I consider myself to be a philosopher in training and a student of human nature especially sexuality.  So, forgive me if my posts aren't your cup of tea.  And please feel free to express that and I will stop.  But, if my posts stir up interesting evaluations of oneself, again, let me know by contributing to the thread.  That would be wonderful.  And I promise not to overdue it.

Question:

What makes you have your best orgasm? What brings you over the edge? The majority of people can have an orgasm every time they try.  Sometimes it may be harder than others.  Is there a 100% scenario for you (or close to) that will get you where you want to go every time?  

Let me give you some examples:

It could be as simple as a hair color or body type for some.  It could be a variety of playmates that gets you every time because it is always something new and exciting.  It could be an outfit....a school girl, cheerleader, nurse, business woman etc. Could it even be personality?  For women, yes...not sure about men (you tell me).  I know for me, intelligence is extremely sexy.    

Or,

Have to be careful with wording here,

It could be sweet caresses and loving words (I tend to think this is in the minority).  It could be the perfect way your partner gives oral, the naughty way your partner looks at you right before you're ready to orgasm.  It could be pulling hair or saying the perfect nasty phrase you like.  It could be the perfect way she hikes her butt into your member....  

HaHa...you get the point.  It could be that it is always different and never a set scenario.  

But, if you have a definite scenario, what makes you have your absolute best orgasm?

Ciao,

Isabella M
xoxoxox

You forgot to link a picture of yourself, you sexy minx.

As for your question, the stimuli can be any number of things for me. Her scent, her movement, her vocalization, the look on her face, any number/combination of things. And it is unique to that person. But once found, it could be reproduced. I guess that is why ATF's exists.

answer the question by having an up close and personal demonstration with you =)  I enjoy your posts, so please do not feel otherwise about bringing up a topic.

Love is the difference between an orgasm and a GREAT, meaningful orgasm. Neither feels different, but one touches you to the soul and can bring tears to your eyes. Tears of overwhelming emotion and love and lust and care and concern and all of those beautiful emotions one feels when one has meaningful sex with a meaningful partner. Love.

For me, his name was Dusty. I stil dream about him from time to time and when I awaken, I'm disappointed it was a dream and not real. I miss those emotions, those feelings, that intense rollercoaster of highs and highers. I was in love with him here in Virginia and we spent a lot of time in DC, I passed the Washington monument where once, it was very windy and we were running and the wind lifted me off my feet. I've never laughed so hard or had so much fun. Not before and not since.

Love. Love is an intense orgasm.

Megan

There is nothing like an orgasm with someone who makes your knees and heart weak.

Hugs,
Ciara

There are a number of elements that can help to make more likely that I will have a good orgasm, including a sweet smile, sparkling eyes, soft silky hair (a HUGE turn on for me) and a soft sweet voice accompanied by the well placed giggle or sigh.  None of these things by themselves are sufficient, and even the whole list of them won't do it for me if I can't believe, somewhere in the back of my mind, that I am giving and receiving feelings.  I realize that the Providers who have been kind enough to spend time with me have no real feelings for me, but some Providers make it feel that way, even if it is an illusion, and when that happens, I will explode every time.

Don't know if those insights help, but I offer them for what little they may be worth.

Fred

....in the mind.  Remember, you're asking for one's "absolute best" orgasm, and I think to take it to that high a level, the mental connection must be present.  And, I remember a great lady, when she was just starting out in this game, who took me there one sun-filled afternoon with the dogs barking outside in the back!  Am looking forward to seeing her again real soon!

Well it all about the total experience.  It starts from the moment she opens the door and greets you to how she smells, how she is dressed, how well you two interact, how well you "fit" together, personalities. This list could go on and on.

I have found the best time, which was just experienced last week from a lady that rocked my world like no other has ever done before.  She had a rock hard toned body perfect (in my book) home grown chest, very open and willing to please and belove me...she left me breathless.

great answers so far....Jeffrey, that must of been some woman!  JK

That any of you have experienced this outside of the confines of an escort/client relationship. It seems to be what most of the men have mentioned. I certainly hope you can say you've experienced this outside of this hobby.

megan

Meagan, for almost all of us girls (unfortunately, have that sensitive stuff going on), the most intense orgasm does come when that complex thing called love exists.  Sometimes I wish I were a guy.  They are so lucky!  

That being said, I know there are sensitive men out there that get more out of having the 'love' feeling. And I can have an amazing O while having raw kinky sex with someone I just met! (smile)  

For me, it has to be not just a physical attraction, but a mental connection as well.  Certainaly physical beauty is part of the initial reaction, but in order for the more intense experiences, there has to be an emotional connection as well.  If we have interests in common, if she knows how to laugh, is intelligent and can stimulate my mind as well as body, I know my wandering days are over, at least for a while.    In those rare cases,  the sex is even that much better (a few nasty words as we approach orgasm never hurts).
  Its hard to find, but worth the search. Most women, escort and civilian alike, think it is exclusively physical.  That may be true for those who are constantly in search of the new experience.  I would like to think that at least some men are looking for more than the next notch on the bedpost.

That's the only way I've experienced it - outside of this hobby.

I've had some great times in this hobby, but nothing replaces the feeling, the absolute knowing, that the person you are with is with you because they want to be, not because you paid them.

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She sure was/is.......you were there, and it was before Kona Grill!

Your post brought tears to my eyes...I think you are right.
It's easy to forget in this lifestyle.
But I guess that might not be the dirty fantasy everyone was looking for...

for me when something may not appear to be there at first and then at first touch or kiss some sparks fly when they were unexpected. Then raw unbrideled passion is exchanged until I'm cursing and praying at the same time