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A definite YES!

Toys add to any experience, if its a hobby or a relationship, but with one caveat- it shouldn't become a substitute to the real thing, it should remain as a complement to the experience.

As for when to introduce the toy, it really depends on the provider's style so the reviews will give you a feel for that.  If she is a real PSE and her reviews include toys, than by all means go for it.  I brought a toy with me the first time I met a provider, and I did it with more than one.  I knew they would like it, and we had a lot of raunchy fun with it.  If she is more of a GFE, you need to build the trust and it may take more than the first session.  

When choosing what toy to bring, I have 3 rules:
1) Nothing bigger than my dick, or big enough that it can whack someone out cold
2) No rabbit type dildos, they make the guy obsolete
3) It has to be something that enhances stimulation for both the lady and me

Taylor Wane and I were eating dinner with another couple one night and when the waiter came by she asked him to box up a lobster tail shell and a little container of sesame seed oil.  The perplexed waiter asked why she would want the shell and oil and she said to him, looking over at me "because I plan on shoving it up his ass later when we get back to the room".  The waiter went ghost white, we all cracked up and my asshole puckered just a little.


Dinner for four at Nobu, $750
Look on the waiter's face, priceless