wondering what it takes to have a lady shift from the variety side of the ledger to the repeat side? I guess for me , there has to be connection other than physical, good conversation as well as some other 'connect' on the emotional side'.I have found with my 'repeats ' that I enjoy hanging out and tipping a few as much as (well ,not quite)hitting the sheets. Is it the illusion of 'gfe' or is it that 'friend' is the operative word in the equasion? Does the 'repeat' fill a need that isn't fulfilled at 'home'? What part of you , physical or emotional , keys the decision to repeat? Can the physical be less than the best you ever had if the emotional connection is there? I am amazed when I hear some of my bretheren tell me they see the same young lady 10 times in a very short time span. I think that is when I lean to variety, hobbying as it were. I also wonder , whether the 'repeats'have a similar sense of connection or are they happy only in that someone has become a regular? Anyone?
I consider it to be an appearance vs performance issue. I am much more likely to repeat when performance is highest which for me directly correlates to connection (both physical and emotional). That connection also seems to improve over time and multiple visits.
Although there is definitely something to be said for variety as well. I see no reason to limit your options. It seems that many have several ATF's as well as an eye for greener pastures.
Perhaps a balanced approach of both repeat and variety will lead you to your own hobbying nirvana.
I have found for myself that when I "connect" with a girl it is difficult for me to venture out into the pastures when there is the "connection".It seems more like a date and friendship than just a sexual deal. I have to remind myself that this is not a normal relationship, even tho very enjoyable and satisfying one.It is one of lifes joys, to really connect with a special lady.Just my 2 cents.
I find that I tend to run in streaks for whatever reason and I never seem to know when those will be occuring. I'll run for awhile, interested in only meeting some of the newer (or unknown to me) ladies in the community and then at other times, I'll run with just a couple or three regulars for an extended period of time.
One thing I've noticed for myself is that during my periods of running with the newer girls, I will usually hit a string of just 'OK' performances which bums me out and I start thinking about going back to those few girls who provided me with a 'memorable' encounter (you know, the kind you want to write home to Mom about). Then I'll stick with a regular or two who can routinely blow my socks off for some period.
As you mentioned, a lot of what is at work with a regular are the very comfortable things experienced beyond the sheets. There are risks inherent in that as emotions and dependencies can start to develop which is not an especially good thing in this world imho.
Maybe the continuous switch up on my part is a self protecting mechanism to keep reminding myself not to 'fall' for a woman who is younger than my own daughters ............. LOL
are so on key with that. I, too , recognize the risks with the regulars(repeaters),although, being married, the emotions seem to have a cap on them. I try not to think of age as having daughters older than most of the providers. Any chance of exchanging pix of the daughters,LOL.
These are quality hi-res photos taken at the last orgy at Club Jeffe. But unfortunately they all look like young female versions of Muffyman or Chilopsis!! LOLOLOLOL
....and all this time I thought of you as a 'quick study'. Multiple wives eh? Maybe 'slow learner' might be a more appropriate characterization....... LOL
Do what I do with the pics of the ex, put em on yer bicycle to flap against the wheel spokes. Sure beats using baseball cards...... :>)
Two only, both exqusitely beautiful, repeats for sure. One long legged erotic blonde, one perfect brunette. One gently sensual, the other yelling screaming insatiably passionate. Best of both worlds, beauty and connection. Who needs anything more?
I wrestle with each time I reach for the phone. I have winnowed my "to do" list down to about 40 names or so, but there is one lady who absolutely turns me inside out. She is everything I want physically and sexually. My first instinct is always to call her, but I must discipline myself to keep working my list. I also wrestle with the same question each time on weather to return to others who I have seen once in the past and enjoyed vs. calling someone new. This is a case where I usually let the little guy do the thinking. I will say that on both occasions that I have attempted to become "friends" on a personal basis, I got burned, so I just don't do it.
Why venture out into the unknown and possibly have a less than stellar session, when seeing either of these two ladies is always a fantastic time?
The ironic thing is that I meet one of these ladies at the end of the same week I had my least favorite encounter. Perhaps that influenced my opinion of that first meeting, but every time since has been just as great....
And these two ladies are the only ones I;ve seen more than once....
And I;m looking forward to seeing them again, as the possibility of the ultimate doubles for me has been discussed with them both....
Great topic gentlemen! I find myself going over this also. The excitement of the "chase" or the known "catch"? But we all know it's a catch and release only hobby. I have one ATF that I've been friends with for 5 years on a personal level and we still connect at play time very much. I have also been burnt big time by getting too close. The question for the big head: Free choice. The question for the little head: Not who but NOW! I'd like to think that the ever elusive GFE is the difference we all seek in the long run with the providers. It's up to us to find that journey and then walk down the correct road.
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