Is that a guess or a fact? Either way, I think you are right.

Since they don't test for it, it's reasonable to conclude that most people have it by now. My guess as to the motive would be cost saving. Since they didn't do STD test before the law requires it, they are probably doing the minimum of what the law requires now. Yes, I am scared, but that doesn't mean I can't have fun. I just need to be smart. As long as I am willing to pay, I don't think it would be a problem if I request cfs, cbj, and no daty.

I think you need to talk to your doctor again. Sorry, but this isn't quite right, or at least it isn't the whole story. It's true that STD panels often don't include HSV for a variety of reasons. However, I believe folks in the hobby should take a bit of a closer look.

There ARE type specific blood tests for HSV1 and HSV2. (Yes, there is a certain rate of false positives and negatives as with almost any test, but there are ways to confirm if a question is raised.) Either type can be either oral or genital infection, but 1 is usually oral and 2 is almost always genital.

Testing for HSV1 is not commonly done because it is quite prevalent, and the majority of infections are oral rather than genital infections (Though this is starting to change, presumably because oral sex has been gaining popularity.) and have minimal serious complications.  

HSV2, often called genital herpes, can be a little more serious, but is much less common and the majority of cases are genital infections rather than oral.

CDC does not recommend type specific preventative testing in the general population because of all this.  And because of that, doctors can't usually get it done. Basically, doctors can't get the insurance companies to do anything without a "good reason", noted as a code on a form somewhere. However, that is for the general population, notice that testing is recommended for individuals with multiple sex partners.

If you were open with your doctor about the hobby and he or she still brushed off the HSV question, you may try another doctor. Or, depending on where you live, you may be able to just go to a lab and self request it. You'd just have to pay for it.

It is believed to be extremely common for people infected with HSV2 to be unaware of the infection, or at least to have never gotten a clinical diagnosis. Asymptomatic cases do exist, and in those cases the person is shedding virus on about 10% of days. If the risk is there, nothing wrong with running a test.

Not trying to freak anyone out. We all know this comes with risk, it's all about minimizing risk and deciding what level of risk is acceptable to us. At any rate, a little surveillance occasionally is a good idea.