I was browsing thru the site today and noticed on the front page a survey question....

Would you leave the hobby if you found your true love??

When I made my vote and the percentage showed in favor of the no's, I was really suprised...

46 % - Yes
53% - No

My vote was with out a doubt YES!!!

My question is, how could it be true love if you continue to not be loyal to your so called TRUE LOVE?

I found the love of my life, before I found the "hobby". While I don't play much....ok, hardly ever. I still enjoy the women and hanging out with others that share the interest. Besides, my wife knows I'm here and met a provider with me.

Not to mention, some of the lovely ladies have s/o's and don't quit. I mean are any of here looking for true love?

"If you can't be with the one you love, love the one your with."

At times I have lost hope in finding "true love." But yes I would give up the variety and spice to have the one whom I adore. Having BBsex, being spontaneous and not having things planned, waking up next to someone and thinking I'm the luckiest woman. Yes, you bet I'd quit!!
~Carlee

For the record, I voted "Yes" to the question as I'm longing to find someone to pour all of myself into.  

With that being said, the late Faye Desiree introduced me to the concept of "love without attachment".  The thought being one can "love" another one without the "baggage" we normally associate with a monogomous relationship.

I once dated a woman (a provider) who encouraged me keep seeing providers as she wanted our relationship to be as casual as possible.  I really didn't "get it" and even though I tried to see providers while seeing her I just couldn't bring myself to do it.

I guess I tend to be monogomous even though a lot of people feel men are "wired" not to be.  

In the case of "true love", I guess that would be subjective since two people might come together and form a bond that won't make sense to onlookers but makes perfect sense to them and would result in "true love" for them.

I dunno, for me if my partner was honestly open to me seeing providers I guess that would have to involve BOTH of us as I couldn't do it without her around.  In fact, there are some providers I've gotten to know over time and once I meet their spouses (or whatever) I disqualify myself as being a client of theirs since I consider them to be "off limits."  I do realize a number of the ladies I see are married BUT without knowing anything about their spouses it keeps that part of their lives far enough away that I don't feel like I'm helping them "cheat" or something.  Once I cross that invisible line, I just can't see them for I feel like I'm touching their spouses woman and that doesn't feel right to me at all.  

Why am I posting all this?  I really don't know!  

Peace...

This was an interesting topic.
You can never be sure that you found true love, only that you love truly, because no matter how hard you try, you'll never know the other person's true emotions.  You may see the manifestations of their feeling or what they've been conditioned to respond as love, but you can't get into their soul.  My wife is a provider and while I am not fond of her vocation, I try to be unconditional in my love for her.  Is that love returned in kind?  I don't know but love is not given for what you will receive, is it?
The best we can do is to allow people to BE and hope they allow you the same.

     Second star to the right.........

Found this and thought I'd share  ~Carlee


HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
--Alan, age 10

No person really decides before they Grow up who they're going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with.
--Kirsten, age 10



WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.
--Camille, age 10

No age is good to get married at. You Got to be a fool to get married.
--Freddie, age 6



HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?

You might have to guess, based on Whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.
--Derrick, age 8


WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?

Both don't want any more kids.
--Lori, age 8



WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?

Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.
--Lynnette, age 8

On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.
--Martin, age 10



WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?


The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with that.
--Curt, age 7

The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It's the right thing to do.
--Howard, age 8



IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?


It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.
--Anita, age 9



HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?

There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn't there?
--Kelvin, age 8



"And the #1 Favorite is........"

HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?

Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a truck.
--Ricky, age 10

Great comments, Ms Carlee.  

I'm fond of this one:

"You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
--Alan, age 10 "

I frequent some Home Theater forums and the "wife acceptance" factor is damn near worth twice its weight in gold if the misses "approves" of a Home Theater purchase.  If the lady thinks the 55" HDTV is too small and would have preferred the 65" or larger TV, the guy posting this *confirms* he's found his "soul mate".  

Funny how that all works...

Peace...

that is just classic!

Those were all great!!!

Looks like the vote has changed.. With a total of 3951 votes, its

60% yes and 39% no

Thanks for all your responses and input!!!