When I first discovered that many pornstars actually escorted, I was like a pig in shit. When I met them, I'd get hard while they were in the bathroom changing into a sexy outfit, or in some cases on the elevator up to their room. The anticipation of what they'd look like when they came into the room, and what we'd be doing in a couple of minutes gave me serious wood.
But now it take actual physical contact to get Mr. Happy's attention. DFK does it for me to be sure.
The truth is that over the last few years, I've had PSEs call me to tell my they were in NYC and invited me up to be with them (for free), and I've actually found myself thinking... "Geez, NYC... it'll take me an hour and a half, and there's the hassle of parking or else taking the train and finding a taxi... and have on several occasions made excuses for not going.
So this hobby has definity jaded me about porn.
Lately, I just don't enjoy porn like I used to. I don't think it has anything to do with the quality of the product; I think I'm just burned out.
Maybe it's because I've fucked over 350 providers during my years in the hobby (351 if you count my ex-wife 
) including more than 60 PSEs, but porn flix simply no longer arouse me without a lot of effort and imagination on my part, even when it stars one of my favorite pornstars.
Admittedly porn itself has gotten boring, but my ennui goes beyond the quality (or lack thereof)of the product.
Don't get me wrong; when I'm with a beautiful woman my lust and desire is still as strong as ever... it's just that I've become terribly jaded when it comes to watching people, even people I know, fuck on film.
Anybody else feeling the same way?
Yes and I believe the problem is that it is suffering from over exposure. Porn use to be something that was taboo and hidden from public consumption.. Now even if your not trying to find it, you stumble upon it. Also, what mountain is there left to conquer? Anal, gangbangs, S&M, what else is there? Nothing new will shock or titillate me. At this point I only use the porn as an advertisement for XXX stars that are available for private sessions.
I feel the same way,no where near your experience and still pretty young so it kinda concerns me.
This might sound crazy but I think I might take a porn hiatus, see if I can reboot so to speak.
Love your blog BTW!
YES! as is my wife..although she has retired, due to the economy, she has had to go back to it and has even said that the producers are even burnt out on it...I think its basically the state of the world that has everyone "down"...as it wil lnever be the good 'ol days again like the past 10yrs, we'll just have to grin and bare it..
it seems the movies, vids and even shows have gotten boring..even to clubs, its like, I might as well talk to the bartender (No offense ladies)
I tend to agree, porn has saturated our lives and the hobby has raised the bar of thrill to unrivaled levels. However, like almost everything in life, it is cyclical. If you let it go, the thrill will come back at some point, and someone will invent something new that would make things more exiting. Culturally, we are at the age of decadence, like we were in the (early) 80's when everyone fucked everyone, only in the cycles are now churning faster. Maybe I am getting too philosophical, but that's just my perspective.
main protagonist fantasying about having sex with her English teacher and her big tits. mmmmm...boobies. In thinking what you said about porn, I think this applies to Hollywood films as well. Both porn and mainstream film producers are appealing more and more to our moronic juvenile instincts. Boring. "Kick Ass" was different than most "juvenile" films because it actually contained the lost art of character development. The result was an intelligent, creative, entertaining and fun film.
In porn, I miss the lost art of the tease.
Yes, I understand in becoming older, I am not like I was when I was sixteen and could get off, from a picture from National Geographic, but nowdays porn has become boring with all the same extremes. Fun, where is the fun in porn?
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I wasn't a fan of the comic, but the changes in the movie turned what the comic stood for on its ear. Katie not only does not date David when his ruse is exposed, she has her new boyfriend beat him up (David's Kick-Ass ID remains a secret in the comic).
but the characters in the comic are much more aggravating than their movie versions. Millar is awful at writing dialogue. The comic book fights are also much more brutal and gory than the movie.
i shudder to think what will replace this malaise
Modern US porn is much too tame. I was watching some Euro-porn from the 70's and 80's and the shit was amusing in its realism. Meaning, that they had various kinds of character actors of all ages as part of the story who did not take part in any of the sex scenes. For example, a movie with a housewife with a side job as a hooker would show her having a home life complete with small children and old in-laws.
I think this is a perceptive post. When I think back on my introduction to audio/visual jerking off, I'm reminded of how exciting R-Rated movies were -- whether mainstream Hollywood, or straight-to-video skin romps.
What always stimulated me the most was sizing up a chick as she came on screen and fomenting a level of enthusiasm for seeing them naked.
If porn had such a quotient to it -- who will and who won't? -- I think there could be a rebirth of this kind of satisfaction in the viewer.
Agree with most of what has been posted but want to add a couple points:
1. Admitting my age, 55, and its impact. My brain still has the habit of watching and enjoying but the body seems to be slow in rising.
2. How many times can you watch the same thing (BJ's, fucking, ass fucking, etc) without a story to it? I can compare techniques or be interested in a new body and , occasionally, someone new will come along to incite but mostly porn is INCREDIBLY redundant.
3. I've said it before and will say it again, We're seduced from the big head down. Porn needs to reduce the production quantity and start producing better movies.
4. Having said all that, it is a the perspective of a 55 year old. What do you think is the perspective of the 25-35 year old guys watching porn? I think the 10-15 minute scenes fit them perfectly and they are the primary audience.
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too many "girl next door porn stars". Seemed like back in the 80's heyday, for example, porn actresses had a certain "exotic" flavor, e.g., Ginger Lynn or Hyapatia Lee. Even more recent starlets like Jenna J. have had that "something different" about them.
For me, the abundance of online quickie porn is basically like watching some neighbor chick get banged by her bf--titillating for a minute, but after a while, same ol', same ol'.........
Ive been kinna bored too! I don't know why??
. . . the new amateur stuff.
I love tapes that actually look like real escorts getting tapped by real guys, or real couples filming themselves for a buck.
I love the reality stuff.
I can't find enough content or enough sites with this stuff to satisfy me.
This porn is not porn with pornstars or Ron Jeremy of whoever, it is reality porn, pure voyeurism, and I love it. The production values don't compare to Digital Playground shooting Stoya (which also gets me off), but even a handheld digital camera is as good a quality as the film in use in the early 80's.
So, if anyone knows where horndogs are downloading reality porn with their hookers, girlfriends, and wives, PM me, cause I am loving that voyerurism....
Some genres i just don't get are the "Gloryhole" type movies...And that "Big Sausage Pizza" series is silly...
I prefer Brazzers, Digital Playground, Vivid, 3rd. Degree Films, New Sensations, Naughty America, Zero Tolerance companies ("Slut & Sluttier" is a good series, forget which company does that, just saw the most recent one, think it was #7)...On the other hand, i can't watch Wicked movies anymore...Yeah, i know "2040" was ok, but i can't get past the condom thing anymore & (i feel the same way on privates, actually more so)...
I actually think porn is better today, there are so many films/genres, there is something for everyone IMO...
hobby, I watch porn now and think, "Dude, I just did that", whereas three years ago it was purest of fantasy.
The unbridled access to porn is something to behold. When I was a teenager, happening upon a porn mag was EPIC good fortune! Most kids wouldn't even give a good skin mag a second look.
Now....teens have it shoved at them from every angle....there's no novelty to it at all.
Finally, the idea that every lady who gets in front of the camera considers herself a porn star--a subject that has been batted around here plenty--is just ridiculous.
There are two life cycles to porn...yours as an individual consumer and the evolution of the industry.
Nothing today will ever compare to seeing the explicit spread of a Oui or Club centerfold while still a virgin or watching Ginger Lynn in her prime as a college freshman, but that is a reflection on me, not porn.
I comment as much as anyone on the lack of plots today, but honestly, I don't think I ever made it through a full DVD.
I dropped out of porn for a long time. The the reality trend hit and I was briefly suckered in until I realized those girls were actresses too. Then I dropped out again until I discovered this site.
Porn today is more like an online shopping site for me...who is that?, does she provide? I get my thrills from seeing a hot new girl and thinking about seeing her. I only watch the full scene in order to get a sense of what she is like.
What they do in most of these videos is an abomination and poor kids today have no idea how to really fck cause they all think what they see on screen is real. Shame.
It does not seem like there is much further to go in shock value. I imagine/hope we will see the pendulum swing to more realistic productions as it seems there is demand.
Maybe that's because you've had TOO MUCH. 350 providers, 60 PSE ? Wow, I wish that was me.
I actually still get a kick out of porn and get turned on before a PSE date watching scenes.
I am more selective of the PSs I see and am probably more jaded about seeing them and dealing with missed flights, and substance abuse rather than their scenes.
When I first discovered that many pornstars actually escorted, I was like a pig in shit. When I met them, I'd get hard while they were in the bathroom changing into a sexy outfit, or in some cases on the elevator up to their room. The anticipation of what they'd look like when they came into the room, and what we'd be doing in a couple of minutes gave me serious wood.
But now it take actual physical contact to get Mr. Happy's attention. DFK does it for me to be sure.
The truth is that over the last few years, I've had PSEs call me to tell my they were in NYC and invited me up to be with them (for free), and I've actually found myself thinking... "Geez, NYC... it'll take me an hour and a half, and there's the hassle of parking or else taking the train and finding a taxi... and have on several occasions made excuses for not going.
So this hobby has definity jaded me about porn.
Couple of Thoughts - Points
Like anything else the more players in the game, the less top grade entertainment you get. It was great when Pornstar’s actually made it a career like the Amber Lynn’s, Ginger Lynn’s, Christy Canyon’s. Now we have a make a quick buck attitude in Pornstar’s that make films and escort. It even seems like most Pornstar’s don’t even enjoy getting fucked on film these days!
Porn was better when it was fantasy. I met my ATF and was completely let down not from the sex, but from who she was and how she acted. Not true for all. Porn is better as a fantasy, not as so much as a reality. Unless you can form a friendship like FastEddie has with many.
Once you've seen every which way people can have sex and seen (and done) it multiple times, it's gonna get boring. But, let's face it - most mainstream movies and TV shows are boring, too. There's just too much "glut of product" out there for any of it to be exciting.
Now excellent vodka martinis made by someone who knows what they're doing - those still get me excited!
it is very boring. I would much rather see some extended foreplay with clothes on. Lot of groping, kissing, slow removal of clothes. And, girls should have on underwear!!!!!!! So should the guys. Let's face it, how many people in the real world do not wear underwear.
Let's see the guy struggling to remove a bra, sliding the panties down after getting of the skirt or jeans. How about showing the condom being put on the guy, instead of all of a sudden, it's magically there.....
Girls, make the dialogue seem a bit more real. A lot of what the girl says is just bullshit, like she is just reading a script. I know she is supposed to be one of the new hot stars, but Bree Olson has no dialogue acting skills IMHO. Go ahead and flame me, but that's my opinion.
Swim
At least in porn movies.
Panties are a useless symptom of consumerism.
I then tend to go to my stash of old 70's & early 80's porn movies. They are chock full of not so perfect people, laughable scripts and dated surroundings (clothing, cars, hair) which to me makes for interesting and refreshing viewing. Its the same for me when listening to music or watching mainstream films, when it all starts looking or sounding the same just go back to the "early" classics and change it up a bit.
Peace
I see another hot scene between two hot Czech or Hungarian chicks with jet black hair and bodies that would make angels weep. I think it's the eternal ability of humans to renew and refresh themselves. If we weren't capable of that we probably couldn't get out of bed in the morning.