For a first timer with no references, what's the best way to get started?  I'm pretty leery of giving out too much information these days.  I've seen some websites like Date Check, are those a good idea and what's the most accepted one?  Thanks.

Date-Check and Preferred411 both are good!

I agree with Jen...here are the links for you

http://www.date-check.com/faq.asp

http://www.preferred411.com/index.cfm

Most of the gals will accept these as references
good luck babe, and happy hobbying
xoxoxo
Terri