I am ready to kick my bucket list.
But.
While looking for a plaything what to look for to make sure its not the cops?
And please some basic do's and dont's for a first timer.
Thanks!

back on the Phoenix main page, upper right corner. Also go over to the FAQ for newbies board, use the TER general Boards drop down window to find it. Read back 5 pages on the newbier board. That should give you a good start.

Thanks
I have studied the FAQ for newbies like the Dead Sea Scrolls.  Great stuff!
My concern is LE   Most the tips were for the providers.
When I was in Nevada for a visit it was hardly a consideration.  But here is different.
I visited my first almost local provider recently. She had a review here and all went very well.
But I live in the sticks. Id like to find closer providers  But all the ones in my area code are not reviewed. Damn!
Then comes the temptation to try an unreviewed  provider. The really cute one with the same area code as me.
Very tempting.