All of us are going to need some help getting over this 2016 campaign season.

USA Today Laura Petrecca  

Before we heal as a nation, we’ve got to start healing as individuals. Here are 5 steps to help you heal. USA TODAY
Sometime this week, millions of Americans will learn that their candidate for president lost. Before we heal as a nation, we’ve got to start healing as individuals. So many people who voted for the losing side will have passionately supported Donald Trump, Hillary Clinton or another candidate. How do we get over this? It will take patience, empathy and effort. To help with that, USA TODAY sought out expert advice on how to deal with post-election dejection.

Here’s the 12-step action plan:  

1) Feel free to scream. Just don’t do it in a public place. “If you are really, really upset and want to yell, go in the bathroom and close the door and yell,” says psychotherapist Fran Sherman. “You have to get it out.” This type of “verbal vomit” can be helpful, she says: “I equate it to when you are sick to your stomach and you let it out and you feel better.” Not a screamer? Aerobic activity, which will release feel-good endorphins, is a good way to shed some angst, she says.

2) Practice acceptance. Feel better after that therapeutic scream? Good. Now you can think more clearly and face the facts. “You don’t have to like it to accept that it’s the reality,” says psychologist Vaile Wright, who is a member of the American Psychological Association's Stress in America team. “Say to yourself, ‘I don’t like this outcome, but this is the way it is and I’m going to move forward.' Fighting it is just going to prolong one’s disappointment.”

3) Take action. Decide what you can do to make a difference, says Wright. For instance, volunteer with a group that supports an election issue that was important to you. “Disappointment can motivate us to action – ideally in a positive way,” she says. This can make people feel empowered, adds psychologist Mary Alvord. “You’re not helpless, you’re not a victim,” she says. “Focus on what you can control. ...Take your passion and put it into some kind of action.”

Listen to the below podcast with psychologist Mary Alvord on how to cope with the stress that comes along with Election Day results:

4) Create an exit plan. No — not to leave the country.  Have a strategy that lets you gracefully exit any anxiety-provoking political conversation, politely change the topic or ably defuse tension. It may be saying something like, “We’ve got to take this one day at a time,” agreeing to disagree on a subject or offering your own post-election stress-relieving tips, says psychologist Nancy Molitor. “The idea is to not escalate the conversation and to remain neutral,” she says.

5) Heed your early-warning signs. “Pay attention to your body and your brain,” says Molitor. “If you start to think, ‘This person is an idiot’ and ‘I can’t believe they are saying this,’ recognize that it’s only going to escalate.” There are signs when we start to get worked up, such as a tight throat, a dry mouth, a tight back or a shrill voice, so “know your triggers,” she advises.

6) Manage your exposure. “We all know who those problem people are in our lives, whether it’s the guy in the cubicle next to us at work or the cousin on Facebook who keeps talking about a candidate,” Molitor says. If certain in-person conversations, social media posts or TV outlets fuel aggravation or depression, then avoid those or limit exposure. “If two people at work are spouting things, then avoid getting into a conversation with them,” she says. “Don’t engage.”

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1) ...go into my bathroom and scream out how I feel that over 40% of my fellow countrymen are Fascists who don't give a damn about America or its Constitution. Then...
2) ...accept that this is the reality I live with. Okay, I can do that, I've lived in countries ruled by oppressive dictators and in countries where much of the populace harbored immense hatred. But then...
3) ...Take action??!!! How the hell do I "take action" when 40+% of the people around me require re-education? Is there an underground I can join? Win or lose, the enemy inhabits the world I must live in...and...
4) ...have an exit plan for avoiding contact with undesirables. I assume that doesn't mean I should become a total recluse.the rest is easy...
5) ...the early warning signs are obvious, and...
6) ...I know plenty of like-minded people with whom to spend my time with.

Whether my side wins or not, the people surrounding us will still be as vile. That is the newly understood reality.

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Actually the moderate, middle of the road incrementalists are really about 60% of the population. The 40% you're talking about is equally split with assholes on the Right, and definitely assholes on the Left. I think you call them Progressives, or your kissing cousins the anarchists, socialists, you know the kind you see mingling at the G7, G8, G20 meetings throwing molotov cocktails. And it seems this year the 40% on the Right and Left has almost morphed into a single angry populist movement with some of the same core beliefs on hating free trade, outsourcing, corporate America, and the rich. Who would have believed it?

What should the Independents do with the angry white male high school educated no skill manufacturing workers, and the arrogant, egalitarian, we know what's best lily white Progressives? I guess you'll scream, hold your breath, call the other side fascists (it's what you do).  

Would I call you vile, like you call the other side. NO! I'd call you insignificant. The world is passing you by, as well as those vile fascists on the Right.  You just don't realize it.  

 


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Sure there are assholes aplenty everywhere, but they aren't ought to kill anyone usually. Fascists would just as soon blow you away as pass you on the street. And NO one, NO one, is unaware of what he or she is signing up for when they cast a vote for Trump. They are, at heart, just another stinking Fascist pig.

Actions speak louder than words and the actions from you "open minded" liberals has been atrocious and shameful.

You communist pigs have no high ground to defend when talking about the fascist pigs that oppose you.

I cannot believe GagG can actually say that with a straight face. Most of Trump's hillbilly supporters are full of hate, that's why they have been peeing all over themselves for 8 yrs over the birther issue. This map shows documented instances where Donald Trump, his supporters, or his staff harassed or attacked Latinos and immigrants.

We’ve seen the proof since his campaign launch in June 2015. Trump’s xenophobic rhetoric hasn’t just pushed his fellow candidates to the right on immigration (in what has become known as the “Trump Effect”). It’s gone beyond the political world and injected itself into everyday life — and, in several instances, in a very violent ways.

This map shows documented instances where Donald Trump, his supporters, or his staff harassed or attacked Latinos and immigrants.

You can view individual incidents on the map by clicking directly on the Trump head “markers,” or you can click on the box-shaped symbol at the top left corner of the map to see a pull-down list of the incidents.