shanahanluu
Reviews: 11
With apologies to RichFatLobbyist off the TER General Board - this had to be shared with my San Diego friends . . .

Anatomy of a Hobbyist

1. First session, she blows you away.  Not just sexually, but you just had a BLAST.

2. Same as before, but more "Connection."

3. Frequency increases, durations increase, donations increase, travel ensues.

4. She tells you that you're her ATF.  You reply in kind.  Feelings are expressed. During pillow talk, she'll tell you about a couple guys who are blowing her phone up, and complain that they don't respect the boundaries of the hobby.  THEY are past ATF's.

5. The endless parade of Hobbyists continues through her door (high or low volume, doesn't matter).

6. One of those future Gents will become her ATF.

7. Communications will become disjointed; you'll work to salvage it.  While she's pillow-talking with her new ATF, you'll blow her phone up, and she'll whine to her new ATF about you because you don't respect the boundaries of the hobby.

8.  Rinse and repeat.


I had permission from shaunna to post this here saw it in SD  and loved it

Humorous, but on another level no doubt very true and a good reminder of the nature of the hobby -- especially for those who are overly fixated on the "connection" part.  Yes, being able to establish good rapport and an enjoyable comfort level is hugely important.  We're told that the main sexual organ is the brain (on that one, please feel free to post more humor!)  Thus for many, mental stimulation and maybe even emotional satisfaction in an encounter with someone who is sympatico is a big plus to help fully enjoy the physical.  (For example, just ask Gina Marie or someone who has seen her.)  However, apparently some sadly lose sight that it's all just a fantasy and end up crossing the lines of propriety -- the "boundaries of the hobby" as written below.  As long as the conveyance of a donation envelope is a prerequisite for what ensues, mental health requires that we not lose sight of the truth:  regardless of the level of pleasure let alone attentiveness and even concern received or bestowed, first and foremost it would not be happening except within the framework of a personal service business transaction.  This is not a matter of making the hobby "more" than it is, because it can be very, very good and shouldn't be trivialized, but rather of avoiding delusions that it's something other than what it is!  One would hope that all this is stating the obvious because then no one gets hurt, but from what's posted here from time to time, probably not.

While I agree with you fully, this personal service transaction involves sex, which is the single-most intimate, pleasurable, and emotionally fulfilling experience almost any of us experience (outside of some drugs, which is a whole different subject). This makes prostitution unique. When I'm with a provider, I'm literally merging my body with hers--that's a bit different from getting my hair cut! And whether we are designed by evolution or God, repeated sexual acts causes partners to form a bond, or at least strongly increases the probability of bonding. It takes a real effort at compartmentalization not to cross "the lines of propriety" when engaging in acts that, if some evolutionary theorists are right, ensure that couples stay together to raise children to continue the species. LOL! Anyway, that's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

I'm sure, earlier, in my hobby career, I was this.
But, as i've gonnen older, not so much.
I have a couple, of ATF's. Each, for various reasons.
Love the last item, #8 Rinse and repeat.

What's that song? "I'm Gonna Wash That Man Right out of My Hair."

fire the same synapses over and over in your brain and guess what - you become dependent on those synapses firing. cut them off cold turkey, and you'll experience withdrawal more potent than any chemical addiction. is "love" simply the addiction to those firing synapses?  I'm not that cynical. but does it happen in this Hobby - all the time. just go hang in the Newbie Board and give yourself a dime for every "I'm in love with my Provider" post.

every single one of us on both sides of the transaction are here for our own reasons, seeking out our own individual experience. for some, again on both sides, it's simply about the "benjamins". for others, again, on both sides, it's about filling some ill defined void. and there are endless combinations and variations of this formula.

maybe success is when both parties have the same or similar goals, and failure is when both have the opposite. when I first read this post on the GB I thought " ha ha what a mah-roon  (apologies to Bugs) - that would never happen to me"

Now?  nsm

or as my current ATF refers to me - "you're not a Hobbyist, you're my Hubbyist".   hmmm what's that blinking red light in the corner of my viewfinder?

thanks again for sharing this post sorry I spelled your name wrong .......you must be very special to become a hubbyist  lucky lady !

if you could spell it - it wouldn't be a good handle lol

touring San Diego soon I see - hmmmmmm

Shan

I notice that we seem to agree. I think as I get older, it is less of a temptation. I've been burned before, and I realize that even if a provider falls in love with me, or I with her, it probably won't work out. I had some romantic relationship with some providers, and of course they ended badly, probably because I wasn't more committed. Also as I've gotten older, I'm less inclined to seek affirmation in a romantic relationship. Now I'm more interested in mutual giving. For me, a long-term relationship would be best, but for now, I'll settle for the second best thing. "If that isn't love, it will have to do. Until the real thing comes along."

They say the definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over while expecting a different outcome....I am sure it will be different with my next ATF!!! :-P

isn't that free ?

Nothing is truly free....we all end up paying one way or another.....at least in this life you know what the bill will be up front.