Posted By: spamdog9
(TER ID 193693)
OK, here is another recent situation where I contacted a reviewed provider and everything started out well, before it all went to hell...
I saw a post on BP from Jenna a couple of weeks ago, which led me to her reviews on TER, and that in turn led me to her P411 profile. So I contacted her by PM on P411 and she got back to me fairly quickly. We exchanged a few PMs, had a meeting set in a couple of hours, everything seemed normal. Then she asked me to send her a text to confirm. No problem. Now, pay attention... because here is where I committed a HUGE SIN... you might miss it. I went back to her BP ad (because it happened to be up on my PC at the time) and used the phone number she had there to send her a text. It turned out that she had a different phone number on her P411 profile, but I had not noticed that, and she did not point it out nor did she tell me to use a specific number. I just assumed that she only had one phone number. (I know, I know, we all know what we do when we assume...)
A short while after I sent the text she called me back but she was on the offensive. She started off with "HOW did you get this number??". I was taken aback. I told her I saw it on her BP ad (actually I had to recall first, because it was not important to me at the time). She interrupted me (she did that a lot, actually) and told me that she only used that phone number on her BP ad and it was VERY UNUSUAL that I would use that number when I had contacted her on P411, and she was VERY WORRIED about her security. (I had a hard time following this logic, because if she had posted this phone number on BP, then ANYONE could see it, right? It was no big secret, so how could that be a security risk? If you don’t want people to contact you on BP, then DON’T post there! Now, if it had been the opposite case — someone contacted her off the BP ad but then used the secret P411 number, well that WOULD be cause for concern.) Needless to say, I said none of what I was thinking, as she was clearly upset and concerned about her safety, and I just wanted to reassure her that there was nothing to worry about, that I had made an honest (if careless) mistake, and that it would be OK. But she was having none of it! She kept interrupting me and going on and on about how weird this situation was and how worried she was about her safety, so I just shut up and let her talk.
Eventually she wound down a notch and asked me if I had anything to say. I was unsure what to say at that point, since it seemed like nothing I was saying was getting through. So I asked her if she had looked at my P411 profile, to which she replied “Well, OBVIOUSLY” in a downright nasty tone. And I asked her “Well, did you notice that I had 14 OKs on it?…”, trying to be as calm and even toned as possible. I was going to say more, but she just EXPLODED. Went off on me, saying she was going to block me, calling me names, the works. After about 10 seconds of that I realized that nothing I could say was ever going to salvage the situation, so I just shouted over her tirade “Never mind — I don’t want to see you any more!” and hung up. Then she called me twice more! Evidently to tell me what a horrible person I was, but I had had enough of her hysteria by this point. Then she sent me a text telling me that I was obviously a crazy person (!! funny how she could glean that from the 20 words she let me say!) and she was so glad that we were not going to meet (and that was the ONLY thing she wrote that I could agree with!).
So, if you want to see this person, I am not trying to dissuade you… but just keep in mind this one simple thing: USE THE RIGHT PHONE NUMBER.
Of course, it is possible that you might find some other seemingly innocent way to set her off… but that is the chance you take…
