I don't know why but I just can't pull the trigger on meeting with a provider.  I've been a member of TER long enough, and researched enough that I "think" I can do this but I'm just too terrified of getting caught.  I do have a significant other and her finding out would be devastating.  I don't know, maybe this hobby isn't for me or I'm just chicken shit...or both.

If it does not feel right, I would say to trust that feeling.

Maybe sometime down the road it will.

I'd be happy to recommend a couples provider who is caring and will gently lead both of you into this lifestyle...feel free to email me if this might be an option!

Otherwise, don't rush things...you will know if and when the time is right!

You will know when the time is right to try a different  female..

My advice is to schedule the appt on a day that your signif- other would least notice
your absence..Regarding the scared part..Just take it slow..ask your the girl your with- to give
you a back massage first..or better yet massage her- to break up the anxiety that comes with meeting
a new person for the first time- Remember they are just as nervous as us guys sometimes, its just that
its cranked up a notch for us guys, because we have to perform(get it up), or we feel we look stupid..
Thats why I make sure and go into a session feeling well rested and ready for sex...

You sound like you do not want to hurt your SO, my advice would be to forget about a provider and work on your SO. Leave all this until you no longer have a SO then take the leap.

buy a sports car!

...when you choose an established, credible Provider and work up the courage to meet with her, tell her this is your first time with a Provider. She will lead at that point; it's like magic. Just let it happen. Do you have any doubts that the ladies who post on this board or advertise regularly are legitimate and a low risk choice? Don't you just hate it that all the other guys are having all the fun?  

How much fun do you think your going to have if your in fear of being caught!!!  It would be horrible... so why do it??  You'd have trouble getting it up.....  you'd have trouble keeping it up..... you'd have trouble getting off.... and you'd  be worrying for days later....  Try a wading pool first..... go to a AMP or similar..... get a massage with  a hand job.  Ease in my boy......

What've you got to lose? Women are so much better at concealing trysts than men are.

My surjection would be to spend a little extra and go with a well reviewed and respected provider.

She’ll understand what you’re feeling and make you relax.

But you’ll have to be verified so she’s relaxed also. If you can’t do that then forget it and play with your S.O and that may not be a bad idea if you spice things up a little at home.

you got that right Joel099. Women can hide that shit. some of them are heartless