I just had an odd interaction with a provider here (no names, I don't want to publicly attack someone). Here's what happened (paraphrasing a bit, and sorry for the long read):

- I had emailed a couple of days ago about meeting but got no response.
- Today I sent a text. She replied saying doesn't check email often.  

- Me: OK, are you free? Here's my P411 handle.
- Her: I don't have a P411 account.  
- Me: OK, TER handle? I'm whitelisted, etc.
- Her: Oh wait, I have a friend who is on P411. She can check you out. Her name is X. Send her a message.
- Me: OK (sent message to friend).
- Her: (after a few minutes) OK, you are good to go. Here's my website for details.
- Me: Can we do Incall? I want a full hour session, etc. Plus I'll be coming via Uber. How do I get there?
- She: Oh! I don't do Uber/Cabs. I need to see you drive up.
- Me: I'm visiting this city so don't have a car. How about outcall then? I'm staying in a nice upscale hotel.
- She: Well then you need to send me a photo of your ID, a selfie of yourself and hotel+room info
- Me: I'm not comfortable sending this info, sorry. This is why I have P411.  
- Her: What about name, hotel and room number?
- Me: (think for a bit and send her the hotel info anyways)..

Suddenly I get this ranting text about how she's concerned for her safety, doesn't like my "tone", doesn't trust P411, we are not compatible, etc. And she calls it off.

I mean, the safety issue is definitely a valid concerns on her part but my tone was nothing but respectful and just as she's concerned about her safety, I'm concerned for mine. This is why I use P411/TER. And her friend did check me out (I got a notification through email when she did).

I've been whitelisted here and am Basic+11 on P411 -- I'm pretty sure that all the ladies I've met can attest to the fact that I'm respectful and nice to them. Besides, "tone" can be misjudged on text.  

Just SO weird. Anyways, as my earlier post states, I'm still looking for a lady to meet tonight. Particularly since I am bummed out now -- this lady had great reviews, looked beautiful and I was hoping to meet her.

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I would be suspect of any girl who doesn't have a P411 account, or couldn't verify me using a TER whitelist or a P411 account. I would understand the P411 thing if she was from out of town and it was not popular where the provider travelled from, but around here?? I'm not at all suggesting that you cannot find good providers who don't use P411 or white listing on TER, but it seems odd to me if she were experienced, reviewed and established for longer than a year or two that she couldn't properly screen a client with P411 okay's and TER white listings. To me, part of having a good experience with any provider doesn't start when I arrive at the room, it starts when I contact her. If this is the experience you had with her just trying to get tickets to the event, imagine what her stage show must be like.

It's you that's the problem here.  

You also contacted me on p411, for which you completely disregarded my times of availability, my screening requirements and so on. As for your whitelist...... it's 2yrs old along with your reviews. Any smart provider is going to see red flags with this scenario and pass on an appointment for safety reasons.  

I suggest updating your whitelist along with reading profiles more carefully before sending requests