I don't post much here, maybe a few times in the past, I like to see what's going on from the sideline, however, I am compelled to write this in hopes of seeking your help...

I've seen several beautiful ladies over the past 12 months, just seem to have a major issue. I am married guy and frankly the sex is non-existant.  I won't go into details, because it's unimportant, however here is my situation.

Every single time I meet with a beautiful woman in Phoenix, I become so aroused, that I last about 3 minutes or less before I orgasm...Anychance of getting it up again is about zero!

So, I understand they call this "premature ejaculation". I seem to last a little bit longer if it's actual intercouse, I may last the full 3 minutes, but oral, forget about it!  DONE, over and out in a minute, and the pillow is over the head in shame once again!

The reason mentioned the lack of sex with the wife is, maybe I am just overwhelmed by female contact, sexy woman being with me, that I can't deal with lasting longer than just a few minutes anymore...Maybe I just don't have sex enough anymore? Can u get out of "practice" with sex? At point in my life, I was a pretty good lover, but not even close anymore.

I've tried pills, creams (desentizing stuff), masterbating techniques, it doesn't work -- it's in my head I believe...some of the ladies have mentioned there are men even quicker than I am......So I can't imagine I am the only one.

Supposedely this is bigger than any other sexual problems out there for men........BuIt, for me, I've had enough!!!!

Help!  Any thoughts, ideas, techniques, I would really appreciate it....It is bit of an embarassing topic, but I do need some smart insight from all of you!

I appreciate it....I'm not trying to be a 21 year old male again...Just would love to simple last longer and bring pleasure to me and may partner more often once again.

Thanks for hearing me out.

if your over 40 you've delt with this in one area or another. I relate in the sense that my wife went from being a total nympho to totally uninterested (not me {medical issue}). Duration can be a touchy and changing subject....I've run the gamut from "30 seconds over Tokyo" to almost 3 hours with channel (of course MJ had worked me over twice already that day)....the truth is it varies.

I think one thing is the confusion between sex and intimacy...I tend to gravitate toward women who are capable of both to great degree's. If you havent spent time with MJ, Isabella (Amore) or Rebecca I'd highly recommend all three. I think you need to get used to being intimate sexually (again)....not performing sexually per se. I dont know what your economic realities are but I'd suggest finding a gal you "click" with and spending time with her once a week if you can for a month or two. The only reason i'm sticking with indies here is the time factor. As a general rule all three gals that I mentioned are generous with there time attention and affection so you wont have a strict "Shot clock" {that doesnt mean to expect more time per se} but agencies have stricter schedules as a rule (but Taylor, Jack, Danny, Adam or Scott might all work with you as well).

What you truthfully need is a gal you like (who likes you) who will spend genuine time with you in a sexually intimate way without "getting you off" as the primary aim....once your comfortable agiain you'll get back to where you were....BTW all three of those gals can raise the dead so dont give up on a second shot to easily....

But maybe I can offer some advice.  You can always talk to a medical professional but you may have tried that already.   I agree with Hacker's comments on intimacy and learning to be comfortable with yourself and companion. If you cannot change this  then turn it to your advantage. Find a lady you can work with.  She is interested in your pleasure and you in hers.  Explore together the other wonderful ways to please her.  You may just end up the most popular guy in town!  

-- Modified on 2/17/2006 11:25:01 AM

to help you out, I'm not a clock watcher either....


Terri

..seriously. Be extremely happy you ORGASM! I mean, you are the only one responsible for your pleasure. If it is quick, find someone to work with for the second and third. That's the only issue. You are missing out on multiple times. That can be fixed by some of the charming ladies on this board for sure.

Any ladies out there think they can "pop" this guy again? Heck yea there are.

Sex is in the mind. It depends on what you truly want. Pleasuring her, yea, you can study that. I agree. But I would rather see you study yourself having lots mo' fun. That's been my motto in the hobby. I mean, "It's all about me" when I am paying for something. Now yea, some guys deeply enjoy the act of pleasuring a woman (note the choice of word). But what leads a complete stranger to want to pleasure a complete stranger? Cash on the one side I get.

Now, if you want to practice giving pleasure, I am sure your wife will not mind you working on her a bit. That's who I would practice on. By the way....

Peace,

Boy! sometimes I wonder. You gave good advice about trying to please his wife that's all in good, but your comment because cash is involved and your paying for it that's it's all about your pleasure...I hope I don't see you.

The pleasure you give and how you make us feel so good just makes the pleasure for you that much better.

Anyone can go get a wham bam thank you mam!!!!

You must be one of those guys that just lays there and does nothing....not for me and thank god I don't see many of you...other wise this would not be a fun job....


Peace be with you...

I'm certainly no sort of expert, but I like the idea I've heard on here of working with a particular Provider and having her help you make her feel good.  I can't last nearly long enough anymore either, but I know it's because I'm so incredibly turned on by the Providers with whom I've gotten to spend time.  I'm also old and diabetic, and I don't have the energy of many of the studs whom these girls get to see, so I have no means of making them feel like I would like to make them feel.  

There is one Provider, in particular, however, who said she will help me by putting together for me a list of things a broken down old diabetic might do to make her  feel good so that I can have some chance of making her feel what I do.

And I think, but I may be in left field here, that your real concern is that you would like to do the same: make her feel good too.

I certainly have no objection from a physical stand point (and I would be surprised to learn you did) about the fact that I'm getting good, albeit premature, orgasms.  I object emotionally to the fact that I can't make the person who was nice enough to make me feel this good feel good too.  So, I'm doing what the wiser men here have suggested.  I think it may help.  

I know we all have our own tastes, but if you read my other posts, you'll have no difficulty discerning whom I would recommend for such assistance.  I hope you find someone who suits your tastes to help you.  You seem like a nice guy, and I think it's great you Think About The Provider's Feelings too.

Fred

Theres a herb concoction called Nastura that lowers the recursion time for me to about 5-10 minutes from half an hour or so. I doubt it will do much for staying power   but if you negotiate multiple shots it might be worth a try.
Thats all the advice i have. you may want to talk to a doctor or psychologist as well. Also
Nastura while a dietary supplement causes most of the same  reactions as viagra so if for some reason you cant vitamin V then i would avoid Nasutra as well. You can find it at Castle for 13.00 bucks a dose so its even more expensive than V but i love the stuff,

Not a problem, but I'd love to know who you are so I would never schedule with you. When I am with a provider, it is all about me. When I have a Signficant Other, it is not. Not that sometimes I do not enjoy giving a Provider pleasure, sometimes it happens that I have a connection that is "comfortable", it is just not my goal. I save that for someone I know intamately as a rule. But on a first meeting, that rarely happens. Why should it?

Barbara, don't get confused here. These women have real lives, real boyfriends, real husbands. This is business. Do they enjoy it? Not my call. Of course, they all have to say yes. Do they have an orgasm everytime a guy pokes, licks, bites and they moan like in "When Harry Met Sally"? Nope. It is all part of the fanatasy that is this business.

As for getting "wham bam thank you mam"s, let me know where I can get them anytime. This hobby is about physical pleasure - unless I am NOT paying for it. Period.

As for it being a "fun job" for you, I wish you lifes best. And a book, "The Road Less Travelled".

Peace,