A guy contacting you that far in advance for a first time meet has of course not decided for sure on anything. He could be talking to other girls about the same slot but I wouldn't make that assumption right off. More likely he just wasn't 100% sold in his own mind on the meeting and used this an as excuse to back out. The PMs and communication are probably just because he is lonely and enjoys the communication. Not knowing what either of you actually said in these 6+ PMs I cant of course make any judgement more detailed then that as to his sudden reversal. This is though an inherent risk in taking an appointment so far in advance with someone that has never seen you before. In that time, especially if he likes to communicate a lot, there is a lot of room for him to get turned off by something said, decide he just doesn't like the pictures enough, or just happen to come across an option he likes better. I would certainly recommend doing what most do in a situation like this and accept the appointment at first but let him know to contact you by a certain time prior to confirm or the date is not considered final. I would limit communication with him from the beginning if he has never seen you before to limit the chance that a personality conflict will get in the way. Unless you just happen to hit it off and like talking to him of course

It sounds like the guy who was PM'ing you was either feeling out his options or, more likely, just getting a thrill by e-mailing and escort, then backed out when he couldn't get what he wanted from the e-mails. Personally when I e-mail an escort, I have already decided I'm interested in seeing them and want to make sure if they do a specific service or double-check if their fee is correct, keeping it straight, to the point, and short. From what some of the women I've met have told me, if it goes on too long then the guy is probably just getting off on the e-mails or is really fickle; there's a chance they might see you but the longer the e-mail goes then the less likely it is.
Then again, this is mostly hearsay, I can't actually say one way or the other as I'm not actually in the industry, but I hope it helped!

Based on my brief experience in online dating, I would say that anyone that doesn't meet you in person within a few messages is likely not legitimately looking.   There seems to be a certain element out there that gets off on communicating with people and then rejecting them for some vague reason.  Now I ask for "time and place" after the third or fourth email and be done with it.  
I can't see a reason for a hobbyist to need that much advanced communication.  He isn't looking for a soul mate.

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