Do most hobbiest  see us because it is  a last avenue  to take  when  their SO  has shut down shop due to heath reasons  or just a lack  of interest  in sex? I think most men would love to have the connection with their partner but find if she has lost her desire  or he has lost his towards her  this is  their only outlet  short of having an affair  which  we know can get messy  or complicated  when matters of the heart are put into play....and yet I know  many that just truly enjoy  a new partner  to keep things interesting . so where do you fall  are you a want or a need? Or maybe both ?Looks  like it's going to be a great day in AZ  so I hope  everyone get's what they want or need.....make it a great day !

Sometimes one or the other .  Sometimes both at the same time.  Sometimes, you just need come companionship.  Sometimes, it's the 'touch'.  Sometimes, it's just a lunch or dinner date, 'on your own', gets old.  And, sometimes, you just get Horny.
Men are complex creatures, too.  Just complex in different ways, from women.

Good Question.

Miss Holly Berry here, at your service! Now for Ashlynn, and that long weekend...

Baaaaadboy, I love that! Very well stated.

....because I may find you attractive and i want my physical desire satisfied....But  occassionally there is someone  that become a "Need" because what I gain from the encounter is more than simply the physical connection and that is much harder to come by.

I would say it is a want. I love beautiful women..every inch of them. I love to play without the complications or relationships...not anymore complicated than that.

I started hobbying when things got so bad I was going to kill myself.  I did not want to live in my life anymore and I saw no way out.  Call me a pussy, call me a selfish bastard...whatever, I credit this for keeping me from eating a bullet.

I have kids and a wife and I love my kids and I would never want to hurt them so I don't want a divorce.  At the same point I do not want to live my life having grudge sex with a woman that I no longer love and who's sexual desires are vastly different than mine.  Missionary for 10 minutes once a month is like a living hell.

When I am properly taken care of by one of you fine ladies, I am a better husband, father, and friend.  I have my escape from the strict confines of my life without screwing up everyone's life who relies on me.

I expect that eventually I will no longer need this outlet, however the more I do it, the stronger the urge gets and the more I am willing to put on the line to take care of my want/need.  In addition, many of you ladies are amazing people who capture my heart, I want to know you as friends....however I find that crossing that line is a double edged sword and it makes the reason I do this...confusing....

Long answer to a short question.  I guess the best answer would be....it's complex....