I just had the same experience 85003 had.  I called a well reviewed provider and booked a mid day appointment confirming the time with her.  I arrived at the location for the second call and got - voice mail.  That's happened before, so I tried again but after 12 calls over a 20 minute time period I recognized that I had been stood up.  I left a message telling her I would post what happened on TER.  Then I called back and told her she had until 5PM to give me a reasonable explanation.  I even sent her a text and a PM to cover all the bases, asking for an explanation.  No return calls, texts, or messages so here I am.  I am moving on, but if you want to PM me I'll give you her name.  Save the "Out her" message because I won't but I do want my fellow hobbyists to know who she is so you don't waste your time.

-- Modified on 8/5/2009 7:14:18 PM

I am a women provider, I have NEVER stood anyone up.

Sometimes as a women , I DO get over booked and or am having a REALLY good session and run over time wise.or a client said or did something while in limbo that made me question the booking... if i cant do it , or have a change of heart... I ALWAYS CALL or email and let the client know.

BUT with this being said... I WILL say there are SOME things you clients do wrong...

im new to this"world" and learning the ropes..BUT i will say some of the ads on certain sites DONT seem legit just by looking at them , AND some of the women look kinda scary that men have been complaining about lately... PICK BETTER QUALITY WOMEN....

also, I do believe its out of line to leave threats on a vm , Saying youll out here on ter if no call ... WHY ? i would be turned off , and wouldn't want to call back EITHER !

giving a ultimatum for someone to do something ISNT SEXY NOR FUN... and after all isnt that the point. 12 calls 20 mins NOT FUN, NOT SEXY... kinda scary if u ask me...

Now i know thats not what you were meaning, but you have to take it in stride, and move on.

clients have in the past gotten busy, or wife came home, or last  min meeting... STUFF HAPPENS

Live and learn.....

Bella.

So basically you didn't do what you told her you would do ... like she did to you???

I am so sorry that happened to you.  However, calling 12 times in 20 minutes is a bit extreme.  

You should:
call her at the time she said
if no answer, leave a voicemail
wait 15 min then call again if she hasn't called you
leave another voice mail if no answer & state your intentions on whether you will continue to wait or that you are leaving

but calling almost every minute is just too much!!

Keep it simple, call a girl
if no answer, leave a voicemail
if don't want call back, then state that in voicemail
but calling her that many times is totally unnecessary and will only make you look desperate & strange.  This will only cause her to not ever want to see you, let alone call you back.

NS/NC happen to both gals and guys - neither like it.  Some have good reason - life does happen.  But calling excessively is not necessary by either party.

Better luck next time.

Yes - life happens - but there is never, and I repeat, NEVER an excuse to NCNS. A simple text would suffice. The only plausible excuses are injury or serious illness. And, for what it's worth, I would have no qualms about outing the person on here.

a post like this is absolutely useless, unless your hoping to work something out just post her name so we can know who to avoid.



-- Modified on 8/6/2009 6:10:14 PM

just like 85003 post below crying about the same thing.....i'm sure providers have way more to complain about.

If you have access to it you can read it. Like I said below I would not post her name on a public board and I wasn’t crying there’s too many good girls here to worry about just one. I was just making a statement what have you contributed to this board I see you have not posted any reviews.

i rarely review here anymore since most of the ladies i see dont want to be reviewed on a public board.

yet even if i were active i wouldnt bother asking for access to the reviewer board since i dont really care for private forums either.

If the only ones who you bother to tell are the 15 on the reviewers board then why are you starting a thread on the public boards?

you have my sympathy however, being double booked sucks and it happens way too often to be ignored. and im just as guilty as the rest of letting it go

I agree - I have to assume the ladies have WAAAAY more to complain about...

Also, common sense dictates that the nature of the "hobby" is nefarious at best... so to complain about a no show seems silly - and to call 12 times in 20 minutes seems a tad excessive, if I was a provider - I'd get pissed and refuse to call back...

Stick to the reputable providers - if you have a good time its a bonus...

if you go with unknown / little known providers and they show up, you don't get robbed or busted - its a good thing, then having a good time is gravy...

a ns/nc seems trivial... not trying to be a jerk, but just seems like whining to me -just my opinion.

I meant no disrespect but without attributing a person's name to your experience, it sounds like just wasted space.  Maybe I should have used the word "venting" instead of crying.  I really don't see the difference between so and so stood you up (after all you went through) and a bad review.  A bad review would at least let me know how you rated it. I think a heads-up warning of your experience does less damage for the next guy who may see her and have to give a bad review.  Otherwise, it seems like just crying...I mean venting.  
I would at some time like to contribute more to the hobby but at the present time I can not.  Thanks though for your contributions.

nc/ns is not trivial.

it is a huge pain in the ass.  it makes us ALL look bad and it causes PROBLEMS for the rest of us because guys start double booking and then nc/ns us llike its no big deal and then we end up not making money.

if that is what the reputable girls do, i do not want to be lumped into the "reputable" category.  

your expectations are awful low for someone who sticks to so-called "reputable" providers but i'm beginning to see why that might be.