look online too - plenty of sites that can connect you with a lab with results in 24 hours - pricey though, and you should check again at 3 and 6 mos since some infections take that long. however - a Provider is a pretty safe bet accident wise - they run a business and they usually see a Dr more often and regularly than a Civie.
I thought I would go a step further. I recently had a date where he full on finished with a purposely broken condom (he brought). I proceeded to get up, & noticed something was different... I then addressed it with him & I could instantly tell by his poor acting skills it was entirely intentional.
I know the reasons why he tried that, but to me they are not logical whatsoever. What do we as providers do when our basic human right is violated? To me it was an insult to injury considering he actually thought I was foolish enough not to know what was truly going on.
Thoughts? How should we as providers respond without entirely creating a buzz kill. Let me tell you, the mood definitely changed when the term "baby" was being thrown around...and not in the form of endearment!
This is not BBFS. Condoms do break.
One solution would be to not allow clients to buy protection. This way you know there would be no "tampered" with issues pertaining to something that is this important to you (and him for that matter).
As for the violation portion of this post anyone pulling anything remotely this dangerous intentionally should be blacklisted. Other reputable providers should be made aware of this individual.
I read your paragraph and am alittle confused, outraged, sympathetic or all combined. Since I see you are using an alias, you really don't know what to do either. I definitely dont have an answer except always bring your own condoms with you. Occasionally condoms do break but very few and far between is the norm. Whoever you are as a provider, there is no consolation that some guy wants you as his baby's mama because you were not a willing participate. You were lied and deceived. Should you notify him that he did wrong YES, should you tell him that you are going to warn providers of his warped scheme YES, after that If you go to authorities, I cant blame you but then you have a world of explainng to do. I hope things go better
I am sorry but something here does not quiet fit are you saying this is someone you have not seen in the past or someone you been seeing ? Very odd a complete stranger would want you to have his baby and go to these lenghts to trick you unless he was a sicko from the start and if so what had his references told you ? I am sure if this was his MO Believe me we as providers would of told you. Intersting also you said "I know why he tried that " how did you know? Maybe this is just a random bad time with a crazy but another good point why did you suspect he tampered with the condom ? Maybe you should take charge of placing and inspecting the condom most of us do that and supply them...not trying to appear mean here just got me thinking hon......PS blacklisting is not something to do lightly we need the facts from both parties point of view.....unless it is a no-brainer.....
If I read the post correctly, and a Client intentionally used a broken condom so he could get BBFS, and there was exchange of bodily fluids - which is how I read her post - that this act on his part was intentional - then I stand by my post to Blacklist him. Accidents happen, this didnt get portrayed as an accident.
I sure don't. I mean, trying to slip one past you (pun sort of intended) by not using a condom at all, I get. It would be painfully stupid, but I would get it. Want the whole uncovered experience. But to try to slip in a doctored condom that would break? None of the skin on skin contact during sex, but it would break when all the fun was over? He's intentionally tried to get you pregnant? Seriously, is that what he's trying?
I think that as a provider, you certainly have every right in the world to lay down some ground rules. As far as basic human rights, I would certainly say that, yeah, not being impregnated or worse, diseased by some asshole is definitely a violation of your human rights. But I think I'd like to know more of the story. This sounds like a dickhead boyfriend more than a weirdo hobbyist.
But bear in mind that I'm a little stupid.
1. Always bring your own supplies
2. Go to the doctor for the morning after pill if you aren't currently taking birthcontrol
3. Get tested every 3 months for the next year or two
Its hard to be 100% certain of someone's intentions. They may not even know themselves.
Its a proven fact that as we near orgasm, oustide distractions diminish and we become only focused on the approaching orgasm. Its very possible that the client did not notice anything different in the feel of the condom.
Condoms do break or slip off. In the heat of the moment, two people are going at it hot and heavy. They may not notice the condom is broken or gone until its too late. Giving the client the benefit of the doubt, his "poor acting skills" might have been embarassment, apprehension and fear. Gents tend to act sheepish when they experience these emotions and they aren't sure how you are going to react.
I would not blacklist this client unless he literally pulled the condom off and dove back in.
Accidents do happen...
Thank you Gina, another informative post you are truly spot on here
Please blacklist him for our safety . If you do not want him to do that to another provider then BLACKLIST HIM
I personally can not take birth control it really does me damage emotionally. so I know if he pulled that crap with me there would seriously be baby talk
the poster and you are alias interesting when feeling so strongly why hide? As Dr. Phil wisely said " there are two side to a pancake" we have heard one and as Gina wisely said maybe it was not on purpose so if that might be true do we ruin his name ???????
That's it. Just a sarcastic comment about Dr. Phil.
I had a client who done it 2 times on purpose.Each time acting innocent till i found out from another girl that he had been doing the same thing at the same time with her.I was mortified and since I do not believe in murdering innocent babies if i were to get pregnant I would of just had another child to take care of. Some men are fucking loosers.This guy sounds like one of them.Oh and btw the last time my client did it i found pieces of shredded condom all over my carpet.I was so horrified.And it was my condom not his
She asks for our thoughts on this issue while leaving out vital facts. As Victoria mentioned, the OP stated she knew why he did this. But she didn't say what it was. Without this reason made clear it is impossible to give an objective opinion on this matter.
This wasn't a stranger, or a first time encounter...it was probably the 4th date we've had thus far. On the third date, he professed that he had feelings for me. I didn't bite too much into them, and they weren't discussed in depth. How do I know it was intentional? On one of our dates before the condom "broke" he kept joking about kids. He kept bringing it up in the kind of way that you're serious while saying it in a joking manner. The only way to actually say it out loud without the other person raising their eyebrows.
That's a little of the history. Say a condom broke on accident, there would typically be fear in a mans eyes, but in this case there were apparent lies sliding off his lips trying to act surprised & shocked.
Thanks for the additional info. Now it makes sense. Yes, I've had condoms break on me and damm right I had fear in my eyes! LOL
This guy sounds troubled. Impregnating a woman without her consent is very low.
Take care, HB
But seriously... why not out a dangerous guy like that?
HH
I would crap if my condom broke. I try to be extra careful being married since its not just me I am risking. This brings up a question in my mind. If one did break what the hell would I do? Where would I get checked without arsing suspension? It would have to be someplace I could be checked quickly and get results back fast. I don't know how long I could get by with putting the wife off without A hurting her feelings wondering why I don't want her or B Making her wonder what was up...
As for condoms I cannot keep them around but most times i will stop and by a small pack on the way over to see someone just in case. Been in the spot before she ran out and I had to leave and come back.
Maricopa County Health Clinic on Roosevelt does a full panel of tests for $20...you can't beat it!
Testing is anonymous but you may have to wait two weeks for the results.
Planned Parenthood is also an option, except they are more expensive.
You know for $20 that would be good piece of mind for us gents too getting checked every 3 to 6 months. I'll have to go check it out. So if someone I met sees me in there don't worry its just for piece of mind LOL
look online too - plenty of sites that can connect you with a lab with results in 24 hours - pricey though, and you should check again at 3 and 6 mos since some infections take that long. however - a Provider is a pretty safe bet accident wise - they run a business and they usually see a Dr more often and regularly than a Civie.
The clinic at $20 sounds nice but thinking I would opt to pay the premium for the quicker results.. if I held out for two weeks with wifey she would know something was up. Then prey to the titty gods I am clean at 3 and 6 months.
I just hope I continue to have good condoms. Maybe having my own would be a better option. Leave them sealed in the box so she can see they are fresh untampered with.