I have a question for other providers and also for the gentlemen who post on here. Do you think that a gentleman should disclose that he has a buisness partner staying in the same place as him(meaning same house/condo/living space???) I have been booked with this gentleman  for a couple of weeks now, I'm calling for directions , I thought it was a resort but its somekind of condo type deal for buisness men here for a few days, and his associate/friend answers the phone.#1 I'm shocked someone else is there, #2 the gentleman that was my date did not even so much as give me a warning that there would be a friend and they too hired a date for the evening.  SO there is two people now there that I had no idea would be there. I'm a one on one VERY discrete woman, however I'm venting on the board for multiple reasons. Saturday night ruined/ I'm a preplanner by nature so I would not accept a last minute date without email first and references and proper notice. SO I'm basically screwed. (pardon my french) hehehehe. The point is I'm wondering if the other provider cared that this was happening, I do not understand why this gentleman did not have enough respect for me to tell me this was the situation, did he think I would disagree to the date??? I certainly would have and did, too bad its after I had this night saved and was heading to meet him. I did not ask for a cancellation fee, however I thought about it. I do not advertise that I only see one man at a time, I gathered the gentlemen should already know the respectful thing to do is at least ask if this type of arrangement would be okay for me. I'm sure some providers would be okay with it, I'm not. And I believe I should have been told this from our original email. Should I have charged a cancellation fee??? Well too late to think about it, I guess I'll have some fun by myself tonight! Thanks for letting me vent and if anyone(provider or hobbyiest) would like to give their input on my lost Saturday please feel free to enlighten a pissed off women who was dressed and ready to kill, now only to sit in front of the tv and eat some icecream .
Sincerely,
Brooke

I also travel to the area and own a condo that myself and a freind use.  I have always informed my providers and/or their agency that there would be two of us staying in the condo, but that there would be no interference from the other person.  I would also inform them if another provider was going to be present.  It's the only fair and honest way to handle things.  They then have a chance to decline the visit.

(though I'd prefer red wine.)  

Seriously, of course you did the right thing and he absolutely should have shown more respect for your comfort and safety.  He had references and so is not new to this and clearly should have known better.  Maybe an innocent mistake, but why risk it?



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I wish that I had have known that your Saturday night was blown (excuse my french) because I needed someones help fixing my DAMN pool pump again.  HINT HINT HINT Brooke!!!!!!!

he should have offered to pay you for your travel time

i think its totally disrespectful to have someone else there without disclosing that fact prior.. i expect to know who is there before i get there... .it's a violation of trust and if a customer violates trust that early on, you can be sure that he'll violate it later too.
i've walked every time it happened. its bullshit. double the men is double the risk and if a guy isnt smart enough or respectful enough to recognize that then he's not good enough to be my customer.