do us all a favor and go somewhere that you feel appreciated and happy.  There may be a few guys that miss you but as the previious poster said, we are pretty lucky here to have many quality (albeit cheaper than you) providers.  Otherwise please stop the complaining because its getting a little old and making you less desirable everytime I read a post of yours.

AEJ

Avg Joe has a point Tara. I had contacted you and set up time, but unfortunately had to cancel. You never responded to my e mail with my references, or my e-mail in which I cancelled and apologized for what was admittedly a somewhat haphazard attempt to schedule (first a dinnner date, and then a two hour date). Our schedules change too. Frankly after your non responses to my last two e mails and the last few threads you've started here, I'd have to think twice about scheduling again. Not hatin on you, just sayin.

MfSD>>>>

Now thats a well thought out answer,

It has a very calming effect, lol

FIRST I dont have many issues, its three out of 300 , but it was annoying me that some people were being DICKS, Hey I am happy to take critics, not sure sure AverageEverydayJoe , but I suspect its the 30 emailer, who I have not met. Again I dont have a problem with 99% of people, and I have offered my local rate of 50% ever since I can remember, So we must be going back there a while.

But its hard to debate when people are ANON, not all that brave But hey I take on board critical thoughts.

If I dont reply to emails you may have sent there is usually a reason, if we have not met, I may suspect that your LE, or a kid having a play, in anycase I do try my best in my communications, but its hard when one gets so many each day and most are not real people interested in booking.

But as I say I will always do my best, If I have been judgemental on you then I am sorry.

I do appreciate a disccusssion, I dont think ANON critics are worth any value.

Lets stick to the facts when makng a critical thought though, dont go all replublican on me...

I love FACTS not myths

LOL

I don't even have an alias here on TER Tara. I've never posted as anyone other than MfSD for over a decade. As far as your LE assertion, the three refs I e-mailed you, were my white list client status from Nikki Avalon (maybe the most famous escort in the country, certainly in Vegas) Ciera Sage, a former pornstar and escort well known in the San Diego community, and a lady back east who's highly rated in the Carolinas. We had a date set up, that I had to cancel. You never responded. Those are the facts. It's your right to complain here on TER, about anything you want, and I wish you no ill will, but it's probably not good for your business.

MfSD>>>>

Im not referring to you OBVIOUSLY about being ANON, Look , we didnt meet, you cancelled maybe at short notice or you said a wrong word or asked for something or had too many emails  or had a habbit of trying to book last minute,  who knows why I didnt reply, But It is what it is, we are obviously not suited, thats fine.

Its an odd business we are in, always complex in getting references, making sure the references are ok, making sure your ok, and you know this is not a full time job for me, I come on the boards rarely and I hope for discussin, of course I would prefer to know how to improve a meeting or the process of meeting , I think I do the service part pretty well, Judging from those who ACTUALLY have met me.

IF I am strict on screening and dont like messing around well, guess thats me, I have cancelled ONCE in my life that I can remember, I understand your time is imprtant and its hard to get away. I would hate to think that by asking about one particular subject, which was ANON debates in messaging, and general matters that it is preferred that girls just shut up and not speak, well ok, I guess thats what it is, I was sincerely trying to understand guys in SD as it had not happened in LA and it was only a couple, but it is appearing that as I thought open discussion of both sides of life is not the best way to go.

If anyone who has ACTUALLY met me has a thought , love to hear. Otherwise well thanks for listening, I hope to see some of you soon, I guess thats why we have reviews.

Tara

None of the criteria that you mentioned, applied to me. I don't want to beat this to death. You're obviously having some issues right now with your escort business here in SD. It's probably better that I did cancel.

MfSD>>>>

I had zero problems booking with Tara back when I was active. Had a blast.  

I'm guessing maybe it was because she has supernatural powers and was able to pick out the awesome  guys like myself?  We had even made jokes of escaping to an island and living on nuts and berries together.  

Or it could be that my problem-less experience was more of a typical one
as evident from her solid reviews..... and that she only has bad luck with a select few???  

As some of her reviews states, she's much more of a straight shooter than an illusion artist... but her assets make up for it. IMO. If you want an illusion artist, she might not be the right one but if you like hot girls who act like herself, well Tara just might be the one.

Either way, I'd be pissed too if someone gave me the run around.... after 30 emails.  
I receive over 300 emails a day at work, and I'm thinking... WTF do these people want from me?

I spent most of last Saturday emailing back and forth with a touring provider who actually contacted me on her own. It was a waste of time. I offered a free room at the Catarmarin and she found problems with that and it was just back and forth again and again on the fucking email. I told her that I didn't have time for this and thus no date for tonight. 5 hours of my Saturday wasted over what could have been resolved in 5 minutes over the phone.

Buy a cheap hobby phone from 7-11 or wherever. The email thing does not work and is REAL annoying for clients. We like to hear a sexy voice and solve simple problems, now!

I think you can get one for around $20 and maybe 10c/minute.

I won't see another email only girl anymore. I had one on Wednesday and that was a pain also.
I'm done with that email contact only stuff.

How cool is it to hear a voice for hobbyists before a date? Kinda really super chill. Cheap phones are well, cheap.

I dont get it?

Just sayin.

Ya think, Im doing fine with all that I see, as my reviews state, I don't do fine with pretenders, Go figure.  your statement, "best that I cancelled" explains it perfectly...I prefer those with respect rather than spite. I went through all your emails the MANY MANY of them But i wont go over it here. move on I am sure you find those happy with your methods and thats cool. We dont suit as I said . End of the matter

Keep beating,

Tara
xxx

-- Modified on 9/2/2012 4:33:34 AM

At last sanity prefails, someone I have met, true I am a straight shooter, I hope not in a bad way, but If I want to make sure you and I enjoy I will let you know what I like as I expect you to let me know what you like, I love the work and I love the feeling f giving and getting pleasure, who doesnt, I hate the games people play when they are getting off on the pretend to book.

I do like to think it shows in my reviews, its hard to please everyone, But I think Im pretty good at doing the best one can.

If you keep it simple Im easy to see, if you mess around, change bookings then cancel, I can be a little distant, GO FIGURE.

Some girls dont mind the mess around, thats up to them, I liek to meet, have the best time and thats where we get off, not the planning and never met. I mean if thats your thing ok, BUt not for me

I am sorry for your drama , and its really an individual choice I guess, for me thats exactly how I USED to operate, its professional and perfect for all, unfortunately things have a way of getting out, this is NOT my first name on TER and you only get to change it once, lovers, girlfriends, whoever often get to see what they should not , and two phones is a red flag to some. I know as I have been betrayed before (twice). Now I understand its not your problem and you made me realise , (which is good) that emailing can be a pain, but then so can a 100 time wasting text messages, so its a difficult thing.

I have a friend in Australia where its all legal. Trust me life is easy for her. So with all the complexities of american life and working in this business , I guess there are all sides to every story , thanks for your comments, it doesnt really solve all the problems, but it does highlight the difficulties we all face in trying to just have a good time and please everyone.

All the best I shall go back to getting ready for a big day out.

I am glad that a couple of you replied in a constructive manner,

Oh one last thing, I do contact on the phone before a meeting once references are cleared and the meeting time is approaching. (unless of course you cancel, then you miss out lol)

Kiss

Tara
xx

-- Modified on 9/2/2012 4:31:42 AM

It may have been nine or ten total e-mails Tara. The last two of which were AFTER we had set up time for a two hour appointment:  my references and then my cancellation. You didn't respond to either of those e-mails.

Do all cancellations bother you this much ? And if you feel I wasted your time by scheduling with you (and then having to cancel), I apologize. Oh, I'll be "pretending" this holiday weekend, on a  four hour dinner date, with one of SD's other top ten ladies.

MfSD>>>>

MfSD -

I am with you - I am gonna pass on this one.  Whenever I go shopping and something is on sale at a 50% discount, I know there is a good reason.  Usually "Damaged Goods".

Thanks for sharing your experiences with her in this thread as your situation was very similar to mine except I never even booked with her and she was all upset about the exchange of emails.  10 emails is not a lot when you consider that you begin an email with something like "Wondering about your availablity".  Then she wants references.  Then you (or she ) refines the timeframes - Thats about 10 right there counting responses back and forth.

AEJ

Ok, thats great...moving along now....nothing to see here

Its refreshing that the strongest critics come from those you never see, and now I am being attacked for offering locals a discount....boys and their egos...are never far parted.

Move along

I actually was exactly the same way until 8 days ago.

This gal repsonded to an ad I placed 2 months ago, but it was too late and I already had plans. But I told her to let me know if she was going to be in San Diego. So outta nowhere, she emails and tells me that she is going to be here. For me, that is so way cool for someone I have not seen to do that.

Then the emails start, back and forth and back and forth and it finally ends with her telling me that she doe not want to be with an "angry" person. I wasn't angry, just at a loss for how I have to spend my entire saturday waiting for email responses.

I think providers should have a hobby phone. I am as single as all fuck, so you will never hear from any of my SO's...cause they don't exist. haha

1. She wonders why people she's seen message her (pretending to be someone else) and then block her communications. Suggests it's due to the type of people in SD

2. A couple of guys suggest SD is a melting pot and he's probably a transplant

3. An alias details his frustrating experience in trying to book an appointment and mentions the rate changes

4. Another hobbyist details his frustrating experience in trying to book an appointment

5. She decides that she doesn't want to hear from alias posters because they have no credibility and would only like comments from people she's seen.

6. An alias poster that says he's seen her, says she's the bomb.

7. She's glad someone finally responded that's seen her and agrees with the alias poster and values his opinion.

8. She decides she'd rather not hear anymore comments and people can move on. Oh and life is better in Australia

As someone who has seen Tara a few times, not in San Diego, I can tell you that you all are VERY lucky to have such a Beautiful, down to earth, and unbelievably Sexy Girl in your town... I would imagine every provider has screening issues, etc... happen, but as Tara said for those who have seen her and know, she is GREAT!

Ha ha!

People are weird everywhere.  The weird ones stand out.  After a certain number of weird texts, emails, calls, or late cancellations, I just put "Do Not See" in my phone.  I tell them one time that for whatever the reason was they need to find somebody else.  Then I don't respond to them, no matter how badly I might want to say something in my defense, or about their stupidity...

I can see from the reaction you got here, Tara, that I should be careful what I say.  If someone put a post up about stupid providers, I might take offense.  In fact, people have, and I have been offended.   I wouldn't say it's 1/300, more like 1/4!  Right?   Usually I just say, "Please go to xxx.xxxxxxx.com for entertainment ideas, etiquette and verification information, rates and possible discounts prior to booking your appointment".  If they are new and they don't know that they can't contact me and tell me all about all the sex acts they want to do with me, they can hopefully learn from my website and move on and do better next time.  

That is if they aren't telling me all the sex acts they want to do with me and why I should do that for free because they will also wash my dishes for me!  Tara knows what I mean.

You guys, I'm not, and I'm sure Tara isn't, talking about legitimate clients.  There are some real weirdos out there who become fixated on a certain lady.  And, we have to be so careful what we say!  Just saying what I wrote above, referring people to my website, has resulted in frequent, and terrible emails and texts, like, "how dare you disrespect me, you fucking whore", for NOTHING.  

However, I've traveled to and worked in many cities, at least 10 or 12 different cities, and it's not different anywhere!  It's really not.  

When I am contacted by a client who is actually a member of TER, or one of the other verification sites, who has seen a few providers and therefore knows how to act a little bit, I'm THRILLED.  I also love my job, and I love my clients.  If any of you are reading this thinking, hey, "we hobbyists don't deserve this", I'm NOT talking about you!  I'm talking about stalker type guys that just don't stop...My God!  I've got like three who email or text at least weekly to beg me to see them when I haven't communicated with them at all for over a year.  I have a religious person who texts me again and again every Sunday about how Jesus told him to tell me that he has judged me and found me guilty and if I do not turn away from this life of sin I'm going to hell.

Anyways,
I felt bad seeing Tara getting slammed here for voicing what all providers have to put up with.  I think you guys took it personally when she was not talking about you.  I thought I'd put myself out there and say I know what she's talking about.  

But Fresno and LA are definitely worse!  LOL.  Maybe it's all of California...

I will flip my own Alias: BoredWebSurfer = Drunken Asian

Tara was a blast and I don't understand all the bashing on this thread.  
I had even extended our time from 4 hours to an overnight.

I liked her for her good looks but also her honesty. There's no confusion with her.  She's transparent in a good way and fun to spend time with.  Girls don't get 9s and 10s in review ratings for no reason.  

Sorry to hear some people had bad experiences but I had zero problems. Not sure what the story is with others but my experiences with Tara was great.  I had scheduled in advance and kept my appointment.

I'd think that some basic courtesy/manners would be a given thing when setting up appts and communicating with a lady.  Avoiding explicit or annoying/offensive stuff would help, for starters.

As we parted from the bar, there were several guys checking her out.  
Definitely a head turner worth seeing IMO.

-- Modified on 9/2/2012 6:33:49 PM

You are rude. I will never see you either.

I mean really, I said its easier for WL to work where its legal, if your going to quote me , quote correctly, Jesus, god forbid I have an oopinion

In my case, I have seen your ads and was intrigued and thinking about scheduling.  But this thread totally throws me off wanting to see you.  Who wants to pay for all this attitude and drama?

I've read the thread this really isn't necessary, most of us can figure it out on our own.

-- Modified on 9/3/2012 12:19:13 AM

You may be correct on the text bit, I am really sensitive to text messages and dont encourage them, but emails I do, anyway its not that important , sometimes I think I speak faster than I should think, is what is. All I am happy about is my service , if you meet me and I am not up to scratch then I really will modify where I can, but this drama over silly boys sending endless emails, well , whatever, best client ever.....


"Hi Tara,
I have read all your reviews , and hearing all the details I would need to know I
Like to meet you on tuesday at 8pm for two hours incall
here is my reference xxxxx@xxxxx and xxxxx@xxxxx
and here is my cell phone xxx xxx xxxx xxxx
Please let me know if this is ok and please only text just prior to the booking
If this is ok , can you let me know the area your in so I can prepare my travel

Look forward to meeting"


I can see how that might be difficult

I understand  what you say, but If I have to put up with insults for asking a simple question about people who behave in a manner I find silly. Then dont see me, If you think that a girl cannot ask questions then , dont see me,

The ony drama I get on this thread is from THOSE who have not seen me who I denied service due to bad behaviour or 30 plus emails.

This is not my life, its a hobby, however I take pride in my service , I dont make guys feel intrusive when we meet, I am warm affectionate and very giving,

If you want a starfish in mind and body then dont see me.

I have had the pleasure of seeing Tara,she is sweet ,fun and good at what she does.My only complaint is that she does not communicate very well ,our session was interrupted (not going into detail Tara knows)I texted her after to find out if she was ok etc and she appologise for what happened and promise to get in touch in the near future .........still waiting

There has been nothing attractive about this tirade. I agree that you should stand up for yourself but this wasn't the plce to do it unless one of your goals was to narrow your pool of potential clients.

Yes I do recall a complex day

-- Modified on 9/3/2012 9:49:05 AM

True, but if not here , now, then where and when, Thats whats wrong with this country if you stand up to bullies you get punished... if the comments of time wasters and anon bullies are an influence on clients, then yes best not to see me, there are plenty of girls out there, Im sure all those who reviewed me did so with a gun to there heads. Its not important in the scheme of things, but If I never get another client who is local, then so be it, I wont be silenced by anon bullies or those who lie.

I treat those who see me with respect, I go over and beyond, I always give extra time, I never throw people at right on 60 mins and even that is not enough for some people, give an inch take a mile

I perform services with expertise otherwise my reviews would not be what they are, if thats not enough I can do no more




-- Modified on 9/3/2012 9:45:53 AM

It was your decision to start a controversy when you make a broad statement that does not apply to who knows how many people that  frequent this board.  The drama that has ensued  has gone downhill, doing nothing for you but putting you in a bad light.   It would be prudent of you in the future to not start global war when you are pissed off at a couple of individuals.

Poor Tara, it's her turn now!

Let me say this...at least she is not hidding behind an alias to voice out her opinion.

If she need to voice it out...LET HER!
If you wont see her cause of it...its obviously your loss

San diego, please lets show the other board that we dont lower our self down to a level that is childish!

Respect and love your local providers cause guess what? They love you more!

Yes I am sure I started with personal attacks , I cant believe I am such a horrible person, what was I thinking to even question the greatness that surrounds, I mean I should have know better that part is true, such wonderful people I should have been greatful for the attention that I recieve, I shall move back to my position.  Oddly enough I was looking at meet and greets, thought it would be great to socialize with some of you.

But if I want to be abused for complaining about time wasters I can get that here so why leave the house.

Yes I agree. It's supposed to be 'Ready, Aim, Fire'...

Not ready, aim, aim, aim, aim...  

Personally, I enjoy the "Fire" part of the 'ready, aim, fire' thing.
That's where I 'get off'... lol

Hello madam...

I would like to pay 2x your normal rate for just being my pen pal.  
You never even have to leave your home. You can just type away on your ipad in your underwear.
I may exceed 30 emails in which case you can start charging 3x your normal rate.  I will pre pay with my visa / mastercard. Do you take paypal?

Sincerely,
SomeDumbGuy

I'm sure she'll respond soon

Very true!! Tara gave a lot more fun time than was expected.
Tara is worth seeing boyz!  Her dozens after dozens of stellar reviews speak for itself.

The only words that can accurately describe my time with Tara is : WEEEEEEEE!!!  WEEEE!!!!!!!!!




"I always give extra time, I never throw people at right on 60 mins"

Take this as you will, but I have some limits and despite everything thats thrown I will not be indescrete and explain the in and outs of a booking. You can be a smart arse all you  like , but i will yell and complain about timewasters and anon bullies, but I dont comment on meetings, suffice to say I always offer a full service and dont watch the clock,

some people have a slow watch


enough now , all this has become is opinions from the cheap seats and serves no constructive purpose. It was interesting , gave me a insight into the people on the board, as always some good, some bad , its a mix as life is

All the best, hope to hear from you soon, (just dont send 30 emails an expect me to be cheerful on number 29)

P.S. This thread is available on DVD or download

-- Modified on 9/4/2012 5:54:48 AM

You never met me obviously, judge my skills and how I make you feel.. then make a comment, or please just continue to stroke it .



-- Modified on 9/4/2012 4:56:32 PM

I have to disagree... Whoever the guy is he is just an asshole.

And as far as how great life in San Diego is and the average man being easily distracted.... I think you are speaking for yourself.