Hi,

I also have to plan ahead due to scheduling and have run into similar situations of lost contact. Not a good customer service and will be dropped from my list quickly.

I don't believe that you are doing anything wrong. A lot of providers that I know, including myself, appreciate that much pre-planning and communication.

Must be a run of bad luck.  Flying by the seat of your pants without a schedule or plan in any business is risky business.  

The only real way to combat this is to post your experience with these ladies here on the local board and out them for their bad behavior. I've done it a few times myself when I've been stood up. This being a public board they still have the opportunity to refute your claims and other hobbyists can make their own judgment as to if the lady in question would be worth seeing in the future.  

Remember this rant goes both ways, the more communication the better for both parties, but if you think it's a good idea to out anyone provider on this public board then the hobbiest that has his panties in a bunch better be prepared to be black listed by any provider when the shoe is on the other foot and the male flakes out or cancels for some reason at the last minute.  
In short, really think things thru, when it could potentially hurt someones business.
As this can an has happened to most any of us who are involved with this lovely hobby

You are absolutely right communication is key and yes the rant can go both ways but quite honestly a provider should take a hit to their business if they cant be bothered to maintain contact and show up when they say they would.  

I am very similar in my approach and planning.  Nope.  Not over communicating.  I also plan in advance b/c opportunities come few and far between.  Being stood up like that would be very frustrating.  I'd appreciate it if you could let me know who did that to you so I can avoid the same situation.

Who knows why the provider flaked on you, and secondly, most of us have dealt with the flake factor that you described.  In my experience, this happens mostly when I had scheduled things in advance.  

This happens on both sides.
I love people to book in advance for 2  reasons. 1. Safety and having time to check out esp new people. 2. I am very busy and have a lot going on besides apts, and I like to prepare and be ready and well rested and have time to get all pretty for the date.  
However often Men book and usually they are from out of town coming here or if I go out town they pre-book. They cancel often at the last minute or just dip out altogether and don't even bother to cancel.  
This is very costly especially when traveling. Same day stuff rarely works for me. I am just too busy and could be on the other side of the moon so it's extremely hard to stop what I am doing and run back to get ready. The only same day stuff I have that ever works is if its a regular as trying to screen and verify anyone new that quick doesn't always work.  
I think the trick is to find clients and providers who are on the same page and there are just flakey people out there on both sides of spectrum.
For me the best way I like bookings is  
1. In advance with all the info provided up front time/date /location with full name and board info and provider info in one concise email.  
2. I then have time to review and check it out and then confirm date.  
3. I usually confirm a week ahead, 2 days and and same day I have suggested the call me an hour ahead for directions. This step is important. If someone on a first visit is unwilling to use the phone and then call again at arrival I won't do it.  
4. If you cannot make the appointment as much advance notice is appreciated.  
5. If the lady has traveled and you cancel it is my opinion that a cancel fee is in order.  

Excellent point made, very true and well-written.

I agree with you that this mostly happens when scheduling in advance.  I don't think I've had a provider flake out on me when it's been a same-day appointment.  I have had cancellations before on a same-day and I'm okay with that (communication is key).  I did have a list of alternatives, however, I really, really wanted to see this provider (her overall rating is above 8.0 and that's for a non-GFE provider).  So like a sucker, I tried contacting her 2 to 3 times during the morning because I didn't want to line someone else up and have the 1st provider say she was available then have to cancel the 2nd provider.  Now I will ask the provider to confirm by 9 or 10 AM and if not then I will start looking at m alternatives.

I'm sure that it's equally frustrating for providers since it's lost time and money.  Although it's definitely a different type of frustration.  For hobbyists at least we're not losing money and for providers at least you don't get blueballs.

Guys would be nuts to cancel on you!

I still think you have the most beautiful eyes of any lady in town!!
**sigh**

I have never canceled a confirmed date.  However, I have had no shows with reputable providers often.  Once I drove out of my way 200 miles just to see a highly reviewed provider and she was communicating with me to within 10 minutes of the appointment time.  Her last text was cant make it call me next time.  I wrote back telling her the effort that I made to see her but there would definitely be no next time.  

I don't mind if a provider communicates that she has to cancel it's the NSNR that has me perplexed.  I really want to see this provider (I know stupid, right) and am tempted to reach out again and try.  Should I or not?????

I have followed the 4 step process a few times with a highly rated provider (given the benefit of the  doubt), was verified only to result in last minute cancellations without explanation or follow up when asked why.  Unacceptable from a professional/business standpoint with zero consideration or respect for my time, effort and expense.