I can see a provider asking for a deposit for the first time visitor, however these Gift Cards and Zelle transfer seem to be off base. Maybe it's just me being old school. Old School meaning cash is king

Next up is the ever popular habit of using someone else's photo, where a quick google photo search turns up the persons social media page. Seems to a trend amongst several pages which can lead to a scammer taking control with the hobbyist losing out on $$$  simple due to the smaller head thinking more than the bigger head.

Reviews of San Diego and the providers in which living the general area seem to be going the way of the Kgirls nothing wrong with that, just saying.      

 Risks are on both sides of the hobby, A few bad apples can truly spoil the hobby for those trying to get in and understand it fully, without it costing a arm and leg as a learning curve (being Scammed)

The discussion board in general and local like San Diego, will barely cover the fine art of this hobby in which one can truly learn, enjoy and grow. It would seem that there should be a forum, where as those providers that are truly veterans can post lessons to ease the pain and suffering when one becomes taken advantage of simple due to a fantasy which we all know can become very powerful at times.

I would like to hear and get a better understanding of all this and more, maybe it will help those that are coming into the hobby relax and learn more, maybe I'm way off base.

Whatever it be, be safe and enjoy out there..

Thanks for reading and Thanks to those that respond

Was it the grammer?

Is it the sink or swim attitude?

Seriously it’s that simple. I’ve been around for a long time & I consider myself old-school.  I started requiring a deposit to book in 2010. As a single parent I can’t afford to leave the house without a deposit. I have never scammed anyone.

I don’t care about grammar. I care about mutual respect for each other’s time.  This is supposed to be a fun hobby. Cash is no longer King 👑 because we have so many options Zelle, PayPal, cashapp, Venmo, etc…

Hєℓℓo  @Cornerrack,
Intєrєsting  commєntary.... Pєrhaps  rєpost  this  on  thє  "Gєnєral  Board"  to  
rєcєivє  morє  fєєdback,  as  this  "Rєgional  Board'  tєnds  to  bє  lacking.

 
My  intєgrity  and   ωork  єthic,  is  dєfinitєℓy  considєrєd  "0ℓd  Schooℓ"  by  today's  
standards.  
I'm  from  Spain,  whєrє  "0ur  Word  Is  0ur  Bond".

 
0nє's   kindєst  gєsturє  of  submitting  an  advancє~dєposit  is  most  apprєciatєd
and  dєfinitєℓy  єnhancєs  mutuaℓ  trust  ωhich  crєatєs  a  rєℓaxєd  and  uninhibitєd  
tryst!

 
My  quєry  to  anyonє  is;    "Why  ωouℓd  you  schєduℓє  with  a  Providєr  ωhom  is
not  "Rєputabℓє"?"
Thєrє's  litєraℓℓy  thousands  of  ωєℓℓ-rєfєrєncєd  Providєrs  to  choosє  from!  

 
Sincє  thє  Pandєmic,  thousands++  morє  havє  joinєd  this  Businєss;  thus  many,  
somє  unsavoriєs  just  in  it  to  scam,  rob  and  suℓℓy  P4P.

 
Unfortunatєℓy,  ovєr  thє  yєars  prєviousℓy,   I'vє  єncountєrєd  sєєmingℓy  rєspєctabℓє,  
scrєєnєd  Cℓiєnts    ωhom  for   ωhatєvєr  rєason  havє  short-changєd  mє,  outright  
triєd  not  to  compensate  for  my  timє  and  havє  scammєd  mє.

 
I  camє  to  discovєr,  unfortunatєℓy  aftєr-thє-fact,  through  spєaking   ωith  a  mutuaℓ    
Providєr  friєnd...
ωhom  rєfєrєncєd  somє  of  thєsє  guys  to  mє;  
thєy  ωere  "high"  or  knoωn  to  bє  inєbriatєd  ωhiℓst  "Pℓaying".
(Thєir  bєhavior  was  unbєknoωnst  to  mє,  as  I'vє  nєvєr  drank  nor  donє  any  drugs,  
 thus  unaωarє  of  this  common  bєhavioraℓ  tactic)

 
Furthєrmorє,  prєviousℓy,  I  had  a  ℓong-timє,  extrєmєℓy  ωєaℓthy  Cℓiєnt  rєpєatєdℓy  
schєduℓє  ωєℓℓ  in-advancє,  0vєrnight  Datєs  on  Hoℓiday  Wєєkєnds,  ωhєn  Businєss  
is  alωays  at  a  prєmium.    

 
Hє  alωays   follωєd  through  єnjoying   four  lovєly  0vєrnights  and  numєrous  Dinnєr  
Soirєє's  ovєr  thє  couplє  yєars.
Thєn,  things  wєirdly  turnєd;  Hє'd  donє  this  thrєє  timєs;  last-minutє  cancєℓℓing,  
costing  mє  thousands  of  $$$  in  lost  rєvєnuє.  

 
Nєvєr  oncє  did  hє  offєr-up  a  "sorry  gift-card",  nor  any  moniєs  of  compєnsation!
Cєrtainℓy,  I  sєnt  him  a  kind  inquiry  as  to  ωhy  hє  thinks  his  bєhavior  is  єvєr  accєptabℓє?
Hє  rєpℓiєd  in  typicaℓ  "wєaℓthy  speak"....  "0h,  you  missєd  mє  that  much?"
Nєєdlєss  to  say.....  BLOCKED!!

 
Aftєr  this,  I  startєd  impℓimєnting  dєposits,  and  I'ℓℓ  nєvєr  accєpt  an  appointmєnt
without  onє,  no  єxcєptions!

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I wonder how many times a lady loses business because of a deposit requirement?  Been doing this for 15 years and never have, never will do a deposit.

Based on your reviews,it looks like you spend at least some time in the sensual massage world. Sure there are lots of fakes and lots of scammers on rubrankings and other sites, but there are plenty of reviewed providers as well. With a little experience it's not hard to find them.

Just search TER reviews for Massage, no to Escort, and yes to delivers as promised. Even without VIP access this will give you a decent starting point.

Most providers doing massage-only don't require a deposit or intrusive screening (real ID), just a reference or two and you should have those already.

Anyone asking to send a giftcard is probably a scam, especially if they ask at the last minute.  

Learn to use reverse image search. It's not foolproof, but when an ad says "real pics guaranteed" and they're not, run away.  

The fine art takes time to learn. You may need to read back a few years worth of posts here and on the general board to find the tidbits you seek. In the meantime, get VIP, read reviews, use the messaging feature to contact other reviewers, and DON"T pay a deposit or give your real ID.

I'm sometimes torn about whether to post a review from an experience where I essentially "felt scammed".   I recently scheduled with a lady and paid a deposit because she was well reviewed by others where I had overlap with other ladies they reviewed and I generally concurred.   So I felt it was "safe to proceed".    

Long story short, I showed up to meet her and she looked *nothing* like her pics (and the 8/9 ratings, though that is of course *highly* subjective) and I had to leave --- on what I consider to be principle.   I considered the deposit ($$) fair and is what I would have offered upon leaving.

I do believe she was sincere and I did not consider this to be an "intentional scam" and so I did not post a review.   I chalked this up to my tastes differing drastically from others.   Though I am not able to reconcile how others can rate her an 8/9 on looks the same as some other gals --- whom I know match their pics.   Apparently, I'm the odd one ...

I am not sure why anyone here on TER would nor warn others.

This is what I needed, just a little boost that I am going in the right direction. I have read "THIS" forum for days, going back several years. As for VIP i have that.  

Again, thanks for this and it does provide quality insight, using the reverse image on a search engine plays out well. I have absolutely zero issue $$$ wise and those that I have visited for Massage will co-sign that as I always tip very well.  

Working 14plus hours a day in a career that eats most men, the massage is something that is looked forward to, of course the ending is always a relief to.

again, THANK YOU

If I showed up and they didn't look close to their pictures I certainly wouldn't leave a deposit, in that case I felt she wasted my time and she owes me money (not that I'd ever get it).  But walking away is right thing to do...too bad in your case you pre-paid so no options.  

TER ID: 355727

The lady in question is Lexa Haze.   The last reviewer specifically mentions she looks just like her pics, but I strongly disagree.    To top things off, she was an hour late.  So I might have been extra annoyed.   But to be honest, if someone that looks like her pics (on Tryst) showed up, I would have put that aside.

She was very apologetic and seemed sincere in honoring our appointment.   I did not post a negative review because I wonder how picky I may be.