First I find texting very impersonal. Next, I do not have it included in my phone plan.  This is due to the fact that some clients abuse this by texting over and over and over and over just to say hi or whatever and never even set up an appointment.

So really it is a few bad apples that make it something I personally do not want or care to do.  But then I am "ole school" in many aspects as I like to talk to my clients.

So I can only speak for myself but I prefer phone calls and do limited emails. Just my honest opinion.

So maybe I am not thinking like a provider and maybe I shouldn't being I am not one, but why do so many providers not like texting? I'm sure it is a LE issue but I can't think of any reason why a text is worse then a voice call or email. Sometimes when I am in a meeting, I like to send texts to see if I can set something up for later in the day and obviously calling is not an option.

Sorry for being ignorant when it comes to this, I'm sure it is something obvious I am not thinking about.

In addition to what the other ladies said the main reason I don't like texts is because I have no way of knowing who could be reading your text messages.  Or sending them for that matter.

Even if you delete your texts there are any number of stealthy cell phone tracking programs available.  They're easy to install and run in the silently in the background undetected by the user.  They can also be monitored in real-time.

I keep my phone under tight lock down at all times but I have no idea who has access to your phone or your phone records.  It's much to easy for a properly motivated spouse to see everything that your phone logs.  

No thanks.  I'm not trying to invite that potential hassle into my life, especially from someone who more than likely wasn't going to make an appointment in the first place.

Bottom line is guys who want to make appointments call or email to introduce themselves and make appointments.  Guys who think they maybe would like an appointment send texts.  

Besides, there's just something off-putting about receiving a text from someone you don't know.  Kind of like when a stranger stands to close to you in line.  It's weird you wonder why everyone else in line totally gets the whole concept of personal space except for the one guy who remains completely oblivious to how uncomfortable he makes other people.

I do not txt for the following reasons:

1. Its impersonable
2. Its my impression that the gentlemen that I have not seen yet that do txt me for first contact are not serious about making an appointment and they will flake.
3. If its first contact I prefer to hear the gentlemen's voice
4. If I havent seen a client yet, it seems like txters are time wasters.

But if I have already seen the client and he wants to schedule an appointment I have no problem with txting, but the individual txting me to make an appointment has to be a regular

All the reasons I don't text either covered perfectly.  Even w/ a very familiar face the texting goes only so far and with them i still won't share certain things through a txt

in using technology are surprisingly common.

People who use email but don't liks SMS (texting) is one that cracks me up. In that situation ometimes the REAL reason is that the person doesn't like creating messages on the little phone keypad. Or they just don't sms much in their civie life.

SO it's really just about personal comfort, I think.

There are (a few, younger) providers who prefer txt. I'm met some who will txt AFTER they have established a relationship only.


HH

I myself feel it's inconsiderate to just send a text message asking about availability without presenting yourself so to speak.I don't have a clue who you are and I may be somewhere myself where I am not able to respond.

If I know you I don't have a problem with a quick text but otherwise I require email as first contact,that way I know who I am communicating with.and can respond accordingly.
Get your screening information etc.

Also some ladies forward their google voice numbers to their private cell numbers and prefer to keep that private number to themselves which is not possible when you respond to a text because it will give the number you are texting back from .

Txting for me is fine when its a well known regular client. However thats for simple questions. My work phone is only on if and when I am expecting contact or working. Otherwise I don't even turn it on.

I DON'T txt, appointments, information, or any personal information. Even with repeat or regular clients I don't make appointments over Txt.I don't txt with anyone I don't know. My work phone is a toss away with no personal information tied to me.

Not everyone - civie or in hobby use or have texting so don't assume they do.  (Cuz you know what they say about assuming.)

I live on smartphones. Email works better for me than anything. I am technology driven but prefer txt to be restricted to very limited things and not to personal issues. I actually dont use voice much at all in comparison to email. Too much gets lost in the discussion and the discussion can get off track and into uncomfortable areas too easy.

Thank you everyone for the info. I guess with my experience, texting is the easiest way. I don't feel it is impersonal but I can see how some do. I do wonder why some think email is more personal but to each their own.

Thanks for the discussion, it's been bugging me for a while.

phone
just seems impersonal
unless i have seen or know the Gent
then i don't mind it
but man i tell ya
some people are so fast at texting it
amazes me that i cant get in an answer before they text again...lol

I rarely if ever answer my phone unless I am expecting the call as usually I am unable to talk at that time, *kids, dogs, cats, traffic, driving, work* --- a whole multitude of distractions come into play.

So I much prefer text/email as can answer them quickly and discretely and excuse myself to be ready for a call.

*Hugs*

BV

xoxo

I really don't see the difference at all between texting and emailing. I do understand that usually the guys that text do like to waste your time 7 times out of 10. The texting will start off great. Then they ask you something crazy. Then I just ignore them. I do notice that guys who email are more professional and serious.

If your scared to text just be careful what you say. You shouldn't have to say to much through text, through email, or over the phone anyway. What we do is pretty self explanatory. I usually can tell a time waster by his words through his first initial contact. But sometimes they are tricky. lol

Be safe ladies......

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I have a Ring Central number that is like a land line that forwards to wherever I need it to. So I never get them. However I get email and can answer much more easily.

Kara, you are friendly in more ways than just texting...

Kara, you are friendly in more ways than just texting...

I am so glad they invented texting!! I have ABSOLUTELY no problem with guys texting me, in fact, I almost prefer it. So many times my phone rings and I'm doing something (playing,watching tv, whatever) with my 7 year old and I have to just ignore my phone ringing. I know I lose lots of money but that isnt what matters in life, right?! Guys.... You can text me.....

I go to school so I get the point.  Sometimes you can't easily access email or call.  I think texting is fine as long as it's short and sweet.
Example:
AZ Local:  Hey, I am at work but was wondering if you are available at 4pm?
Leah:  Yes, I am.  When you get a minute could you please email me your references and info.
AZ Local:  Sure I will do it at lunch
Leah: Great I will let you know when everything checks out.

3hrs later:
Leah:  Everything checked out fine.  See you at 4pm. Please call when you are leaving work for info as to where I am.
AZ Local: I will call on my way out the door.



Now texting bs is a big no no.  Do not and I mean do not text weird crazy s**t.
Example:  Do you do BBBJ or Where are You?  That will get you blocked!  Just saying.

I think we are going to have this conversation for real when I get back from traveling for work LOL....

Your texting skills to Phoenix I’m sure a lot local guys would love text you.

OK Sir, You Can ...................................................

have her texting skills, but I love her other skills  soooo much more.  ... Whoooo Haaaaaa !!!!!

I agree about being careful no matter what form of communication you use.  Being new to the hobby, I am still feeling my way with the communication (no pun intended).  I think most guys think since they have a girl's cell phone they are instant best friends and can text all the time.  I like to text a provider a little leading up to the session just to let them know you like to have fun and are a playful guy but it can be overdone!

If a guy wants to see the provider again, then send a text to ask for availability.  If the provider enjoyed your company and didn't think you were an asshole, they will respond!