You have some very good points here, Bottom line though money was exchanged for an agreed date to me that is what we do in this line of work... I did have the advantage of seeing him first....I know this hobby can be a crap shoot and that things are not always as they appear, like dated photos or no connection. I would take a chance if there were sites available to view men and see their reviews so far we ladies do not have a TER  to do our homework. Yes we can always back channel but most men on the few places I have seen are not what would appeal to my taste....you guys are lucky to have many choices and reviews to follow.I would be interested to know if anyone knows of any services here in the valley that cater to women or even in CA.....I assume they must mostly be UTR...Yes I would  pay without meeting first but would spend time on the phone getting to know him and would want current photos and if we meet and he was not what he represented  himself to be or had no references I would politely decline and maybe give him something for his time and leave....why engage  in an physical contact with anyone you might not find so charming everyone has the right to say no...your a smart guy I cannot see you going through with a date that you knew was not what you bargained for....Victoria