thank you!! you feel where i am comming from. thats great

The men that cannot respect women because of the job that we do can just go F**K themselves. I have total respect for me and other ladies that do what we do. Why is it assumed we are low class or have low self esteem just because of the job?

I had just this same conversation a few days ago with another provider and we realized that we are very needed in this world and many times provide therapy for the gentlemen. I, personally, know I've saved quite a few marriages and helped people thru difficult times in their lives. I'm not there only to be a body, but also to listen to, to comfort and make that person feel like he's really important even if just for a short time.

Women in this business also need to realize this and it will make them a much better person for it as well as pad their wallets better too. We don't all have to kiss and cuddle (if that's not your thing) and be fake, but have respect for each other and look at one another as human beings and treat them accordingly.

Ouch...I hate to say it, but your reply wreaks of a double standard. If in your mind this all sex for money, then I don't honestly feel you have the respect for these women that you boast to have.

Personally I enjoyed the extra two hours my provider spent with me just hanging out together afterwards more than any "act" that occurred earlier. I loved getting to know her and discussing views on sex, love and technique. Not to mention lively discussion on navigation and auto-mechanics. They are mothers, daughters and sisters. real people that have real feelings and job that evryone many seem to want to hire, but no one wants to stand up and say it's all good. IMHO

btw...from what I've read from you previously I don't think you really meant what you just said. I just feel you didn't choose your phrasing correctly. Now it's off to the Coyote game myself.

I can understand it is very difficult to Kiss and cuddle without attraction. I would have to practice to be good at it. Even then I could either make myself numb or sick and tired of it. A couple of years ago I met a girl who I was not attracted to in the least who was really wanting a one night stand. (on line experiement) She was not only unattractive but had cigarette breath. She was very clear it was a one night stand (so it wasn't like I was taking advantage of anyone) and I did it to see what it would be like to have to try and do it without attraction. I had to really focus to get through it as a guy but the toughest part to fake was the kissing (in fact it was damm near impossible. Now the odd part is you would think the most difficult part would be to get and stay errect but it wasn't it was the kissing. The concentration it took was exhausting. When it was over (after several hours like I promised her) I wasn't in the mood for sex for almost a month.

This is getting WAY off topic now, LOL, but I disagree with your comment about certain lawyers taking on only honest cases because they want to be true to themselves.

Attorneys need to make a living like anyone else. Defense lawyers in particular would never be able to survive if they only took on innocent clients.

I know several attorneys and I always ask them how they can take on the occasional scumbag client or client with frivolous claim. They say first,(probably to make themselves feel better), they assume the person is innocent and has a good case(and BTW apparently the clients never admit guilt anyway); they try to work with the client to get off him with the least amount of jail time or penalty possible, or if it's an injury case, get him the best settlement possible (even if it does seem frivolous)--because it's their job to represent their client in the best light possible.

Getting back to your case, since you do want to do a good job, and don't want to do something else like dancing (although I do know Vegas dancers who make 2K a night on a convention night), I would just let the client know in a nice way up front that you're not much of a kisser. It they come back for more, then you know they liked you in spite of no kissing and cuddling.

Good luck!

noteveryguy needs to find another line of work. If she thinks the service she provides is for her and to make her feel good she surely is in the wrong line of work. She needs to be the one paying!!! I am not saying that you cannot enjoy some of your clients, but the ones that disgust you are the ones you need to make feel extra good. My guess is that she will not last long in this business anyway!