Do providers ask for a review to be written?
And, if they do...are you ok with it?

Ladies, your opinion on the subject....

I for one have never asked.

I have never asked for a review, but if another provider does this I guess it's no big deal. That's between a provider and a hobbyist. In fact, when a hobbyist asks me if I want a review written, I always say,"That's up to you. It really doesn't matter to me!" Ask anyone whom I've ever been with and they'll say, "Yep! Ciara said that!"

Hugs,
ciara

I don't care either, and I to have never asked for a review and I answer the same way.

I just want to know what the feelings are of the hobbyist if it happens and how they feel about being asked, especially if it wasn't a good session and a top rated reliable provider.

Thanks you for your input, though..

hugs back at ya!!!
Terri

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I've been asked-but it is very rare. More often, either the experience was good or better and I ask if I may share it (it's HER choice in that case), or there were problems which we couldn't resolve privately that need to be shared with fellow hobbyists (it's MY obligation in that case-i.e. she ripped me off, cash and dashed me, bait and switched me, what have you-if I just have a lackluster time, that's on me and I keep it to myself).

Considering many providers seem to feel the entire review concept commoditizes them-asking to be evaluated doesn't come up very often.

But that's the difference between a gourmand and a restaurant critic-the former loves food, the latter's job is to rate and evaluate the experience.

I already have a job-I don't hobby to write reviews. It would diminish my enjoyment if it were work, pleasurable though it would certainly be.

I would question the value of both a session and a review that sprung from asking to be reviewed.

Which is why food critics try to remain anonymous and go repeatedly to get a full experience, rather than one tailored to generate the best possible review for the restaurant.

Hobbyist review sites are a great marketing tool for providers, but when the marketing hijacks the reviewing, it's worthless to the hobbyist as any kind of objective resource.

Hobby Happy

JJ


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I think it depends on the lady, I feel it lets other people know a little about the lady. Thats just my option. Janna Saphire

I generally don't review anymore unless the lady asks me to, and then will do so only if the service is stellar.
 As perverse as it may seem, on the few occassions where a lady asks me to review and I tell her my guidelines, I have generally felt that I received an "extra efort" in exchange for the review.  A fair exchange?  Maybe, but I always wonder what it would have been like if I refused outright.

it was for daves list and she wasnt really happy with the results since imo the session was lukewarm at best.

My guidelines for posting a review are simple.

1) She must give her permission.
2) I will only post a review if it's positive.
3) I would never post a negative review unless it was a rip-off. In other words, if she tried earnestly and chemistry was at fault, I won't ding her for it.

The only way I'd write a bad review is if the lady were deceptive, a rip-off or just plain rude and nasty. Thankfully, since TER that has not happened. Only onece since being a TER member have I had a bad experience and that was because I chose to ignore the reviews posted. Nevertheless, the lady tried her damnedest and I felt she should be treated respectfully. In her case that meant no review.

My practice has always been that if a lady wants a review written, I will write one, but I don't unless there's an understanding that I would do so.  Some have asked spontaneously, some have consented when I bring the subject up, some have asked me not to.  YMMV, I guess

Every negative experience I have had have been the result of either lack of information or ignoring information.

When I started, resources simply did not exist: No TER, no internet (as we know it now anyway), no private lists (you couldn't even get it by mail till Dave). You built your own personal book of hits and misses, cause there was no way to share with, or even know who, your fellow hobbyists were.

As information became more widely available, only when I went outside it or disregarded it did I get burned. No TOFTT, cause there was no team yet.

So after nearly two decades, you almost have to CHOOSE to put yourself in a situation to have a rob or ripoff experience anymore.

Can you still have a chemistry miss, or an unsatisfying time? Sure. I don't bother to share those-they arent robs or ripoffs.

That way, my reviewing doesn't bleed too far into marketing.

And become a job rather than a hobby.

JJ

Especially when I first started out. When I first started on the east coast, it was very hard to gain credibility. When I started here, I asked for TER reviews and I received, what I feel were honest ones. I would never, ever want someone to lie in a review just because he thought I would read it.

One of the first gents I saw was Loverboy. He wrote one of my first reviews and I always appreciated it. I think that really helped my credibility when I started out here. So, I have asked for reviews, I don't regret asking for them and if a gentleman asks me if I'd like a review, my answer is always, "Sure, as long as it is completely honest!" And I mean that sincerely.

That said, I do have two fake reviews that for whatever reason, TER has not and apparently will not take down. It's probably pretty obvious which ones are fake.

Megan

PM, Have there been times when you did not ask and were happy a review was not provided?

I take reviews very seriously and always ask if the lady would like a review.  To me, reviews are a marketing tool for the lady and I want the lady to stay in business as long as possible so that I can see her again and again (selfish of me I guess).  I never ask for reduced rate or special services, I consider it an honor to review a wonderful woman.

I have had ladies ask for reviews on the first meeting and my reply is something to the effect that I only do reviews after seeing a lady multiple times, which is true.  I have only posted one negative review after seeing a lady once, and that was because I felt ripped off.

If I do pen a review, which I actually enjoy writing, I always forward the entire review to the lady for approval before posting, more to allow the lady to make sure I'm not posting something she doesn't want know.  My one rip off also had the opportunity to ask for changes, but she didn't reply.  So far, all the other ladies have appreciated the reviews and some have asked for minor changes.

Recently, there was a post on rating appearance.  Well, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and every lady I've seen has been beautiful beyond compare and I try to express that while we're together.  I disagree with the TER appearance numbering system, but to post you have to assign a number to appearance.    I mean, I'm no Brad Pitt and I know I'm nothing special, but I would also hate to have a number assigned to me.  When I look at reviews, I never use the appearance number to determine if I want to see the lady, but the performance number is important.

Just my opinions.

TC

I’ve rarely been asked to review and I’d never expect anything in return.  Must of what has been said here I agree with so I won’t take up space repeating it.  I would add it is very satisfying to write a positive review for a Lady deserving of it and I feel it our small way of giving back.

Absolutely. And anyone who tells you differently is a flat-out liar.

You can't feign chemistry. There have been a few times when I've had appointments and I just had zero in common with the guy and there is just no way to fake it. That's called, YMMV. YMMV doesn't mean that the girl or the guy has a couple of bad days and so the dates don't go well, in my opinion. YMMV is for those times when the person whose company you're in just doesn't mesh with the person you are. The girl or guy having a bad couple of days shouldn't be there inflicting that on each other, imo.

So, of course there have been appointments where I was glad a review wasn't written. In fact, with the amount of information TER requires for their "juicy details" in order for a review to even be posted, most of the time I'm glad when reviews aren't posted. I've never much understood why they needed so much personal detail, almost right down to a direct discription of what the inner labia looked like. But, this is a valuable site for me, and I'm grateful it exists and I'm grateful for the reviews I do have as they've kept my business growing.

Megan