Did they become flakes because of the business and the lifestyle?

or

Where they already flakes and it is one of the few professions that has no rules?

Being a flake is subjective to your experience. So unless you've seen 'most' providers, it's rather funny. Not to mention different people have different ideas of a flake. The web doesn't cancel out a ladies right to refuse. So if she's not comfortable and decides not to see you. She's not a flake just careful. There are too many variables. Men are equal in this department ( sudden meetings, double booking, short changing, nerves ),,,, they just arent under the scope to be called flakes as well.

Most providers can easily figure out when a narrow minded loser contacts them ... I know I can!  What you put into the experience of spending time with a provider is what you get back ... need I say more!

Jai is so right, I know that I drove from Huntington Beach last summer to see a client who was a some what 'regular' when I lived down there, and truthfully, it may have been mapquest that screwed me up, I'll never know because he never called me again, but I drove down to see him at his home and the address he gave me was not there?  Another client I used to drive down to see when he came from another State, well he never even called to cancel our appt. but never called once I was down there?  Funny thing is just yesterday that one e-mailed me to see me last night down there and didn't even remember making an appt. with me that he didn't keep last time, needless to say, I would not honor an appt. with him, who needs that?  So, yes, it's both sides.  Girls that don't show up, well, just 'out' them here on the boards, it might help the next guy avoid a bad date?

Your forgetting that most of these providers are in their early 20's and have no clue as to what life is all about. If you look at providers that are in late 20's or 30's you see how they treat this as a business and make you feel important. It can be said about men in their early 20's also. Providers always want older men because young men always play alot of games. So it goes hand in hand with maturity and age and experience.

My experience has been for every ten I have seen one was a flake, and another a semi-flake.  That's a lot less than "most" but maybe I'm just lucky.

I happen to know this guy personally, and he really has had some bad luck with being "flaked on" that had nothing to do with who he is or his reviews or anything he did.  He even went on a recommendation of someone I had reviewed, and the girl flaked on him three times and never even saw him.  Of anyone I know, Pietro has a right to ask this question.

Having said that...Mr. P, no way you could have expected any other response than the one you got on here, given the way you phrased it, my man.  The reality is that you may never find the answer here, and no provider is going to like being categorized like that if they haven't seen you or personally done this.

Hope things get better for ya, my man, and it sounds like there are at least three women on here who would love to prove how reliable they are.

Flakes are my pet peeve.  If a provider flakes on me, I just write them off.  Statistically, I think about 30-50% of the providers are flakes.  It's not like you can call the better business bureau.  

I have heard that clients do the same thing.  I read what sensualgirl says, and it just ticks me off.  I don't get it.  I've had it at work too -- people don't show up, or, people show up 3-1/2 hours late and think that's perfectly fine.  I don't get it.  I personally have never flaked on an appointment.  OK, I've cancelled them, and I've cancelled once or twice at the last minute.  But, I will never understand why people don't call when their plans change.  Ssssss, don't get me started.

I have had the opportunity to personally witness that clients can just as flaky.  It is definitely not fair to generalize, but I have seen more than a handful of guys make appointments, and not keep them, never even try to contact the provider, and then come back again the next week and try to make another appointment.

In my experience, one should always be aware of the confirmation methodology that the provider uses, because most false claims about flakiness result from when a client has his hopes up and does not pay attention to whether or not the provider actually confirmed.

My pet peeve is the way that so many guys ask for an appointment, and don't give a specific day, or time of day even.

Clients need to ask specifically for a day and time, and list their flexibility if possible.  The more information that a client provides without having to be asked is better.

I don't have VIP anymore or I would have pm'd you Otaku, miss you and the rest of the nice one's in S.D., happy Tom Turkey to you and all of my past good clients, Love to you Kristi

that works for me sometimes is to go to Adelitas in TJ.  You walk in.  There are 50 to choose from.  They're going to keep their date, or you just walk downstairs to the bar and try again.  You know what they look like.  Now it IS rushed and all, but if you get a few of these under your belt, you may feel better about your average.  Plus you can have a couple beers and go for seconds with another chica.  We're lucky to have this option for our party mix.  I can't imagine being away from the border...