And this could be the most strangely amusing thread on the board based on the hysterical overreaction I'm getting.Maybe a little background is required,at the risk of not being 'normal' or possibly 'creepy',so I'll go ahead with it.A yr ago I posted a innocuous thread about Dee on TER that of all the porn stars,she stood out and I remembered her fondly as I'm sure a few people (maybe you but might be too 'normal' for you lol)felt the same way about her or any 'favorite'.Now between the last time I was on here and now,she didn't cross my mind.I'm not a regular on the boards,having only paid three monthly memberships since 2008 and posted maybe a dozen msgs.I'm sure there are regulars on here all the time numerously posting msgs about escorts but I don't question how creepy or not normal they are even if society at large might want to.At any rate,I digress.I was emailing a co-worker and we chatted about porn star faves and Dee came up in the conversation.We both agreed she was one of our faves.I made the joke she completely disappeared and joined a convent.He told me that she actually still interacts with fans on a website but wasn't sure what she does now.(if she did cam shows for example)That's where I ended up joining the website to find out what she's up to and maybe enjoy learning her views about the industry and other things related.At the risk of putting my 'normalacy' on the line and turning 'creepy' I looked at Dee's section of the Risque.com website and found its msgboard.Reading its rules and getting a welcome from the chief moderator of the board to ask anything I want(yes that's what he said.Insane isn't it? lol)I followed that lead.So understandably one would get the impression that I could ask questions and damn,even ones within reason.So I'm assuming,I might be wrong here so please correct me,I could ask her some things like religion,to her directing in porn or what she might be doing now after porn.All of these things she could simply answer or just say I won't go into that.Now I told her if my questions got too personal,just let me know and she responded of course but didn't until I PMed to her I was no longer interested in continuing when she kept giving me intentionally silly answers or no response at all.FINALLY she reveals that she didn't answer personal questions then saying bye bye.After this I had a brief correspondence with Lucky,one of the other moderators on the board which didn't resolve anything.
Thus ended my 'creepy' adventure.
I came on here to be out of the norm and be creepy with everyone else to check out Bethany Benz and maybe a few other nearby escorts where I live to see what their reviews are and had this 'brilliant' idea to bring up my prior experience with Dee on this board.WOW!!! the overreaction I been getting has been awe inspiring. lol Actually I'm creeped out by that.
I posted a thread about the porn star Dee last year and I just stumbled upon what she's been up to and where she's been.Dee retired from porn in 2007 as a director and performer with no interest in coming back.She lives near the coast in California and her only web presence is on the website Risque.com where they have a Deesclub section as her 'official' webpage.They have archival blog entries and pics going back over 10 yrs with some video including her stint as co-host of a KSEX radio show she did in the early 2000s and adult videos she was involved with.The website also features several other porn stars such as Inari Vachs but most of them are retired like Dee and Inari.Risque.com is also linked to a sister website called 247adultstars.com out of the UK.
Dee has no facebook or twitter and has a lapsed MySpace acct,with her only interactivity with anyone on the website msgboard and it isn't with regularity either.She does no cam shows or has current explicit photo spreads,just what's shown in the archival blog entries.You can't email her,you have to reach her via the msgboard and at best can be a disappointing experience if you want to find out about her based on my experiences.While the website isn't a total rip-off or falsely advertised one,it's safe to say it wasn't worth it for me to charge $20 on my credit card for a month long membership.
Now she did answer the first few questions I posted on the board--answering she isn't religious,thinks people don't enter the porn industry because of bad childhoods but motives ranging from money to sex,that abuse is everywhere including Hollywood where they hide their problems only to write a book about it later and make millions while the porn industry is easier to pick on due to stigma.She also enjoyed directing over performing and met a lot of great people in the industry.
Then I asked about Rob,her ex-husband and former manager who she entered the business with at 18 and I got the silent treatment from Dee all of the sudden.I apologized through private message and she seemingly accepted but it was all downhill anyway.She either didn't respond at all or if she did,it was curt,evasively non-responsive answers.So I just said the hell with it.I later contacted 'Lucky' who moderates the msgboard through email and he later explained to me that he advised her sometime ago to give broad,general answers due to an influx of PMs she was receiving and being overwhelmed by.Dee,in her last post to me before getting ahold of Lucky,said in CAPS she doesn't discuss her personal life ever.Even as innocous as wondering if she is going to school to pursue an education.
Disappointing as all that was and wishing I had rather not experienced what little she revealed to me in a rude way,at least she is surviving just fine but I guess we'll have to fill in the blanks as to what definition of 'fine' that is.
Just to add what I posted,according to them because I asked,they said she never escorted although I think that might be hard to believe on the surface.
Unless a retired pornstar has an official active website, an official twitter, facebook, or known to see fans privately....it is safe to assume for privacy reasons they do not want to be contacted.
Just to add further,maybe retired porn stars shouldn't be in the business of posting on a website's public msgboard interacting with people who PAID for the privilege to access and EXPECTING questions to be answered.No written rules for this newbie about what was inappropriate on the board at all,NONE.I had to find out as I went along which is rather silly.Keep in mind that all the questions were NON-SEXUAL in nature,NOT EXPLICIT in any way.The one question that supposedly got me in 'trouble' was my asking about her ex-husband Rob who was her manager at the time she entered the adult biz at 18.I asked if it was entirely her decision to enter the business,that's all.She stopped responding,I PMed her sensing I might of struck a nerve unintentionally and apologized.I even threw in the caveat if I ask anything too personal just let me know.She responded back accepting the apology and recommended I PM her instead of posting on the board.Good!Everything's right with the world again!I think....
When I asked her about her preferring directing over performing and racism in the industry,she didn't respond for three days until I PMed back again.The only reason I did was she posted three msgs on the board but didn't respond back.So I simply asked "would you still be interested in continuing"with me or not.If she simply said no or didn't respond I would of moved on.However,she posted 'we can continue...' I wasn't exactly elated at this point,more like confused.So just to see how this would go,I PMed her again with DIFFERENT questions this time like are you taking collge courses after you retired and was your family religiously devout or Catholic(coming from the south of the US,chances are you are Catholic in some way are pretty good)and how did that influence your decision to enter the biz.She PMed back not answering the college courses question and being non-responsive to my religious ones saying 'religion doesn't play a role in my life.My personal beliefs are very different.' Already sensing this wasn't going nowhere,I tried one more time,making the questions even more inoffensive and simple.I followed up in my next PM if she was an atheist or agnostic--no response!A couple days passed when she posted on the msgboard but ignored PMing me so I ended the nonsense.I PMed my dissatisfaction formally telling her she should of been honest in discontinuing instead of stringing me along for no apparent reason.Her last PM was that she didn't discuss her personal life (in CAPS).Now she tells me after all this time!Might of helped THE FIRST TIME when I brought it up in an apology.She also said she is busy...okay fine but you had time to post on the msgboard but couldn't spare a min to answer a couple of questions from my PM?Finally she sarcastically concludes:'have a nice day and it was nice talking to you'.Well,I had to say goodbye in my own way so I left her with this:'It was not nice talking to you and we know the feeling is mutual'.
It's none of your fkin business what she does or how she 'feels' about anything. Are you a reporter? Stalker? Because, you sound like a bit of both. What's up with all you loons being from Ohio? Geez...
Rusty.... it's dickheads like you that adult entertainers don't respond to fan mail.. do everyone a favor GET A FUCKING LIFE. AND MIND YOUR OWN FUCKIN BUSINESS....YOU ARE CUCKOO FOR COCOA PUFFS AND SHIT
I got a life dude,thanks.If you don't give a fuck then maybe you shouldn't reply.Simple.
How so?Do I have 'stalker' tendencies now? lol I gave detail to a disappointingly bad experience on a paid website's msgboard which featured a porn star I liked('was' due to the experience,I could care less now)and got the impression I could ask questions.It didn't turn out that way and I was unfairly strung along which I took exception to and regret the charge on my credit card.So how is this creepy?Did I ask for her address?Did I ask did she have a boyfriend?No,just stuff in general and she couldn't give me a straight answer so I ended it.
This could be the creepiest thing I have ever read.
Normal people wouldn't know or care if/when some pornstar retired. Most of us just watch a video and then forget about it. We don't obsess about the actors. And we don't find out where retired actors currently live. And then join an actor's website and proceed with 1000 questions and expectation that she owes him answers beyond the pictures and videos that he's $20 buys him.
Like I said, creepy.
And this could be the most strangely amusing thread on the board based on the hysterical overreaction I'm getting.Maybe a little background is required,at the risk of not being 'normal' or possibly 'creepy',so I'll go ahead with it.A yr ago I posted a innocuous thread about Dee on TER that of all the porn stars,she stood out and I remembered her fondly as I'm sure a few people (maybe you but might be too 'normal' for you lol)felt the same way about her or any 'favorite'.Now between the last time I was on here and now,she didn't cross my mind.I'm not a regular on the boards,having only paid three monthly memberships since 2008 and posted maybe a dozen msgs.I'm sure there are regulars on here all the time numerously posting msgs about escorts but I don't question how creepy or not normal they are even if society at large might want to.At any rate,I digress.I was emailing a co-worker and we chatted about porn star faves and Dee came up in the conversation.We both agreed she was one of our faves.I made the joke she completely disappeared and joined a convent.He told me that she actually still interacts with fans on a website but wasn't sure what she does now.(if she did cam shows for example)That's where I ended up joining the website to find out what she's up to and maybe enjoy learning her views about the industry and other things related.At the risk of putting my 'normalacy' on the line and turning 'creepy' I looked at Dee's section of the Risque.com website and found its msgboard.Reading its rules and getting a welcome from the chief moderator of the board to ask anything I want(yes that's what he said.Insane isn't it? lol)I followed that lead.So understandably one would get the impression that I could ask questions and damn,even ones within reason.So I'm assuming,I might be wrong here so please correct me,I could ask her some things like religion,to her directing in porn or what she might be doing now after porn.All of these things she could simply answer or just say I won't go into that.Now I told her if my questions got too personal,just let me know and she responded of course but didn't until I PMed to her I was no longer interested in continuing when she kept giving me intentionally silly answers or no response at all.FINALLY she reveals that she didn't answer personal questions then saying bye bye.After this I had a brief correspondence with Lucky,one of the other moderators on the board which didn't resolve anything.
Thus ended my 'creepy' adventure.
I came on here to be out of the norm and be creepy with everyone else to check out Bethany Benz and maybe a few other nearby escorts where I live to see what their reviews are and had this 'brilliant' idea to bring up my prior experience with Dee on this board.WOW!!! the overreaction I been getting has been awe inspiring. lol Actually I'm creeped out by that.
There is nothing strange or amusing about your original post or this thread. You are simply an obsessed fan of a woman who shot porn and then moved on to try and have a normal life outside of the industry. She had sex in front of a camera for money. It was a long time ago. She doesn't care about you or any of her "fans". Get over it. Move on.
I get the hint of the overreaction so far which I find amusing.I didn't have the expectation of this being of Hindenburg proportions-'Oh the humanity' that is my tragic woe.A retired porn star I had liked enough to give a damn about---made me say DAMN!---suddenly made me stop giving a damn.Now carefully note I call this 'disappointing' on a few occasions but I guess my use of CAPS on some words gave that 'obsessed fan' feel I suppose. lol At any rate,that was the point to this pointless story.As with most of us human beings who have a job(especially),odds are very good that someone like me has a life we 'move on' to so no need to preach to the choir here.This was a recent event that just ended a day before I got on here as a member and thought would be an interesting conversational thread.The expectation,if I had any,was an 'Ah geez,you got screwed.Too bad' or I guess maybe 'you'll live' kind of reaction.Hence my amusement when the reaction was completely different but no matter.To conclude,if a retired porn star is pursuing a normal life outside the industry(to the point of complete break)and doesn't give a damn about 'fans' then it might be a good idea for her not to present herself in a manner opposite of that.
Obviously, you are NOT understanding what everybody is trying to tell you. In your sick mind, this is normal. IT'S NOT!!!
Get over her, leave your parent's basement once in a while, get some fresh air, and find a hobby other than stalking former pornstars.
I hope Bethany is reading this and completely ignores you or she could be next.
In a couple of days I will have spent as much time on this TER board as I did on the msgboard with that porn star I'm 'stalking',what's her name?I forget...and have posted more msgs on this board in the past few days than the msgboard with 'you-know-who'.Sounds like if I'm obsessed with anything,it's answering entertainingly dumb posts like this.Now it's not possible that I'm living in my parent's basement because they been dead for years so you might want to not wear your tin foil hat so tightly as to cut off the circulation to your brain,bud.I think the message of moving on is a concept we can both agree on but having moved on already you might want to start thinking that yourself.With nothing more that is left of this thread,making the transistion to moving on might be the 'fresh air' that you need.
LOL Okay,I might just do that. Thanks.
Dude you gotta get a life. This is embarrassing. To all of us.
Dude,prove you got a life and quit responding to this thread.There's nothing more to see and do here.
Ooops,accidently hit something and it posted by mistake.Anyway,to conclude this thread,I think I'll post the top ten porn stars that stood out to me...(physical appearance wise)
10-Jazmine Cashmere
9-Victoria Zdrok
8-Angel Kelly
7-Tera Patrick
6-Dahlia Grey
5-Bella Moretti
4-Nina Mercedez
3-Bethany Benz
2-Daisy Marie
1-Dee
Unless anyone else wants to add their own list,I guess this concludes this particular thread.
Well, I actually appreciate the update. I appreciated her work when she was active. I wish you would have asked more about escorting. However, your Top ten list only drives home the impression that you are likely too obsessed with her. I think you should just move on. Ironically, any chance that she would provide was probably ruined by you, since I am sure you scared the hell out of her.
Actually this top ten list was to change the subject to 'favorite porn stars' which maybe should of been posted in another thread.I think it's a no-brainer that I would put my favorite at the top of the list and I'm no longer entertaining the stupidity of accused 'obsessiveness' or otherwise.If everyone who responded to the thread is beyond understanding my obvious explainations then I think it should be more than just me 'moving on' from this thread at this point.
As for her escorting,there isn't much to talk about.I didn't ask her personally about escorting(you would think my being 'obsessed' I would ask her first thing)and only asked one of the moderators of the website msgboard when we exchanged emails when the subject came up.He said she never did.So I didn't blow any chance of her wanting to escort because it wasn't there in the first place.I didn't 'scare' her at all,it was more like irritate at worst when she ceased replying back due to,I believe,asking about if she entered the industry by her choice or her ex-hubby's(who was her manager at the time).At that point I apologized and she accepted.What got me 'irritated' was being strung along needlessly which everyone 'off-the-radar-screen' misses the point of.I asked if she wanted to continue(thinking maybe she really didn't want to PM me anymore),she said yes but kept giving me insultingly dumb non-responses or along with the not replying back at all at times...so I ENDED it.God,it's a bizarre conclusion by everyone who responded to this thread---since when do accused 'obsessed stalker types' voluntarily END communicating with someone their obsessed with?You got me,pal. lol
So unless we can post about something different,then we should declare last rites to this thread and "move on",shall we say. lol