If she's blonde in her pic, and a redhead at the door (assuming it's the SAME lady, not a bait and switch) that's one thing, when 25 years old becomes 52 years old or 125 lbs. is really 215 lbs.-that ain't right.
We all change some from the frozen moment of a picture, granted. And time stops for no one. If it isn't a deal breaker or mood killer for ya-so be it. A couple of pounds or years on a wonderful and high quality lady is one thing...
Intentional misrepresentation by a provider, hoping a client will either be too embarassed to turn them away or in order to extort an appearance fee at the door, is as unacceptable as a client telling a provider he has the 250 dollar incall fee on the phone, only to produce a wrinkled 20 and some bullshirt excuse at her door.
Providers shouldn't tolerate that for a second, but have had it happen before I am sure, since there's only so much they can do when they don't control the money.
However, clients are not similarly disadvantaged, and the remedy for the client is simple-if you feel your dissatisfaction with the picture vs. reality disparity is legitimate, tell her and send her on her way empty handed or with some gas money if you feel it appropriate (I for one, give them some gas money, regardless of how badly I have been decieved).
I agree with you in principle, but believe what shouldn't be tolerated any longer is forking over what amounts to, in your stated case, 3 bills a piece for 5 providers who weren't what they said portrayed themselves to be. That encourages further deceptions and empowers them to continue. Only when honesty is the sole profitable policy, can it become the best policy. Sad, but true.
Integrity can be lacking in all walks of life, it's the individual's job to decide what's the tolerable level they require of both themselves and those with whom they would interact.
I don't know that we can concede that responsibility to a review website which, for me, exists simply to sift out the outright scams from legitimate providers (my personal opinion of course, yours may vary).
And frankly, if you only came across 5 bad apples in this overflowing bucket of stellar talent (you don't indicate how many total providers you have seen but "many" implies enough that 5 is a distinct minority)-that ain't too bad.
Considering that, flaws and all, without resources like this one can expect much worse results.
Kinda rambly, but I hope some food for thought-for all of us.
Play smart and play safe
JJ