Hi BeerGoggles --
Well, that is an excellent question, and one that many of us have faced before... You are not alone. When I see a new provider for the first time, who has no reviews, and no references from anyone I know who has seen her before, I will often ask on the phone: are your photos accurate? Don't be shy! If she is offended, then leave it. That is her problem. Call someone else. There are plenty more out there.
I will often make it very clear to a new person before coming to see her, that I will leave immediately if she does not match her pix. And I have done that now more than once.
I realize your quandary, since she had driven out to see you. If you really don't want to go through with the date, then I think a fair thing to do would be to pay her half of the fee, and ask her to please leave. But even better is to make it very clear up front before you ever meet what your expectations are. Then there is no confusion and you are not to blame. Of course, you cannot ask about specific acts on the phone (that is a no-no), but I believe it is perfectly fair to ask about her appearance. Old photos and heavily touched up ones are simply false advertising -- lets not beat around the bush, that is exactly what it is. Don't be afraid to call someone on it. If she says she looks like her photos, and she shows up and is clearly 5 -10 years older than those photos, then don't think twice about not letting her in.
There's my 2 cents, for what its worth!
I had my first experience with a provider not too long ago. She was very very nice, but not at all what I was expecting from her photographs.
To be honest, I really didn't want to go through with it.
But she mentioned she drove quite a ways, and I basically made a commitment and followed through with the appointment.
I will restate, she was very nice, but I couldn't get into the experience because I just wasn't tremendously attracted to her. If she looked as good as she did in the pictures, I might have been.
Is there a polite way to go about backing out of spending a few hundred bucks if you decided on spot that this provider wasn't what hoped for? I have read so many experiences of providers missing out on appointments, and as I am sure it happens to them as well... I really just want to know, if you make the appointment, and you stuck?
(I have no intention of providing the providers name. Please don't ask. This is not an attempt to smear anyone as much as it is trying to understand etiquette.)
Hi BeerGoggles --
Well, that is an excellent question, and one that many of us have faced before... You are not alone. When I see a new provider for the first time, who has no reviews, and no references from anyone I know who has seen her before, I will often ask on the phone: are your photos accurate? Don't be shy! If she is offended, then leave it. That is her problem. Call someone else. There are plenty more out there.
I will often make it very clear to a new person before coming to see her, that I will leave immediately if she does not match her pix. And I have done that now more than once.
I realize your quandary, since she had driven out to see you. If you really don't want to go through with the date, then I think a fair thing to do would be to pay her half of the fee, and ask her to please leave. But even better is to make it very clear up front before you ever meet what your expectations are. Then there is no confusion and you are not to blame. Of course, you cannot ask about specific acts on the phone (that is a no-no), but I believe it is perfectly fair to ask about her appearance. Old photos and heavily touched up ones are simply false advertising -- lets not beat around the bush, that is exactly what it is. Don't be afraid to call someone on it. If she says she looks like her photos, and she shows up and is clearly 5 -10 years older than those photos, then don't think twice about not letting her in.
There's my 2 cents, for what its worth!
Sometimes the pictures are old, and just not very repesentative of what the lady looks like now. Whether it's to intentioanlly mislead, or just laziness is irrelevant. It still sucks. I've never had it happen, but I think I would politely tell the lady that she should update her website, or her ad. I would never expect her to go away without some compensation. I think half of her rate would be a fair amount. I do hope it never happens to me, as it has to be a very awkward situation.
If you go to her and have this problem, there is no need for any compensation to her. But let her understand why you are leaving.
..there are several solutions to your problem.
1. If she is not terribly attractive, then grab a blindfold (one of those sleep masks that the airlines hand out on long flights works great) and tell her that you want to do something a bit kinky. Put on the blindfold, lay on the bed, and have her do all of the work. You can imagine that she is someone else.
2. Alternatively, have her lay on the bed, go between her thighs, and DATY for the entire session. (If you booked her for a three hour session, this probably is not feasible.)
Either way, you won't have to look at her.
I'm sure than many of the providers whom have seen me would have been happy if I had given them blindfolds when I showed up at their incalls.
Reputable providers will ALWAYS have up-to-date photos for your perusal. In my opinion, I believe that irrespective how far this woman claimed to have driven, you don't owe her a dime. It is false advertising for someone to use old/outdated/outright faux photos and if a woman is going to deceive, she shouldn't be rewarded for it.
I'm curious why the gents here think it's fair (to themselves) to give the girl 1/2 of her donation? My rate is $300...if I were a less than professional provider without a conscience, I could make a damn good living doing nothing but driving to and fro simply by putting up fake pics if I could get $150 every time a guy turned me away. You're still rewarding her for her behavior and rewarding her pretty damn well at that. Hell, why take the photos down if she can get that much just to show up, turn around and go home?
I say you simply tell the lady, "I'm sorry, you don't look anything like your photos and I chose you based on what the photos depicted. As a result, I'm unable to go through with this appointment. I wish you the best of luck, have a safe drive home."
If you REALLY feel like you need to give her something for her drive..give her $20 for gas. Chances are, that $20 would more than cover however much gas she used to get to your place and back. Ultimately, it is HER fault you didn't go through with the appointment. She consciously chose to try to dupe you to get appointments so in my opinion, she doesn't even deserve gas money. Had she not used fake photos, her time wouldn't have been spent/wasted. The onus is on her!
That's it, end of story. Keep every one of your dollars and use them on the lady whose photos truly depict her because she's a professional with a conscience and deserves your money.
Love,
Andi
Well said Andi! I was thinking the same thing - why would you give her half her rate? $20- 25 bucks for gas is generous enough for someone who obviously knows that she has old/fake pix!
Saw a provider recently that clearly posted photos that are at least 20 years old. She was bubbly and friendly so went thru with the session and gave her decent reviews, which was hard to do. Bottom line, wont see her again...
I appreciate all of your responses.
The funny thing is, I read her reviews, they were excellent. Her site has had new pics and so on.
I was stunned. She was the girl in her photos, no doubt. The photos just had a ton of photo shopping.
Like I said, the difficult part was, she was a doll. Sweet, nice and so on. The problem, I don't think I would have picked her up at a bar, much less paid.
Very well said Andy & I agree reputable providers will always have recent photo's.
I've only had that happen twice & both times were basically TOFTT deals and really didn't require a lot of flowers. I've always wondered what other guys do about this situation.
One thing I always remember when it comes to dealing with a lady with no track record is when looking at the there pics if it looks too good to be true is probably is! I'm not a fan of the glam shot pics too much touch up. I'll take a pic phone shot in the mirror any day.
I do like that idea of making it clear over the phone if the pics aren't you I'm leaving or your leaving.
My .02
Fly