Phoenix
From both stand-points, I can say it sucks to be cheated on, but a sexless relationship has got to suck too & a man is a man & needs/deserves sex (women too!), whether they admit it or not. So for those women who just won't give it up after years in their relationship, what do they expect? Oblivious or aware, doesn't matter... here's how I see it... if I'm not giving my mate sex (& that is part of the commitment), he'll get it from somewhere & I'd have no one to blame other than myself (the whole concept seems strange to me though!). Doesn't mean his heart's in the wrong place, IMO. So if you are referring to a sexless relationship when you state, " ...to fulfill what we may have missed in our prime", SIRBAT, I say DO NOT deprive yourself of sex at any legal age, regardless of how much control a woman who starves you might have in your relationship. Why? I feel this is the main cause for people going off the deep end (i.e. certain Priests, some postal workers, random snipers, those planting bombs in children's schools, incest rapists, etc). Sex could possibly be THE greatest venting-venue of all time! I realize this is straying a bit from the original topic, but my ADD cumz & goes unless I'm having sex. }