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Re:What would you do with a regular that pulls a no show?
DonnaNextDoor See my TER Reviews 1395 reads
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Well that is bad form on her part.....But have you considered the possibility that she has been very generous with her time and that maybe you are taking advantage of the extra time she spends with you? If she likes you maybe she doesnt want to be rude and tell you that you are taking advantage. NO PEOPLE HE IS NOT TALKING ABOUT ME:) I think she should be honest.....but I have learned by experience that it is best to be honest. She should be honest but consider your actions too.
 There is also the possibility that she is having personal problems that are getting in the way...... regardless send her an e-mail or call her to find out. Usually it is worth the effort to work it out personally instead of publicly. I do hope you get the answers that you need. Sounds like you are great friends:)
I know that it sucks to wonder:)
Best wishes for this to be resolved:)
Donna

desertpoker3111 reads

As some of you may already know - I don't usually post messages on this thread...I'll post a review every now and then, but mostly I keep to myself.  However tonight I'm in need of some advice from both providers and hobbyist...

I'm the type of guy that usually finds a provider that I get along with and stick with them as a regular.  Since I travel alot for my business I don't really have a lot of time to try out new providers (as much as I would like)...Instead I like to have 1 (or maybe 2) girls that I can count on to be around when I am in town.  Well anyways here's the story...For the past 2 1/2 or 3 months I have been seeing the same girl approx 2 times a week.  When we get together it's not the usual 1 hour meeting instead we usually hang out for several hours watching movies, casino, talking, drinking, whatever...Well last night we were supposed to get together and go do something but she pulled a no show on me...Now normally this wouldn't be that big of a deal, but this was the 4th time that she has done this to me (3rd time with out calling)...Since then I've tried calling her and left her a text message and she has yet to respond. I've told her many times that I understand that things sometimes come up and that I'm cool with that as long as she calls me, but again she didn't...I'm not really sure what to do here...I really don't want to have to go through the entire screening process of a new provider again but I might have to.

The questions that remains are:

Should I give her a pass for the 4th time and see her again or should I start my search all over?  

Should I believe that she owes me a call to explain why she ditched me?

What would you do?

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freelancer2321 reads

Some people just don't get it. It comes down to common courtesy. Mya's advice is dead on...find a new provider!

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spike9993026 reads

Hmm- in the dating world- if a woman blows me off two times in a short period I move on.  I guess this is what separates the professionals from the woman who can't really handle the responsibility.  Move on- I am guessing this woman has problems in her life and its best if you find someone who has their shit together unlike this provider.  

Owe you a call?  What difference does it make- it will probably be a lie anyway. So would- "I was drunk or coked out of my mind", make it any better?   Or my boyfriend didn't want me to go? Sounds like you need to get away from her anyway.

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azhacker1587 reads

and you need to move on. Since this isn't a singular incident I'd guess (and it IS just a guess) that she mignt not be comfortable with some aspect of your relationship. Remember its a job to her, not knowing how the meter runs it could be feeling like its to much time...or it could be emotional or other issues.

All in all I'd say she's made it pretty clear something changed....

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northdak532521 reads

doesn't matter if its an Indy or an Agency gal.  I start looking for another one if they are consistently late by more than an hour also.

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Jazz Jewel2933 reads

I know of at least a dozen of fine fine providers that I've had the priviledge of spending time with.  Perhaps it is time for you to spread the love a little more with a variety rather than sticking to one.....

Good luck sweetie!
Jazz

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agentsmiff3097 reads

Dude.2 times I can see, but 4 doesnt sound like she was really that into the time you spenttogether.
Move on.

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DonnaNextDoor1396 reads

Well that is bad form on her part.....But have you considered the possibility that she has been very generous with her time and that maybe you are taking advantage of the extra time she spends with you? If she likes you maybe she doesnt want to be rude and tell you that you are taking advantage. NO PEOPLE HE IS NOT TALKING ABOUT ME:) I think she should be honest.....but I have learned by experience that it is best to be honest. She should be honest but consider your actions too.
 There is also the possibility that she is having personal problems that are getting in the way...... regardless send her an e-mail or call her to find out. Usually it is worth the effort to work it out personally instead of publicly. I do hope you get the answers that you need. Sounds like you are great friends:)
I know that it sucks to wonder:)
Best wishes for this to be resolved:)
Donna

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SAM4562506 reads

She should give you an explanation.It could be she that she is not used to your type of arrangement.

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VictoriaOfAz2161 reads

I think Donna is right on the money here. I think this provider got very comfortable with you and at that time wanted company and you were there to fill a need, but after awhile she did not know how to back up and it was easier to avoid you rather than tell you. It's kinda like sex in high school you cannot go to third base than expect the guy to only go back to only kisssing....i think alot of us provider have created the same situation at one time or another. It's hard to get a client back on an hourly date once you have spent several hrs. for no extra charge...I do feel if you wanted to still see her at here rate and you expressed this in a nice way she would be more than happy to see you again good luck....

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