So, not to be a downer, but seems it's that time of year.  Unfortunately had to cancel very last minute on some extended appointments  I was really looking forward to, and despite apologizing, feel terrible about it.  Any suggestions on how to handle this in this future without upsetting ppl and seeming unprofessional and flaky?  
As a side note..Have been touring here for about a month, and I have to say, the gentleman in Phx I have had the pleasure of spending time with far surpassed my past experiences.  Amazing community here, and def plan on coming back asap.
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Incentive would be nice however, a phone call, not a text or an e-mail may be persuasive and show that you are sincere.  Most people should understand. I hope you feel better and Happy Holidays! I would also like to see you after New Years or when you return.

Thank you  
Seems I have pissed someone off as a very fake review has suddenly been posted, but oh well.  What can you do?
Happy Holidays, and would be lovely to see you in the New Year as well.
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With illness being the prime culprit.  

Life happens, and since I do most of my hobbying while traveling, a missed connection usually cannot be rescheduled.

I missed seeing one of my ATFs on my last two trips to PHX...

I had an overnighter cancelled on me, but I did have some notice, and was able to adjust my plans that week.

Happy Holidays!

Feel better soon!

RocketMan

If I had an appointment with a provider and she canceled because she has the flu, I would completely understand and thank her for telling me.  After all, what are you supposed to do, get angry with her and demand that she provides the session anyway with plenty of DFK action?   That sounds a bit absurd, honestly I don't know about some people anymore.  

As for your initial question about how to avoid this in the future, I figure you meant how to not annoy your clients, but if they are getting annoyed anyway, then they are being unreasonable and there is nothing you can do about it.  

As a practical matter, you didn't say whether or not you had a flu shot this year, but that would be basically the only thing you can do to try to prevent this from happening again next year.  They are not always 100% effective, but you do what you can.  

So eat some chicken soup, and I wish you a speedy recovery.

I'd have about $23.00.  

Seriously, like others have said, life happens, and I'm always understanding of that.  I've had to cancel a couple times, due to cold/flu or a work emergency.   But I can usually tell when an excuse is bogus, and that's when it gets irritating.  To me, in this hobby, reliability is attractive.  And conversely, a lack of reliability is a deal breaker for future meetings.

Reliability is very important..and it is unfortunate when something like this occurs, as a person who values her time and therefore respects the time of others.  I do feel so bad having to cancel last minute when I know someone has gone out of their way to make time and arrangements to see me.
 I would completely understand a person not wanting to reschedule if I appear to be flaky, or, being sick isn't a viable excuse, however, posting a fake review that is obviously written to hurt someone's reputation is a bit cruel.  Did a flu shot, but, sometimes it isn't fool-proof.  Thanks for everyone's feedback
Tea and bed pour moi.  Je mal a la tete. lol
xoxo

I understand how these things happen. I caught a cold over the weekend and despite massive doses of vitamin C I had to cancel on a date I have been looking forward to for quite some time. Illness happens to all of us at some time and you would be horribly Inconsiderate if you didn't cancel. We are all in this to have fun and meet new friends. You did the right thing; now get some rest and drink plenty of fluids. Hopefully you have someone nearby to take care of you until you are better.

Under the circumstances, you did everything you could.  A fake review is a total bullshit move. If he doesn't want to see you again, fine that's his choice.  The good news for you is, you and I have never met and within five seconds of reading that review, I knew it was bullshit.  

Perhaps when you're feeling better you can let TER know it's fake and have them remove it.  

Until then, I hope you feel better.

If indeed the review is fake, you should explain nicely to TER and asked that it be taken down. Sometimes they will remove it but it isn't guaranteed. Feel better. You might want to let other providers know based on back channels of communication you hopefully have with other providers. I would not let a fake review go unnoticed.

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If someone is sick and calls me and says I feel horrible and DO NOT want to infect you, I'm a happy camper!

Imagine that??!  The person I trust to be with doesn't want to make me sick??! Doesn't want me to wind up feeling the way they do??! And they give up income to make sure I don't catch it from them??!!

Why that inconsiderate, self-centered witch!! I''l never meet with her again!!That will teacher her!!

Deprived, but not of respect and appreciation

END OF MESSAGE

Bad news is since you probably have the flu virus, there's nothing much to do besides treat she symptoms.    Decongestant for snuffy nose; cough medicine; aspirin for fever; etc.  Drink a minimum of 4 quarts of water and sugar free electrolyte fluid.  The more you drink, faster you flush it out.  

Since you're here visiting, if you start to get deep productive cough, and flecks of red in snot, it'll be nearly impossible to get into a normal doctor's office, but you don't need it.  Some Walgreen's drug stores have the Doc In The Box inside the store.  Good thing about them is they will diagnose, and prescribe everything in one shot.  They are also more likely to give you the Orange Drank cough syrup!!

As far as cancellations, it is what it is.  I agree with the idea that a live phone call would be the best.  It's like calling the boss when either you are sick or playing hookey **cough cough**.  

On booked appointments, maybe adding in a half hour gratis?

If you are lucky, it's not the anthrax flu I had that killed me for 2 weeks.  
Take Care
Dave

BTW, that will be one hour, please.  LO

Thanks...glad to hear you could tell; that alone makes me feel much better.
xoxo

Some people are simply impossible to please. I have the same problem in my profession. I am certain that TER will remove the erroneous review. Please let me know your schedule for Jan. xo

Contact TER and let them know it is a fake review.   For those of us that have had the pleasure to meet you it was obvious that the review was fake and/or vindictive.  The moment that reviewer described your physical appearance it was obvious he had not seen you!  For those of us that have had the pleasure of meeting you.....like me....we can't wait for you to return.  You are a stunningly beautiful woman.

Either pleasing a person I have a direct relationship with, or not displeasing them seems to have been ingrained into me--maybe a function of childhood?

Some where along my path. after escaping living at home, it struck me that no matter how hard I tried there would always be some one that was "upset" or out right "hated my guts" no matter what I did.

As a result I look into my internal values, the way I want to treat people, how I want to live my life, and then do the best I can.  When I fall short of my goals, my values, I remember that's part of being human.

When some one is upset, I listen....its easy for me to over look the obvious some times?  

At the end I have three choices, apologise if I made a mistake and see if I can make amends, sympathise with the person if I understand why they feel that way and then enumerate why I chose whatever I did, simply say "I'm not aware of anything to help you."  

While it may be just mythology, I've heard some women are not comfortable saying something as direct as "I'm sick and won't consider making anyone feel the way I do." Saying that is however inconsistent with my belief to let people to decide for themselves how they live their life, let them choose to be exposed to becoming sick.  But, I do not want to infect anyone, cause them to get what I have.

If you are sick, feel simply like "death warmed over" it should be self evident that you would not be good company to hang out with. Anyone who doesn't immediately recognize that, might be having one of those days, or could simply be someone who will be upset despite your best efforts to be the best you can be.

In my late 50s I heard this phrase that sums up my eventual outlook on life but had never succinctly realized "I neither want nor need your approval." When I tell someone that, I hope it underscores that i'm not interested in further discussion.

Too bad I didn't hear that phrase 10-20 years earlier.

Deprived

Grr!

Yes Victoria, thanks I know.
  I was asked to submit photos to prove I am not a middle aged fat lady (I suppose being relatively new to this, not having tons of reviews, and being relatively low-volume doesn't help my case; understandable considering how many ppl are mislead with bogus reviews and pics)... So finally dragged my butt out of bed this morning,  and sent them in....still waiting to hear back.  Was trying to wait until I could summon the energy to do hair and makeup, but just knowing that is out there is pretty hurtful.
On a side note; it is rather obvious that this was the work of a fellow provider, or someone who possibly wants to help someone they are fond of out without the knowledge of the provider. This is something that we all choose to do, and there is more than enough to go around.  Not to mention, different men are looking for different things.   Healthy competition and goals are great, but no need for negativity, or to try to tear others down to get to the top.  So sending a shout out for tons of happiness and success to all of the amazing, inspiring, diverse women out there who have the courage to live life as they choose, and not as society dictates.
You guys rock!
Can't we all just get along

Good to see the bogus review is finally down.
And well done on your last post.
Very mature and professional response.