Reading this gave me a brain cramp. I see taboo as within ourselves. So if you think it is taboo it is because you think it is taboo, not because I think it is taboo.
Each individual has a right to live the life they want. One shot. The anxieties we create are from pasts or our own issues. And that includes the hobby... Yes, getting comfortable (neglect) causes conflict in relationships. If you are not hurting anyone in life, and respecting others wishes, and enjoying all that has been provided to you - it is an awesome ride. Society does not have the right to tell me what is right, BUT there are laws we live within each culture. What is frowned upon in the U.S. is widely accepted elsewhere. And vice versa. Do we move to those cultures to be all we can be? Or do we play a little cat and mouse with some issues that don't hurt anyone. We all know too well the financial scams, the wars, the pain and suffering decisions made for gain make.
I keep pushing back on one thing. Metaphorically, just give me the respect in the relationship or surrounding I deserve and is within the law (or let me take my own risks). Let me choose how to live my life. Don't blatently manipulate those who can be for various reasons. Give them their choice as well (hopefully honestly). Don't be mean. Sometimes we get scared and are for a moment. If hobbying makes you happy - and you can do it without disrespecting someone or not giving them their choice, go for it. Society does not decide what is moral - we each do. But we have to live with our decisions - nobody makes anyone do anything. Having a wife and mistress is accepted in many cultures. And the women know, but don't ask. If someone has to lie (different than hide) to keep their life going, are they happy? Are they being fair? Hmmm. DENY, DENY, DENY - if that is comfortable and does not cause anxiety, well then... And no MAN will take neglect - no one can neglect another person. A person can only "feel" negelected. If they can't articulate their need, that's their problem. If they are not getting what they need who's fault is it? If they stay in a "neglected" situation because of "comfort", they are not neglected, but comfortable themselves right?
Appreciate what you have. Define your own meaning of life and pursue it. Find a balance to be who you truly are (not letting society dictate). Limit your time with judgemental or people who want to try and control you (it can't be done if you do not let them). Accept what is and live for the possibilities ahead. Meaning, be happy, have fun, and only He will judge you at the end of the day.
Yes - sometimes changing our surroundings is needed. Even if for a brief moment on the journey. Just to reflect (those dang anxieties or life pressures push at us). Then get back to if it feels good, do it.
Speaking of which -how good do you feel? Put another way, I think I need to feel you soon to see how good you feel! And do you smell as wonderful as the pictures look. Is that bottom lip of yours as luscious as I have imagined. And you have a two twist length of hair - oh how nice that must be when looking at the arch of your back. Yea, must be Friday. Been a long week. I think it is a weekend for hedonism. Let the eagle fly.
Anyone up to hitting the boobie bars tonight? I am feeling negelcted, want to be manipulated, and see how my taboos are doing.
Peace
In this hobby/buisness/alluring luxury...What is it about this world we keep amongst ourselves that makes it so taboo... Other than the obvious of marriage or your significant other that is too comfortable with you to even notice you anymore... In my experience I have found that a man is neglected through the sheer comfortable life he and/or his other half made with one another... When does the fun begin? When does it end?... And when does society give us the right to decide what is Acceptable?...Moral.?.. or otherwise Forbidden?... If we as human beings are simply unhappy with our lifes... We change ourselves or our surroundings.... And maybe that means to get what we need as human beings to not demolish what "most" built a life with.... If you can be fullfilled with another in multiple ways and make the life you created work ...IS THIS REALLY SO VOODOO????
Always wondering,
Brooke
Reading this gave me a brain cramp. I see taboo as within ourselves. So if you think it is taboo it is because you think it is taboo, not because I think it is taboo.
Each individual has a right to live the life they want. One shot. The anxieties we create are from pasts or our own issues. And that includes the hobby... Yes, getting comfortable (neglect) causes conflict in relationships. If you are not hurting anyone in life, and respecting others wishes, and enjoying all that has been provided to you - it is an awesome ride. Society does not have the right to tell me what is right, BUT there are laws we live within each culture. What is frowned upon in the U.S. is widely accepted elsewhere. And vice versa. Do we move to those cultures to be all we can be? Or do we play a little cat and mouse with some issues that don't hurt anyone. We all know too well the financial scams, the wars, the pain and suffering decisions made for gain make.
I keep pushing back on one thing. Metaphorically, just give me the respect in the relationship or surrounding I deserve and is within the law (or let me take my own risks). Let me choose how to live my life. Don't blatently manipulate those who can be for various reasons. Give them their choice as well (hopefully honestly). Don't be mean. Sometimes we get scared and are for a moment. If hobbying makes you happy - and you can do it without disrespecting someone or not giving them their choice, go for it. Society does not decide what is moral - we each do. But we have to live with our decisions - nobody makes anyone do anything. Having a wife and mistress is accepted in many cultures. And the women know, but don't ask. If someone has to lie (different than hide) to keep their life going, are they happy? Are they being fair? Hmmm. DENY, DENY, DENY - if that is comfortable and does not cause anxiety, well then... And no MAN will take neglect - no one can neglect another person. A person can only "feel" negelected. If they can't articulate their need, that's their problem. If they are not getting what they need who's fault is it? If they stay in a "neglected" situation because of "comfort", they are not neglected, but comfortable themselves right?
Appreciate what you have. Define your own meaning of life and pursue it. Find a balance to be who you truly are (not letting society dictate). Limit your time with judgemental or people who want to try and control you (it can't be done if you do not let them). Accept what is and live for the possibilities ahead. Meaning, be happy, have fun, and only He will judge you at the end of the day.
Yes - sometimes changing our surroundings is needed. Even if for a brief moment on the journey. Just to reflect (those dang anxieties or life pressures push at us). Then get back to if it feels good, do it.
Speaking of which -how good do you feel? Put another way, I think I need to feel you soon to see how good you feel! And do you smell as wonderful as the pictures look. Is that bottom lip of yours as luscious as I have imagined. And you have a two twist length of hair - oh how nice that must be when looking at the arch of your back. Yea, must be Friday. Been a long week. I think it is a weekend for hedonism. Let the eagle fly.
Anyone up to hitting the boobie bars tonight? I am feeling negelcted, want to be manipulated, and see how my taboos are doing.
Peace
Many of my guests are single, so I assume the only thing they have to contend with is the social stigma of paying for companionship. Some are too busy with work to invest the time in an long term relationship. Others are divorced, in between relationships or aren’t interested in getting too involved with one person. Paid companionship is an easy, convenient solution.
I recently met two guys who came to Phoenix on vacation. One friend was showing the other “the ropes” so to speak. I met them both on separate nights. In this instance, the hobby was shared between friends. This shows me that the taboo must be breaking down a bit.
For those in long term relationships or married, I think there comes the day when we realize there is a difference between love and sex. After the honeymoon phase wears off, it’s a challenge to find that initial spark. You just know too much about the other person. Relationships grow and shift over time. I think that is a natural progression of relationships. Currently, there is a myth floating around that we must keep the sexual spark alive and I think that's bullshit. I think it was Gandhi who said that you have a good marriage if, over time, your wife eventually becomes your mother. I think what he meant is that love grows deeper over time. The initial sexual heat wears off and thankfully your wife learns to cook yummy food and clean the house. She becomes more of a companion to you instead of a sex freak. I think the French have it down…A wife and a mistress have two separate roles and never the two should mix.
As for myself, I’m coming out of the closet more and more. I find this “job” has become a lifestyle. My partner knows I’m not monogamous and probably never will be. I’ve come to accept this fact after many years of trying to fit in the monogamous box. We live separately so I can have my life and energy and he his. I’m sure he plays, which I accept as well.
Overall, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m too old to lie and life is too short to rob others of my truth (thank you to Sarah for that recent realization). From a place of honesty and transparency, there’s very little that feels taboo in how I choose to live today.
Thanks for a great question Brooke!
Hope everyone enjoys the weekend!
xoxo
Gina