As I am still basking in the glow of an overnight experience with a lovely provider, I will share my thoughts.  Part of the magic for me this past experience was how we opened up about our passions and interests.   I, being a lover of travel to exotic locations, love if someone makes me think they are interested in hearing my stories.  It is fun to then take a mental journey together to a place like Fiji and imagine the possiblities... Can be very erotic.   Most ladies that I have met, have great/ funny stories about their business or their hobbies- from sky- diving to raising exotic birds.  BUT please--- DO NOT ask however the conversation got us there, about my significant other  or my mother.  It happened one time and made round 2 impossible!

Hi Mya;

I, for one, like both.
There are times when the snuggle scenario is wonderful, giving time to feel each other's heart beating and a chance to unwind without words.
Other times, it's nice to look your lover in the eyes and talk about life and about your experience.

Sometimes both, after an intense round, it's nice to snuggle for a few then talk about it.

I guess I really didn't answer the question did I?

Every time is diferent and alot depends on the lady I'm with, what her preferences are.

Just my opinion...
B

Generally I'd rather hold on tight and bask in the afterglow. Of course there are times I have things to say or words I want her to hear.
If a lady needs to chat I'm all ears-certainly in that most intimate of moments/moods-and enjoy hearing both her voice and absorbing her thoughts and feelings.

I enjoy letting the lady set the pace and topics.  Too many times in my life I've been told that I monopolize conversations. Among the things I enjoy have common grounds.  Asking questions allows the lady to express herself.  Some examples:  Do you have a fantasy that you've always wanted to fullfill that I can help you with?  What do you want me to do next to bring pleasure to you?  Is there something I can do differently next session to enhance our experience?  I try to avoid probing into personal lives since some providers have compartments that you do not enter.  Talking about the business satisfies my deep, long lasting soft spot for providers.  It provides a chance for the lady to set the boundaries (I learned this painfully). One that seems in bounds is "Have you planned for your retirement, your children's education?"  I don't give advice, (Mars vs Venus) but I can offer relevant personal experiences of a long life if the lady expresses interest.  I do not gossip.  I may tell the story of a wonderful memory of a special lady of yesteryear if it is humorous, erotic, and fits in with the conversation.