Re:Essay... for the guys!

Easy for me.  The perfect date starts with the foreplay on the board and private emails.  Builds excitement, minimizes the ritual "getting to know you chit chat" and maximizes real exploration at the encounter.  Atmosphere, scented candles, soft unobtrusive music, romantic, clean BCD, no animals scratching at the door or jumping on the bed during playtime. Provider's dress optional, whatever makes HER feel sexy.  Warmth, soft greeting with LFK and hugs, letting her lead the way to next steps.  Menu's that match.  If she offers something that I'm not interested in, no foul if I decline.  Absolutely never a "script" from sequences of the alphabet.  Both partners go with the flow and response.  Multi-orgasmic no faking it.  We guys do know when it's real, and I for one look only for those where a "one cupper" can give more to receive. No basket by the bed filled with used condoms.  Fresh sheets and washcloths. No clock watching, no back to back appointments.  We know when we're overtime.  If you choose to go more it is a compliment, not an intrusion.  Point being, you made the choice 'cause you're enjoying. Remember also, the first play date may only be an hour, but if the connection is made, many repeats are made of this.
It's nice of you to remember our name and call it out during the encounter.  It is not an interrogation to gently ask during and at the end if I was pleased.  Fantastic compliment if you genuinely ask me to see you again rather than just assume you are so good that it would be automatic.  If I'm doing something that isn't quite working, have the gentle guidance to adjust me so that it does work for you. Some guys are just scorekeepers, nut busters, but I'm a giver who gets my joy from your joy.  If I'm having trouble, don't chide me nor assume it's your fault.  It's not.  You have no idea how many chronic diseases, medications, and mental reservations affect performance.  It's not likely you.  Final thought for you is for all our sakes, have fun.  Just because it's a "business" transaction doesn't mean it's over when we go out the door. Product excellence is essential, but repeat business and referrals sustain you.

A friendly greeting as she opens the door to a low-lit or candle-lit, sweet smelling incall.

A hug, some flirty LFK, and sexy whispers into my ear on how glad she is to see me. And I can tell, because she presses into me during the hug and nibbles my lip.

She invites me into her lair, plush bed and pillows and invites me to get comfortable as she leads the way herself, disrobing.

The she sits or lies on the bed, extends her hand, and invites me to join her, and the session begins with sweet talk, caresses, kisses, and the fire builds. No rush. We both take it slow and time is the luxury.

She asks what I like and I ask what she likes. I give her pleasure because that gives me pleasure, and she reciprocates with a slow hand, a generous mouth, openness, a sybaritic attitude that exudes sensuality and appreciation.

Whether it's one cup or more, it includes and ends with cuddling and petting.

The bonus: an intelligent woman with a sense of humor.

Provider is not ready. Not dressed. Sheets in dryer. No water in the fridge. Or for some, no cocktail. She chose to not make up (not heavy) because she was busy before we got there. Room is bright. Boyfriend or SO is next door listening and banging on the door in an hour. She is selfish and more into her life than into the client. Business talk is prevalent. Hers that is. Does not know how to do the small things. like a warm wash cloth or taking a shower with the client (Here is the shower, you scrub up cuz you stink and I will wait for you). We do it on top of the bedspread. She fakes the whole thing. She treats me like some chump. Her phone is ringing the whole time or she is being texted. SHE IS LATE AND MAKES NO AMMENDS. She has no idea how to start and she talks forever. SHe does not take charge in any way. She does not know how to say goodbye. She is bored with me. She is bored with life. She is not romantic but is mechanical. She does not realize guys talk and her movements are the same for every guy she sees form her first touch through her last touch it is scripted. She tells me I am special and huge and thinks I believe it. She has an ego bigger than mine. She does not offer seconds if I am into her. She doesn;t understand it is also a business and little things do count (offering water, a mint, a nice body rub, a great kiss goodbye, etc....)

Cheers,

Simple courtesy like annswering the phone or returning messages and/or emails is a great way to start!