For years visiting Phx/Scottsdale monthly I went to a particular MP - who recently went away. Looking for a new habit I contacted a local popular provider who I've read about for a long time and wanted to meet.  The application process was just too much.  I have no problem showing ID in person.  I'm from out of town and have ample ID to prove.  Listing other providers to me is kiss & tell and implicates others without permisson.  Giving personal ID over the phone or Internet seems to me to get one on a "client list" and that's not a list I want to be on...  Am I the only one who thinks this is a dilemma?  For me the "M" in FBSM is what's most important... the topless and Clinton add's are what make it special... should not have to pass a FBI clearance for just that...

Verifiable provider references are the best verification methods,and if you're unsure if your favorite provider will give you a reference ask her.
most of us will glady provide references for our gentlemen friends through email,and if you like you can even email them ahead of time to let them know of a pending reference request.
Hope that helps a little
huggz
Leigh

These ladies have a lot to protect, and a lot to lose if they're put in the wrong position (no pun intended!).  Whatever an individual asked for in the vein of references or ID is what that individual is comfortable with, and she'd be foolish to compromise her comfort-level.

Being a reputable, independent provider, I find your implications laughable.  There are plenty of us who respect our clients' privacy and the fact that they have personal lives that DON'T include us!  I happen to be one of those ladies who also wishes some gentlemen would realize I *also* have a personal life away from this business, and its not always appropriate for them to intrude.  The desire for discretion is a two way street.  If you don't want to be on a "client list", then choose a well reviewed, independent lady who has been around a while, and allow her to screen you properly.  Once you leave, I'm sure she'll be plenty busy with her own life, and not interested in what you're up to.  And contrary to the ridiculous notion that giving references is an invasion of our privacy, most of us do not mind giving them!  If you're unsure, simply ASK the lady if she minds.  Its not that difficult.

As for offering to give ID after you arrive, thats just not wise.  If a man intends to give trouble, whether its an expensive, escorted ride to the local jail station or otherwise, there isn't a damn thing a girl can do about it, once he is there!  The point of screening is to verify that your intentions are sincere BEFORE you arrive.  

Just as you want to be as safe as possible, so do we.  Respect our need for safety, and the reputable, experienced ladies will equally respect your need for discretion.  You are already *waaaay* ahead of the game, just by the fact that you can usually read reviews about us, as well as other details, before you ever contact us.  We know NOTHING about you, when we pick up our phones to talk to you, for the first time.  

You could also consider joining a site like Date-Check or P411, neither of which retain "client lists" or records, once they screen you thoroughly.  These sites also make it extremely easy for a lady to verify you quickly and easily, with a client ID number, allowing for short notice appointments, without sharing all of your personally identifying info, with every lady you visit.

 

The ladies have the right to ask for whatever information makes them feel comfortable with me. As a client, if I think it's TMI, I just move on
and find another lady who screens in a way I'm comfortable with. BTW, nice rant from the op!

I'm serious.

Use them! No problem.

But keep in mind, that when you use one and start off with...

"Being a reputable, independent provider, I..."

I stop reading, 'cuz I don't believe you.

Not hatin'!  Not critisizin' Not a Handle-Nazi!

Just sharing ONE hobbyist's opinion.




KEEP POSTING!  aliad or handle... it's all good.








HalfHour

I'm serious.

Use them! No problem.

But keep in mind, that when you use one and start off with...

"Being a reputable, independent provider, I..."

I stop reading, 'cuz I don't believe you.

Not hatin'!  Not critisizin' Not a Handle-Nazi!

Just sharing ONE hobbyist's opinion.




KEEP POSTING!  aliad or handle... it's all good.








HalfHour

So, alias or not, did the rest of my message ring true?  The content of my message is all that matters, and if you took the time to read the rest of it, it would have been obvious to you, that it had to come from someone who knows what she's talking about.  After all, I didn't say to the OP "I'm a reputable, independent provider, just trust me and send me all your personal info to this email [email protected]"

If date check doesn't keep "lists" then how do they verify you?  They have to keep something.

I have no quarrel of any type re the need for providers to protect against idiot clients or LE (sadly)... but I don't carry around the names and ph numbers of providers I've seen...nor do I want to give out personal information that can be recorded someplace.

There is no answer for me other than to find a new MP to make a habit on my frequent trips to the desert... just missing out meeting some cool sounding ladies of interest.... I'll live...

Just wondered what other folks thought...

ladies I know keep client lists. It is dangerous to do so for all concerned... not smart. It mioght come in handy for HER sometimes, but I do not see where it is needed, especially when you weigh out the risks in doing so.

If I am asked to be a reference I can only do so much in remembering if I have seen someone, unless it was more recent which is one of the reasons why most will not accept older references than about 6 months ago. I do my best to always be honest in my respnse about if I have seen someone or if I have not. I am a low volume provider and even though my memory is not all that divine, with fewer visitors it is easier to recall.

I agree that it would be be a good plan to be on P411 or date check if you are not comfortable with other methods of screening. Once they verify you, you are good to go and if you take the time to read their policy they do not keep records one the screening is done.

From the Preferred411 website:
"VERIFICATION PROCESS  
Please understand that we are going to confirm that you're a legitimate client somehow. We will usually check your employment info and/or provider references. If we can verify that you are a long time member (in good standing) of a community that may be another way we can verify you without collecting any personal information.

All applicants MUST be verified to our satisfaction. If you are not prepared to provide this info or we cannot verify your info to our satisfaction, you will not be given Preferred411 membership.

Remember, we do not keep any identifying information once the verification has been completed."


So, if you want to see a lady bad enough you have to do a few things that are not all that fun or comfortable for you. Just research and be sure she is worth it to you, then once you are cleared to see her, move forward to a date and relax and enjoy!!