guys tell me what you think.  i am an escort. love sex. i am very passionate and i love kissing.  however i can not kiss a person that i am not attracted to. iv tried but i cant.  the same in every other licking cuddeling.  i mean i can provide the accual ack with a great attitude.  but the rest is so visiably forsed i dont know how he could enjoy it.  like watching a kid eat food he hates. granted it is part of this job,  i am still the boss of my body.  so here is what i think.  i dont want to provide a service that isnt garented a 10. so that means i need and want to be attracted to my partner. screening before hand to make sure.  i mean are men confident enough in them selfs to do this. or does the egeo go along with the call. icould promise the best sex this way every time.100%

I think some guys will be confident enough to try. However if they don't make the cut there goes the confidence for some. Others if they didn't make the cut would not be troubled.

A number of men want to feel desired almost as much as they want the horizontal two step. That is one of the reasons GFE is so popular especially when it is all out GFE.

You could also just provide basic services and if you like take it up a notch and ask them not to post that aspect.

Frequently if a provider is playful and initiates activities despite that fact she doesn't DFK she will be percieved as a GFE by many clients. I know a number of providers who are total babes who are very playful and fun who don't really do GFE stuff but are still quite popular.

I for one wouldn't try you if I knew you had to be attracted to me. I can get regected at any bar in town. It's far less humiliating when your not offering compensation. Despite the fact that attraction is very subjective, ego's can be very fragile.

Just the opinion of a big ugly grey haired fat guy.
Or I could say a Tall silver distinguished gentleman.

I would suggest finding another line of work. Being an escort is in large part acting. You are being paid for a service. Many gentlemen seeing you are not going to be attractive to you, but your job is to make sure he feels that he is a Greek God! The service is to meke HIM feel good, not you!! Also, when seeking other employment I suggest it not be an English teacher

ouch that hurt..  no really i agree... about the english part.lol.  I understand that its acting.  but the attitude from the men sometimes,like they are so much better and have all this power. cant they ACT like they have some respest. yes i do think they are attracted to the girls,they picked them and if they didnt like the girl they sure would let everyone know.  there have been a couple of clients id like to expose to a review board. let every one know the "juicy details".
you come to us. i never wanted to be apart of this bigdoggie deal, didnt even know of it untill the review. i didnt even know "the hobbiest" and i had less than a great time untill i read the review,  all because of a b.j. he never even asked about? and according to the rating system i should have gotten a 10 for going the "extra mile" but he didnt mention that. maybe he left a bad tast in my mouth (no pun intended).  but you are right this isnt the job for me, if it has to be a job.

the first time I saw the lady, there was kissing, cuddling (and I love cuddling), etc.  But on the next visit, it was like hugging a damned 2 x 4.

I would have preferred her to tell me up front that she didn't kiss or cuddle (regardless if my looks came in to play, or not).  This would not have prevented me from seeing her again, but to be treated so cold on that next visit.... Never saw her again.

And no, I did not review her because I didn't know about TER at the time.

Now me, I love kissing and cuddling, but ya gotta read my other thread for that.

paying for it that they can treat a lady like crap.

Granted, since I'm paying for it, I want to get what I want (looks, build, race, etc.), but to treat her like dirt is not in my game plan.  

However, there are some ladies who are actually into that, so once a guy has experienced it, he thinks all working gals like it.

thank you Occularblues. i can respect that. and in the perfect world every man would act like you. i  understand what you are saying,  i appreciate the way you got your point accross. ill think about what you wrote. you have good energy.

oh  that is where you are missing my whole point. i would be fine with the ..."only one thing".  its the kissing and cuddling.  for the love of god, in my whole life iv never had a boyfriend who wanted to kiss and cuddle as much as a "hobbiest" does in one hour. i mean really cuddeling and kissing to me are so much more personal than "just one thing" sorry but that isnt an acting experience,  just reaction. so whats the other "i gotta read" mr IMHorne,

That way she could show off her attractive body and entertain gentlemen without having to kiss someone she doesn't find attractive.

With me, if I DON'T kiss someone on our "date", it's not half as much fun. I can find something nice and pleasant about anyone I meet, and I focus on that, even if he doesn't look like Brad Pitt.

I have dated guys who were extremely good-looking, but found they tended to be somewhat selfish in the bedroom. I am more attracted to personality and sense of humor--now that is sexy!


Kisses,
Chrissy

I for one love to kiss deeply and lots of touching.  I would love to think that the girl you are with is both attracted to you and having a great time.  Obviously, it may very well be an act, but i think it would be really cool to know that the person your with is attracted to you and is really enjoying herself...........of course it would not be so great if i was of the group that kicked off the island.......talk about a dis....you wont even take my money to be with me ouch.  But, personally, generally do like the concept noteveryguy.

thank you!! you feel where i am comming from. thats great

if someone waved $1. in my face and i was expected to go get it from him???   i would be pissed.  see i have no problem providing a service.  its providing it well.  in order for me to provide a 100%gaurenteed great time. i need to be attracted. otherwise im ripping us both of. i want to do this, i really want to do this. but if im going to do it it has to be done the right way. as long as i feel good about what im doind then im being true to myself. dont i desirve that? doesnt everyone?
some lawyers only take on casess they know to be honest.

Well said Chrissy Kissing, when you're into it, can really stoke the fire when you're enjoying each other. It's just a natural part of sex to me. You're right, there is always something 'nice and pleasant' to enjoy about anyone as long as they are good natured. Some of the best looking guys kill their attractiveness when they open their mouths and out pours 'attitude'. LOL

I can understand it is very difficult to Kiss and cuddle without attraction. I would have to practice to be good at it. Even then I could either make myself numb or sick and tired of it. A couple of years ago I met a girl who I was not attracted to in the least who was really wanting a one night stand. (on line experiement) She was not only unattractive but had cigarette breath. She was very clear it was a one night stand (so it wasn't like I was taking advantage of anyone) and I did it to see what it would be like to have to try and do it without attraction. I had to really focus to get through it as a guy but the toughest part to fake was the kissing (in fact it was damm near impossible. Now the odd part is you would think the most difficult part would be to get and stay errect but it wasn't it was the kissing. The concentration it took was exhausting. When it was over (after several hours like I promised her) I wasn't in the mood for sex for almost a month.

You are very sweet. I'm happy you felt comfortable with a little tongue n cheek at the end.

There are so many aspects to providers and hobbiests. The important thing is not to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. If you push yourself or allow yourself to be pushed into things you feel uncomfortable with you could end up loosing a bit of your soul. Reality is nothing without it's subjective filters, embrace your differences it's what makes life interesting.

Good luck in your decisions. If your ever into distinguished grey haired men give me a gingle.  

Peace.

noteveryguy needs to find another line of work. If she thinks the service she provides is for her and to make her feel good she surely is in the wrong line of work. She needs to be the one paying!!! I am not saying that you cannot enjoy some of your clients, but the ones that disgust you are the ones you need to make feel extra good. My guess is that she will not last long in this business anyway!

That is one of the most important parts of this profession...making someone who isn't exactly the handsome charming prince feel like he is while he's with you. Some of those men are the sweetest, most loving and fun guys that could be. If everybody on earth only had sex with the 'beautiful people' the average ones would disappear and we'd probably have a world of nothing but uppity, conceited, uncaring ones who wouldn't want to mess their hair or ruin their make up to have sex with each other! The end of the human race...now aren't ya glad there's us average people out here? LOL

This is getting WAY off topic now, LOL, but I disagree with your comment about certain lawyers taking on only honest cases because they want to be true to themselves.

Attorneys need to make a living like anyone else. Defense lawyers in particular would never be able to survive if they only took on innocent clients.

I know several attorneys and I always ask them how they can take on the occasional scumbag client or client with frivolous claim. They say first,(probably to make themselves feel better), they assume the person is innocent and has a good case(and BTW apparently the clients never admit guilt anyway); they try to work with the client to get off him with the least amount of jail time or penalty possible, or if it's an injury case, get him the best settlement possible (even if it does seem frivolous)--because it's their job to represent their client in the best light possible.

Getting back to your case, since you do want to do a good job, and don't want to do something else like dancing (although I do know Vegas dancers who make 2K a night on a convention night), I would just let the client know in a nice way up front that you're not much of a kisser. It they come back for more, then you know they liked you in spite of no kissing and cuddling.

Good luck!

Again, I do not mean to be too blunt, but you are selling sex for money, some men cannot respect that . They would say you do not have any respect for yorself, so why should they have any respect for you. I am not one of those types, and I do respect the woman and her limits, but I do also understand the other side.

The men that cannot respect women because of the job that we do can just go F**K themselves. I have total respect for me and other ladies that do what we do. Why is it assumed we are low class or have low self esteem just because of the job?

I had just this same conversation a few days ago with another provider and we realized that we are very needed in this world and many times provide therapy for the gentlemen. I, personally, know I've saved quite a few marriages and helped people thru difficult times in their lives. I'm not there only to be a body, but also to listen to, to comfort and make that person feel like he's really important even if just for a short time.

Women in this business also need to realize this and it will make them a much better person for it as well as pad their wallets better too. We don't all have to kiss and cuddle (if that's not your thing) and be fake, but have respect for each other and look at one another as human beings and treat them accordingly.

Ouch...I hate to say it, but your reply wreaks of a double standard. If in your mind this all sex for money, then I don't honestly feel you have the respect for these women that you boast to have.

Personally I enjoyed the extra two hours my provider spent with me just hanging out together afterwards more than any "act" that occurred earlier. I loved getting to know her and discussing views on sex, love and technique. Not to mention lively discussion on navigation and auto-mechanics. They are mothers, daughters and sisters. real people that have real feelings and job that evryone many seem to want to hire, but no one wants to stand up and say it's all good. IMHO

btw...from what I've read from you previously I don't think you really meant what you just said. I just feel you didn't choose your phrasing correctly. Now it's off to the Coyote game myself.

Sorry if my comments were misunderstood. I do NOT feel that way, I was just pointing out the obvious. There are some men that do feel this way, same as some providers feel that every man they see are horny scum.

How is that a double standard that women should show respect and courtesy to men when they are with them and it will not only benefit and help them grow as a person and make them money at the same time?

Don't we all wish we can find a job or calling such as this?? My other work that I do (in the veterinary field) makes me a happy person and fullfills me a way that other jobs haven't in the past and it makes me money at the same time. How is that any different than this business? I enjoy what I do, am good at it and make money too. None of us work for free that I know of.

What I was saying was that if the ladies would realize that honesty, niceness, respect and the ability to listen well among the other talents that they have it will actually make people want to come back to see them time after time - which in turn makes them more money. I'm sorry you find that statement to mean that all I want out of this is money. Just trying to get across to people that personality and niceness goes along way in life - not just in this business but in everyday life.

Hope you had a good time at the game

Between you, me and coyotefan. I know since this weekend there are different reason for everyone involved in this for doing it. But it has made me feel good both for myself and some of the women that it is not just business, but meeting and getting know poeple you otherwise wouldn't get the chance to.

The game was fun....and had I know Coyotefn2 was going be home I had an extra ticket and would have invited him to go too. Then we could have talked nice about you behind your back.

Well, unlike the Coyotes, you know you would've scored with Debbie!