She may not have as much blame as your sarcasm indicates... People have different life experiences, resources, and tools to cope... She probably doesn't have zero blame - but maybe not as much as you think. It takes many events to shape a history, and everyone's is unique.... Every person should try walking in another's shoes before they pass judgement.  

Anyway... Gina's post is very valuable, this is a great thread to shed some light on an aspect not often discussed constructively on these boards.