Phoenix
Do some of you guys think you're really that untouchable? Give me a break! Yes, I'm pissed. When I tell you not to mention my Incall, do you friggin' listen? Is your privacy that important and do you respect other's privacy? I'm sorry, but this is a wake-up call.
For those of you who think our privacy is not as important as your privacy is, think again. I would never give out personal information about hobbyists. Why give my information out? Maybe providers need to send out a black list as to the men who don't respect our privacy. Remember guys, LE is just waiting for us. They don't give a rat's ass about you. This is plain "insanity." You guys mention how important your privacy is, but you also need to think of our privacy. Think with your big head and not with your little head, please! 
This also includes clients who don't pay attention to our directions and decide to go it on their own and wonder why they are lost. Hello! I'm ex-military. Don't go to Mapquest, because I give the best directions and make it so simple for you. And . . . I tell people all the time that Mapquest is incorrect in my area, but do they listen?
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be an a_ _ hole, but this is getting ridiculous. I've had many providers email me to tell me this is getting out of hand. Guys: Think before you speak and post. Please use common sense. Do not use anything in a review that might endanger or hurt a provider. You don't need to mention what the Incall looks like or the subdivison, or someones artwork, or whatever, especially if you're asked not to give out that private information. We respect your privacy, you need to respect our privacy. Do you not believe we are human beings with personal lives and work? We're not just on this planet to please you. We have personal lives, work, school, and lots of other things that are threatened by your bad choices/actions and LE -- a very difficult lifestyle to lead at times.
It continually amazes me to think of the ignorance on this planet. If you question something, then ask the provider. When all else fails, just don't mention it. HELLO! 
Hugs,
Ciara
-- Modified on 10/31/2007 10:11:20 AM
What other precautions could I have taken. I am already very cautious about my whereabouts. I tell men at least three times (one before I meet them, second when I see them, and three in my "directions page" written in bold). How much more can I do to protect myself? It's a matter of someone who was not thinking and spilled the beans. He knows he was wrong. That part is not necessarily unforgiveable but very stupid on his part. But then he tried to justify it instead of apologizing and realizing what he had done. That is what really made me angry. And . . . I still haven't outed anyone that were guilty of doing this in the past. We all make mistakes, but this is a mistake that is not so easily forgiven. How would you feel if someone outed your activities or your whereabouts after you specifically asked them not to write anything about it or backchannel other people about it?
There is a lot of talk on this board about providers respecting hobbyists' privacy, but then what happens when they don't respect our privacy? We just say, "We'll let bygones be bygones." Hell no! That is exactly why I am mad about this. Guys cannot continue to play stupid and get away with it. What if we did that? We'd be crucified. Now, I have a funeral to attend this weekend. I'm tired of this.
Again, if you don't know about something, then don't say or post it. H E L L O -- common sense, you'd think.
Hugs,
Ciara
I have to apologize for sounding mean. That is not like me. I guess at the time I really didn't think about how I sounded as long as I got the point across without mentioning names. And Ana, I think you know the type of person I am. It takes a lot to get me riled up, and I think I am a very positive person, especially with everything that has happened to me lately. Clients will have to admit that I'm very personable to be around.
If you could see the "directions to my place" I send out to my clients then most would realize why I am so upset. I tell clients at least three times in person, in my email back to them, and in my "directions page" about certain things I don't want mentioned in a review or told to anyone through backchanneling. Yes! The guy in question is very nice. Yes, I am mad about it, because someone just being nice doesn't cut it when it comes to my safety and privacy. No, it's too late for TER to do anything about it and I don't blame them.
When your family is sick and you've lost someone, and others are sick around you, a person tends to lose their cool after awhile. I, too, had surgery awhile back (and no, not cosmetic surgery). Between my family members being sick, all the drama on the board here (which I try not to get involved with anymore), my own healing and still seeing men and making them feel pampered without them even knowing what's going on in my personal life has been a challenge, but one I accept. It has been hard to accept that some guys really don't think about the repercussions of their actions. How many ladies have done appointments right after surgery and still made the guy feel like he was the only one on the planet? Not many, I'm betting. However, those who do know the effort that goes into our business and know the trials and tribulations involved will understand. Yet some forget to realize it. We become robots to some people, and you know what? That's okay as long as you respect our privacy and treat us nicely.
We all have our down time and get discouraged, but I feel like I have always conducted myself in the most professional manner when I'm with clients. I treat them like royalty, do not gossip about other women, do not talk about bad things in my family, and try not to destroy the trust or fantasy experience for the gentleman.
I realize some men really mean well when they write a review, but they don't think about what certain things will be revealed because they feel the need to be helpful or courteous. That's understandable, but if you're in question of something, don't write it or say it, especially if someone tells you three times and also states it in print. H E L L O ! ! ! Gossip then starts and gossip hurts, especially if LE is watching.
Now, back to your regular-scheduled program.
Hugs,
Ciara
-- Modified on 10/31/2007 11:39:43 AM