Much has been said about rates the girls charge on this board, and this post is not about "how much". But rather for both hobbyists and providers, if you found a "partner" you enjoyed consistently, would you as a hobbyist, put a girl on retainer, and as a provider, is a retainer something a girl would want to commit to accepting?

the client pays a fixed lump sum every month and gets up to a certain (and in some cases unlimited) amount of time to spend with the gal?

Or do you mean in the sense that a lawyer requests a retainer?

The former happens quite a bit; but I never heard of the latter, and that seems a bit clunky to me too.

Interesting question.I am awaiting responses.

It worked out great for both of us for about a 18 months.  I was getting a really good deal for the amount of time we were spending together, she had a steady source of income that she could rely on every month; and we had a hell of LOT of fun together.

But, when things went south, as they inevitably will, it was a very difficult situation for me to extricate myself from and in fact, I’m not even 100% certain that I’ve accomplished that yet.

This sounds to me no different than a Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy kind of relationship.

If you want that sort of thing, there are plenty of sites where you can find ladies who are looking for that and are far, far, less expensive to have "on retainer" than porn stars.  I searched once a while ago and found a girl willing to be (or at least claim to be) "exclusive" to me for $1000/month.  She'd be there whenever I wanted for whatever I wanted.  For various reasons, I decided not to go through with it but this sort of thing is there if you want it.

Yes.Exactly what do you mean. I took it as you g etting  retained to help provider with clients

I had a Playmate move to FL and we had an exclusive relationship for a monthly allowance.  We were starting to get serious and I backed off, mostly because of the age difference.  But it went on 18 months and each day was incredible.  We spent 2-3 nights a week together.

She wasn't a porn star but I had established a very good rapport with a UTR provider.   I don't know if it would be considered a retainer but we discussed me "pre-purchasing" my sessions in bulk for a significantly discounted rate.  

I knew the risks but had gotten to know each other really well at this point and she had shared so much personal information with me I didn't think she would risk taking advantage.  So I went for it and it was great.  Each of our sessions was better than the previous and there was no envelope exchange which made it feel more like a GFE.

She moved away for her "real" but we're still in touch.  She mentioned that her day job might take her back to NY and I've thought about suggesting a more "exclusive" arrangement in exchange for a monthly contribution towards her expenses, but haven't decided yet.

We'll see.

These sites are actually good dating sites.  I tried match.com and found you had to sift through 200 emails to get one prospect. The women on the S/D sites are all attractive, nice and even upscale.  There are very few "professionals" and if you don't mind getting emails periodically from girls in the Ukraine, it can be good.  I actually had a short relationship with a lady I met though one of those sites.  No allowance or gifts were ever discussed or exchanged.  She just wanted to be with me.  She made her own living and had her own money, she just wanted a professional guy who was not a deadbeat. The relationship went great until she realized that I was an unprofessional deadbeat.

Good advice from someone experienced in the industry. Much better to enjoy then field.

Interesting experience.Wish i could be that lucky

i should give something like this a try. Any particularly good SD sights?

www.sugardaddyforme.com  and www.sugardaddie.com

I never new a sugar daddy relationship had to be exclusive between the two, just that it had to place some level of priority that the two agreed upon.

I've never done it, but that was my understanding.

I did in one situation have a relationship with a provider were I paid a minimum amount when we saw each other, but we would basically hang out as long as we felt like and had time for in that moment.

In fact I recently saw her during a business trip for the first time in over a year. I'd checked into my hotel and she was actually scheduled to check out of her current room that day and shift to another one.

Since I was going to be out most of the day on business we decided that she would just stay with me in my hotel for a couple days and work from my room. She did mostly outcalls but also a few incalls while I was out. She made money, saved money on the room rate for two days and again I paid her the same minimum amount I always did and she hung out with me in the evenings and we spent 3 nites together that way. I took her out to one of my favorite spots to hear music, eat, bought drinks etc.

But at no point would I ever assume to ask that our relationship become exclusive.

Before I left, we discussed taking one of those caribbean cruises together, where again, I'll pay our minimum agreement and take care of the rest.

I have thought about this.  I would love this type of relationship.  Not in my financial cards, at this time.  If I ever get to the point I can do that, I will.
Got to find the right(in more ways than one) lady, though.

Not a pornstar but did have a longer term arrangement with a lady. It was not exclusive but it allowed for much more time together than would have been possible otherwise. Worked well for both of us.

For a period of 6 years I went from a casual hobby relationship with a gentleman that I initially met here on TER to a more advanced relationship where I was on a monthly retainer. It worked out great for both of us... We adjusted the terms of the retainer over time as initially, I had been seeing him when I traveled into New York on tour. It became more difficult when I was traveling here on tour to block out a period of time for him when I would otherwise be "working...." so I started making special trips JUST to see him instead. I'd also take business trips with him and we'd talk almost daily. It became a relationship beyond the retainer and was certainly a wonderful experience for us both. Over time, when he developed deeper feelings than his marital status would allow, he ended our arrangement and offered me a severance package so I would have time to adjust my finances.

There were lots of things we learned along the way. Our arrangement was never designed to prevent me from working, but merely to supplement my income & base bills and make my life a little easier. It also allowed him to eliminate the financial exchange at the time of getting together. Would I do it again? Sure... but as with this gentleman, it would have to be someone that I truly enjoy spending time with and have a connection to outside the bedroom.

add: Ironically, this gentleman is no longer hobbying, no longer married, and is still one of my very close friends. He was recently at my home last Thanksgiving with my then partner and my kids. Our arrangement allowed us to build a friendship that certainly has lasted for many years...

I usually work this when I meet a younger lady (usually a non-professional) who is strapped for cash or just looking to do more than her budget allows.  I usually give them a personal assistant position with the upfront understanding that most of their "assisting" will take place in a social setting.  I simply say I am very busy (which I am) and that I like to have a friend to hang out with.  Usually within the first two outings we are physical and I have never had an issue.  Have only had one girl (out of several) who seemed genuinely shocked that I would be interested in her physically.    

You just need to be very upfront, lots of innuendo and also not expect them to be faithful - they won't.  And when their attentions start to wander... just tell them you are reorganizing, met someone, etc...  give them a nice severance package and move on to the next.

Along the same lines to an extent.  Has anyone tried "whatsyourprice.com?"  Curious how it worked out.

Nice but probably unusual arrangement

And to be honest it is a lot cheaper than seeing regular escorts or porn stars..You can get an overnight with a decent looking lady for about $500-$700 or two nights for around $1,000-$1,200..Of course if they live out of town you have to pay for their traveling expenses. Some girls on that site will not even take $ but to justify they want their expenses paid and shopping.

Rusty

And met a freak.She gave me anal and everything for $300 and she stayed overnight. Another site I am trying now is www.seekingarrangment.com  you just put in what your budget is and the girls will email you.

R

have a thick skin and expect the worst that the lady will not be faithful even though you are giving her an allowance. I met this girl  who told me she was getting 6K a month but she could not see anybody else. I asked her if the guy was allowed to see other ladies and she said "Yes'. I warned her that if meets someone younger that he will probably bail out. Of course a month later she calls me and says he bailed for a lady 10 years younger than her.

R

Interesting post and responses.  I would like to try the experience.  With me, I am not looking for exclusivity.  Just to build a friendship/relationship.

Agreed. I would be nice.

Does anyone know if PLaymate Tiffany Taylor provides? I'm in LA on n off for the next year, bummer!