Or at least, why keep hobbying?

I did the hobby thing for a little over two years, had great times, or at least lived in a fantasy for a good long while.  Even got lost a bit in my thinking that some of it was real, then, wham, was brought back to reality a few months ago, which has turned out to be a great thing.

I backed away from this hobby, started asking women out again, and am having the time of my life.  No time limits, no reaching for the envelope, and believe it or not, no pressure to commit to anything.  Spontaneity has returned to my life and the ability to call someone and take off at a moment's notice was something I missed, greatly.  And the contact goes both ways...women calling me is also something that I greatly missed.

I'm not knocking the hobby.  Hell, I needed it at the time I found it and I met some fantastic women who helped me when I needed it most.  I'm just curious as to why some of you guys stay with it?

Isn't freedom the essence of this community?  Freedom to pursue what makes you happy and satisfied, without regard to what the rest of the world thinks is "normal"?  Is it really that hard for you to understand others who are in a different place from you?

The truth is, people aren't all wired the same, and I think that our individual wiring can even change over time.  It sounds like that is what has happened with you...great!

We're all different, aren't we?  I don't have the ability or desire to see different providers for sessions on multiple days of the week.  Somebody else might not be able to go two days without a session, and doesn't want the same lady twice in a row.

Different strokes (pardon the pun) for different folks...but congratulations on your happiness!

Because he can!
That says it all.

Just my opinion...
B

For me, it's just that simple.

I did the relationship thing this last time for just over a year, had great times, even got lost a bit in my thinking that this was the one I could see spending the rest of my life with. When it ended, I was forced to face another kind of reality-that sometimes things just aren't meant to be.

Sometimes reality is the fantasy.

Having the hobby to return to has so far turned out to be a great thing. I got back into the hobby, started meeting new providers and am having the time of my life. No hassles, no dealing with prior relationship baggage and issues, no pressure to commit to anything. Variety has returned to my life and the ability to call a stunning lady and have a great time with relatively short notice, knowing it's only about the time it's for-no worrying about calling them the next day, wondering if this could be "the one", was something I missed.

And not having to field plaintive phone calls at all hours of the night because she "just wanted to talk" was also something I greatly missed.

No Strings Attached.

Congratulations on your new relationship, and I hope it works out for you and wish you all the best. I'm not knocking relationships. Hell, they are fun at the time and I have met two fantastic women who helped teach me things about myself, even when I wasn't necessarily ready to learn.

But frankly, if you don't have a relationship going, I'm curious why some guys wouldn't stick with hobbying.

I imagine I'll meet someone else down the road. Cause for me, hobbying is not mutually exclusive from finding "the one".

It's just another pleasant diversion along the way.

No Strings Attached.

But that's just how I look at it. One guys opinion.

Your Views May Vary.

JJ




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I guess the reason I do it is because I don't really want a deep relationship either.  I've been divorced twice, and, frankly, I'd rather be swimming in a tank with a great white shark than walking down the aisle again.  That's one reason.

Another is that I can spend time doing things that feel very good with women I know would never even talk to me if I met them somewhere else.  I like the idea that I can have a woman who, I find physically attractive give me the sort of attention I wouldn't get any other way.

It's expensive, I know.  I also know, however, that I will certainly never forget some of the experiences I've had with really great Providers.  I don't mean those who take $180, take care of you once and throw you our like last week's leftovers, but those who take the time to make you feel happy, alive, excited, and, even though I know it's an illusion, special.  I've been fortunate enough to have two sessions with a Provider named Brittney, from Desert Divas, who has given me nights I will never forget.  I know that I could never in a million years get a girl like her in reality, but I've had her twice in my bedroom, and when I can afford it again, I'll have her there a third time.

Part of it, for me, is that I have no idea how much time I have left on Earth.  I could be dead tomorrow for all I know, and I don't care to miss out on something wonderful simply because it's too expensive, or someone finds it morally questionable, or because it could be construed as being against the law.  I'm only here for a limited time, and I'm going to enjoy it as much as I can.

So, those are some of my reasons.

Fred

Sometimes the effort of picking up a girl (girls get to a "let him chase me" stage in life) and getting to the sex part is not worth my time. And I like sex. And I like sexual women. And I like beautiful women. And the answer is deeper than that. May you live all your life.

Hey AZJUSTJACK - I dug "the one" comment. Think she exists? I'll tell you a story about "the one" later. Those two words brought a smile to my face. Thanks...



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For me it's just plain easier. Don't want a relationship.Have a couple of women I see socially for conversation,companionship etc but sometimes I'm selfish and don't want to reciprocate.With pay per view if I choose to try and get her off it's for sport or to test her acting skills but at the end of the day it's all about me.Like a steak at Mortons. I want to groan with pleasure and not have to do the dishes

Hey buddy:

What do I know about "the one"? I thought I found her-twice. Seems not. LOL!

Does she exist? Hell if I know. Till someone can prove to me she doesn't, I guess I'll keep looking.

And hobbying.

How's your schedule this week? We should go visit Devin and hoist a few. I got this free admission VIP card I need to use up-cost me enough to get it..LOL!

Drop me a line if you're available-love to hear the story. Plus what else has been going on.

JJ

I know a hobbyist I am sure some of you recall, who when I met him (back in the Skybox days for those who follow hobbbying history) had just recovered from a very serious illness-some form of cancer if I recall.

His perspective was the same as yours-we never know when it's going to end, so try and live every day like it's the last one.

And why not? The only thing we get to take with us to whatever comes next is a head full of good memories...or regrets of the things you didn't do.

Live for today.

That's plenty enough reason for me.

JJ