When I was in my 20s, I walked around with an erection all day even when I didn't want to.

Then, in my early 40s, my strong family history (genetics) of diabetes took over and I got it bad along with ED.  For a lot of us men over 40, either diabetes or blood pressure or vascular disease or something gets in the way of normal function.  More and more men are getting it as people live longer and don't die of other conditions.

Viagra/Cialis/Levitra have worked sometimes but other times not worked for me.  "The shots" work but it is a lot of coordination to use that approach.

I've been with only a small # of providers over the last four years but each handled my ED differently - one tried humor, another became "clinical", one was overly sympathetic like I was dying, and another said she was uncomfortable as it was her first time ever dealing with that particular challenge.  Some made me feel fine, others made me feel uncomfortable.

To all the providers, what advice would you give to other providers about dealing with this particular problem?  Anything you can share is most appreciated.

Any other hobbyists who have experience with this are most welcome to share thoughts too.

Smart Ones Would Suggest The Little RED Pill

You might consider trying Love Unlimited; the little RED pill.   It's guaranteed to work, and unlike Viagra, is safe to take with alcohol.  

Many well-known providers and respected hobbyists here at TER can attest to the efficacy of this product, including me.  Maybe some of them will weigh in on this thread.  My husband takes it regularly, and I have recommended it to many clients, as well.  I have yet to hear that it didn't work.

Love Unlimited increases sensitivity, making it even easier to achieve explosive results.  Also, it reduces and in some cases, eliminates the refractory period.  Most importantly, it lasts for up to 3 days!  You don't stay hard all that time, it just makes it much easier to go from flaccid to erect.  

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Best of luck to you,

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http://LoveUnlimitedUSA.com

YOU need to inform  the provider you are seeing BEFORE your date and give her the  option  some of us have more experience and are more able to deal with  this  others not so much..... like any disability it is better for both sides  to know in advance  Then find the one or several that works  best with you  and enjoy  yourself  remember  sometimes its not the destination  that's  important  its the journey  your  taking . have fun  too!

thnx V...as always i appreciate your wisdom

There's all kinds of ways to work around it

My pro advice is tell the provider the truth & give her the opportunity to choose if she wants to deal with your dilemma!

Not all people are blessed with patience mine was developed currently within the past year, or two!  hahahah

Smile 4 me! xo

Both ladies are spot on  there are other ways  to skin a cat  and you have to  be willing  to have patience,,,,, true enough but.....you also have to   be honest with the provider and know we are not Jesus  and cannot raise the dead....so when you the hobbiest know its not going to happen .... you need  to cut your and her losses after the amount of time you have booked and not be upset  just be  content to enjoy  the ride provided.... it all feels good ....  sex  can be like Pizza  no such thing as a bad slice some just taste better than others!!!!

I have some problems with ED because I take SRIs. Something like levitra or viagra helps out considerably, but I usually still have some issues. I usually tell my ladies beforehand so they understand. The kind ones usually understand and sometimes even feel guilty, but there is no need for that. There are certainly other ways of having fun during a session, and everyone can leave happy.

In my experience as a long suffering Septuagenarian (one who is in his 70s), I have battled ED for many years. It's not just age. I have several conditions for which I take medications that interfere with erections and I am diabetic.

None of this prevents me from enjoying the hobby and the friends I've made because of it. It's in the attitude you bring to the encounter. If you are upset that it may not happen, I assure you, it won't. If you come to enjoy the naked company of a beautiful woman and you have worked on your oral and manual skills th help your lady enjoy herself, you may be surprised -- by her reactions and by your own. I've experienced marvelous oral sex, receiving as good as I've given.

How much enjoyment you get from this is up to you, but if you go to the encounter expecting too much, you will surely be disappointed. Know your limitations. Build on your strengths. Hone your skills. And as a lady pointed out, communicate with your partner before hand.