I totally agee with you that it is riduculous. Listen, with some of the crazy stuff out there however, i can see women hating porn. I also can see those frigid women who don't let themselves go and relax sexually, also hating porn because their husbands or boyfriends want them to do some of that. But watching a porn dvd is cheating, that's just nuts and i agree with you that it's just dumb.
Today I was talking with a group of women ( who don't know I am a former escort) and some of them were condemning porn to be immoral. They said if a man watches porn and he is married, he is cheating. I find this view to be ridiculous. To me, porn is campy and fun and done right, very erotic and can turn me on. I actually like porn more then my husband! LOL. Anyone else encounter these types of views from women or even other men?
There two school of thought in USA about women and pornography; both emerged on the edge of the 1970s feminist movement. The anti-pornography group included Catharine MacKinnor and Andrea Dworking...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catharine_MacKinnon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrea_Dworkin
Both influenced directly the rise of the Anti-pornography movement in the 1980s and 1990s...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-pornography_movement
The most radical critique of this line of thought has been parcelled out by the NYC Law scholar Nadine Strossen...
http://www.nyls.edu/faculty/faculty_profiles/nadine_strossen
I always been a sympathizer of Strossen's work, and others scholars who have centered the idea that sex and porn are one of the supreme inaliable rights that a body has: namely, to express itself and enjoy pleasure (and pain if necessary). As the french philosopher Michel Foucalt wrote some time ago the history of sexuality is very much a history of repression...our most intimate space, the body has been tortured around this idea of repressive conduct, which produce the kind of thinking at the base of the anti-pornography movement...
Women in porn simple produces their freedom of using their body as form of self-expression, a freedom that it is constituted aorund the supreme right to use your body the way you want....
BM
Unfortunately, there is a significant number of women, including some former porn stars, and former escorts who have campaigned against pornography, including Linda Lovelace and:
http://abclocal.go.com/kfsn/story?section=news/local&id=7742883
http://noapologies.ca/daily-news/former-porn-actress-tells-men-to-stop-looking-at-pornography
http://www.sodahead.com/entertainment/jan-meza-former-porn-actress-fights-to-get-people-out-should-porn-be-banned/question-578421/
http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/former-porn-actress-to-men-stop-looking-at-porn-or-you-will-destroy-your-li
to list a few I found in a casual search.
Your comment about loving porn more than you do your husband answers your own question.
Women feel threatened by porn. The girls have better bodies and perform sex acts that they don't want to have to compete with, at least not on a consistent basis.
Those who do like porn generally like it because their husbands aren't nasty enough to give them the kink they desire. Such girls, however, are a distinct minority.
One thing I have learned through visitng escorts is that - generally - the women involved have a much higher sexual desire than most people. Not necessarily in escorting...but usually in porn...you will see a gradual advancement of desires/openness.
Although this is not 100%...most likely you're inclined to see women in porn with a high aptitude
They'll normall start with a girl/girl scene but many do start with a boy/girl scene.
Once that gets old there is a transition to POV
Progression to CIM
Progression to Cream Pie
Progression to Anal
Progression to doing multi-racial
- and in some cases -
Progression to other extremes I.e. (spitting, brother, grandmother/grandfather types, domination, etc)
think that the reason many women (and even men) don't like porn is primarily because of the sex drive. ..which most women can't compete with.
For example, many women have anywhere from 5 to 20 partners. Max. With 2 to 3 years in the business, a porn star could accomulate over 75-100 scenes. It's CLEAR that the sex drive amongst porn stars and escorts is SIGNIFICANTLY higher. That, in itself, is an area of competition and rivalry. Most men...not all but most...have a high sex drive. And as a result, it's hard...very hard...for a woman outside of the industry to have any way to compete (they simply don't have the genetic desire for it) to compete with someone who's had 75+ scenes. Women are just as competitive as men. A women who has had 6 to 10 sex partners in their life can not compare mano-a-mano with a women who does this on a daily basis.
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I first started watching porn in 1989. To me - the variety in watching all of the different gorgeous women - a partner (wife) couldn't compare.
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With all due respect, I think porn (not so much escorting) is actually healthy. For a man who had that desire...wouldn't it make more sense to WATCH videos rather than stray outside of the marriage.
No all, but for the most part, marriage is a committment that have MANY levels. Love, finances, responsibilities, etc etc etc. Generally speaking, I find escorting to be cheating...but one of the distinctions is that it has less attachment with that type ouf coupling. When it boils down to be just physical...it is cheating, but the emotional and responsibility bond that are attached to marriage are not there.
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In response to the part about kink/desire. I agree (I think). When I go out...I'm not looking for kink. But I do have a heavy affinity for high heels and great legs. In escorting (and in porn) I can find that...relatively easily. Whereas, in a relationship, you could very easily get involved with a broad who just doesn't appreciate or grasp (or care) that that is your turn on.
For me a women wearing high heels elevates them at least 1 (sometimes two) points. For example, I have a co-worker at work. This girl is a strong 8 (on a 1-10) scale. Very attractive, intelligent, very sexy. But on those days when she wears a skirt and heels...I'll be damned if she ain't a 10 or an 11.
I've seen girls many girls who go from ordinary (in my eyes) to the hottest thing since sliced bread when they're wearing heels and a skirt.
That's my thing.
The point is...with a wife or girlfriend...my getting that is hit or miss. Lucky if it happens once or twice a week...Lucky to the nth dgree. However, with a porn star or escort...my ability to see someone in heels (which is a turnon) is any/every day of the week.
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Very few....VERY!!! few....women outside of the industry have the patience, concern or care to go 100% all the time for their man. Unless the escort or porn star is shady...there is next to zero chance you won't get that.
Meh whatever.
Off the top of my head, i can think of several groups who not only hate porn, but they would ban/restrict it if they could..Such groups include the Family Research Council, Concerned Women of America, American Family Association, and probably the worst one, Morality in Media..Go on their websites if you dare and read some really bizare views they have on adult entertainment....
Perhaps it has something to do with the seriously misogynist streak that runs through so much porn: Women slapped, women pissed on, rape, and more. No mystery here.
In the last three times I log on you have asked, in order:
1) should i be worried if my boyfriend does porn
2) how do i ask out a guy who does porn
3) why do girls not enjoy porn like me and my husband
what is your deal?
I'm Isabella--and I love porn and porn stars ( male ones of course!)
I totally agee with you that it is riduculous. Listen, with some of the crazy stuff out there however, i can see women hating porn. I also can see those frigid women who don't let themselves go and relax sexually, also hating porn because their husbands or boyfriends want them to do some of that. But watching a porn dvd is cheating, that's just nuts and i agree with you that it's just dumb.
IMO women hate porn because their job security is threatened. Who likes to have your thunder stolen? Sex is the way women get what they want from men, so naturally they are against anything that detracts from this.