i don't know why you couldn't PM me. i just checked my VIP membership bank and it's full up to a year (thanks to de-PSE-ification)  maybe it was a comsic ray and/or a server hiccup/burp ... i'll PM your TER handle or you can email me at: "the singleton ian @ yahoo . com"

your case - a hobbyist who does it with his S/O interests me a lot (as a batchelor, it gives me hope that one day i too could brainwash my future ex-wife into doing it) ... in fact, there used to be a very distinguished TER member who posted under the alias "MyLifeAsMe" who "co-hobbied" with his wife, and she also  preferred he didn't post reviews.  i think he's since retired. shame, cuz his hobby wisdom is sorely missed these days