have the sex first which is what you are paying for and then go do what you want to do on the date.  If things go well on the date, you may even have more sex after but at least you will have gotten what you paid for if she disappears in the middle of the date.

Everything else is gonna be a problem for someone if you two don't know each other.  If you give her the money upfront, then you are gonna wonder if she is going to disappear on you.  If you don't give her all the money upfront, (say 50% before 50% after) then she is going toknow you don't trust her which is not going to make for a relaxed date.

I suppose you could tell her you are going to give her the money at the end as that is what you are used to doing and maybe she will think that is the conventional thing to do but if not, you have put the trust issue right out there.

So have sex with her first, give her the cash and then if she walks, then she wouldn't have been much fun on a date anyway.
IMHO

Have fun

BTW the first weekend I spent with my last ATF, I gave her all the money upfront and then had to come and go throughout the weekend leaving her alone.  I sweated that first day and a half thinking she was going to bolt on me but she stayed the whole time.  I would really try to set it up so you are the one comfortable with the arrangement.  Afterall you are the one paying the money.

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Hun, just a bit of simple homework should ease your fears. There are very few ladies that would ever do that to you. Just be sure to book one that is well reviewed, and then you will have nothing to worry about. The way it "should" be. *Big Smile*

Sweet dreams ...  XOXOX

~ Lorsha

Many of us provide dinner dates,overnights and such. As my website has the info on how I expect the envelope on the counter in the bathroom. I have been burned once when I was new. So money up front.
We still must check each other out when We accept dates or for you guys. do your research first.
Why should I do a movie or dinner with you and then you suddenly you do not feel well. And want to call of date? I booked ypou for x ampunt of time. I am compinsated for that.
It is sad to say many guys have done some really shady things for women not to do money after a date...
I understand ladies as well can have a bad streak. So that is what is so fanulous abput this board....
If she is a rip off ..Her name will go on blast....
Just read up..And good luck..My favorite dates involve longer periods of time with a gent... Like a real date... With desert topping !!!!

Yeah, I wouldn't even think about something like that unless the lady had impeccible reviews. Most ladies prefer the money upfront, so the better the reviews, the less chance of a ripoff.

I don't like sex on a full stomach anyway, so I don't have to worry about it.

Ready posts here in TER I believe you couldn't go wrong with the following.

Robbin Young
Bridgette Monroe
Stevie
Kathy Willets
Ashley Shye

I think if you left them alone too long you might walk in on them with their favorite toy but not bolting on you.  And don't take them bowling please, they can find the right size ones just fine without tossing them around wooden lanes.

Thanks Drlongtonguemd

You can discuss how the payment arrangement will be taken care of in advance if you want. I've done a few dinner dates, though never w/ a PS. I've met them at their place, paid for the cab to/from the hotel, paid for the lunch/dinner, then back to their place. Then I leave the envelope w/ the donation money in it and go from there. I've never had an issue w/ that arrangement.

Unless she's VERY well reviewed and reputable I wouldn't give her the cash before hand. Then again, if you haven't seen her before personally, I prob wouldn't give it to her regardless. Just a safety thing on my part.