I think I just channeled Heart.

Anyway, I've not fallen in love with a provider.  I think it's because, despite this intense experience, it's over so quickly, there's no time to really bond.

That being said, I'm sure that it happens.  How do you deal with it, both as a hobbyist and a provider?  Also, stop falling in love with me ladies.  I'm not just a piece of meat.  I'm a piece of meat with a heart, a brain, a penis and a job.  Also, I maybe rotting.  It's hot out.

I know the feeling to well. I've seen this girl when ever she came to  town. She is hot, mixed girl that was attracted to me. I was really attracted to her as well. We were talking more than anything else. The attraction was there for both of us. The last session we had, I can say that we made love. Not just have sex, but actual love. She and I spent 6 hours together that night and she never answered her phone and it was ringing off the hook. But I honestly though about the fact, Can I truly not be bothered with her providing if I decide to be with her. I said nope, there was no way.  So I asked the question that I already knew the answer to. That was the last I've heard of her.  

I have been dating my ATF for a couple of months now.  

Honestly we fell for each the first time we met in a session. It wouldn't matter if it was meeting in a session or not. It's just one of those things.  

Since someone will ask yes she is no longer working. But that was a fairly recent thing. And yes it's hard as hell but you either trust her or not.  

And no I am not telling anyone who she is.

I think many providers would be loyal confidants in a relationship. People are people, is a provider so different than other professionals that earn a living by charging a fee for time?  Lawyers, Doctors, accountants etc...

Every time I meet a lovely lady, I believe that she is truly falling in love with me..... Unless we scheduled a PSE session. Than I think she is just using me for sex. Love? what the hell are we talking about.  Don't get me wrong, the ladies that I PAY to meet are great about making me feel special and ACT like I am the greatest lover they ever HEAD. That's because they are great at their profession, not because they love you (and yes if are in this business long enough, our emotions can screw us up and end up dating. Been there, done that).

Very true. Providers are all human beings. I'll admit that it takes alot for me to be jealous. The providing aspect was the tip of the iceberg. It was a small problem for me. The biggest problem I had is trusting hobbyist. You hear the stories of robbing, beatings, and rape. Also if she got arrested. How can I be there for her? If I began traveling with her, I become the "pimp/boyfriend" and she begins losing business. So long story short, it wouldn't have worked for me. I would be very worried about her. Sadly she retired about 2 months after I asked. I'm glad that it works. This makes it sound like I'm heartless and treat providers like meat. Hahahaha! No, I treat alot of my providers as FWB. As of today I can't splurge on some of my girls, due to the fact I'm unemployed. But I would take them out for dinner, have great conversations, and just be friendly as possible.

Summer, you are very humble. Your post is very well written, good job!

One provider told me she wouldn't respect me if i didn't ask her to stop, but if i did she'd say i had no business telling her how to live her life!