Is is possible to have a "meet and get to know" lunch to kind of. "break the ice" for a new guy? I have seen the subject in here but seems that there was no conclusion. I just think that is would be a great way to start and see if there is a little chemistry,  so to speak( snd yes I know there is no free lunch LOL)

You're right.. there is no free lunch. Take her to lunch, pay for the hour. Welcome to the hobby!

My first meeting with a provider was lunch downtown and we followed with a hot session. Try a meet in public over lunch but be discrete. It was very hot and arousing. We both enjoyed it.

Sure. Remember, you're paying for the ladies time. If you want to spend that time sitting across a table from her, that's fine. Pick up the bill for lunch and take care of her $$.

The subject was brought up in recent posts so I thought I would ask the question if it has been something that some of you do. Yes, I have followed this board, but have not participated in the hobby (yet) for my own reasons. I have always been respectful of you Mya and your positon in the community. So if you have an answer to the question I proposed with out being judgemental of my exoerience I would of course apprieciate it. If not ...well so be it.

Asking lots of questions, lurking, claiming to be a newbie when you're not, and never seeing a single provider?  What are your "reasons"?

Have to agree Joe...Be very careful w/ this one ladies...Could be wrong here, but this is a very odd way to work yourself into the community-

I asked a question and this is the answer? Look at my post, I never said that I was a newbie ....I just wanted an answer to a question of a subject that was brought up in previous posts. How the whole issue now gets to revolve around me and my experience or lack of experience with a provider is amazing.

I guess that you have to be "active" part of the community to participate on this board and not get flamed.

From one of the highly respected people in the community. Please pay close attention to the last sentance in the 1st paragraph.

"You are only thinking this way because you are a very experienced hobbyist and a reasonably young man.  Sometimes it can take a half hour just to put a married, nervous newbie at ease, and you know what?  That is time well spent for both of us!  Yeah, sure..there are those of you who generally feel a little bit more comfy with a nice set of lips wrapped around you from the get-go, but I think it is safe to say that we ladies would prefer to be appreciated as human beings as opposed to lifelike jerk-off tools, red-light specials, or auction items; which as Tina pointed out, is often the norm with 1/2 hour shoppers.  If you are suggesting that the "half hour for new friends" trial program would not include playtime; just introductory discussion and chemistry lab, then that is a whole other issue / idea that could be worth exploring, although I question how many takers there would be.

Frankly, I don't believe that you are mostly right about finding chemistry other than physical from your mini interviews.  I think you can probably find a decent time, and probably weed out those whom you clearly did not care for for obvious reasons once you experienced them in person, but you do not get all the answers from the first few minutes, or even thirty.  Additionally,  I think I can take some liberty here and speak for the gals in this community when I say that looks / age are not the best indicator of male performance or chemistry.  Of course, there are exceptions, but if we gauged serious sexual chemistry by behavior at the get togethers, we would be dead wrong.  Perhaps it's a gender thing, but perhaps not.  

I think that if you read my reviews, they speak to this very issue.  I don't require a two hour minimum, but I do prefer it...and those who get to know me often do too when possible. My reviews speak about a real person; they are not simply geography, kinetics, and landscape and I am proud of that.  

Make no mistake, I can please you in 30 minutes.  Hell, I can probably play Jr. Chemist in 3, but I am betting that there is a lot more to discover about you than just your genitalia. In this case, what I can UN-cover may just provide the best juice of all.

Just my .02 ramble on the subject.."

It was observed above that you are not a "newbie" by any definition, and that you "already know the answer to your question."  Does that also mean that you've already tried having lunch/dinner with providers, as well?

Don't flatter yourself about it revolving around you and your lack of experience, however.  It's all about people watching each other's backs.  If you want to know what a provider thinks about having "just lunch" with you (and if you haven't already done so) drop several of them an email and you'll have your answer.

p.s.  You haven't been "flamed" (it can get a lot worse, believe me.)

perhaps she struck a note with you and OUCH!

It is a valid question and I believe, as Mya so adeptly wrote, that considering the fact that you've been a lurker here since 2005, it would be quite difficult to imagine that this question has never been answered to your satisfaction in the past or that you would still qualify for "newbie" status.

Perhaps the more appropriate question could have been, "How many providers would be willing to......"

Jazz

with JustDoneByYou.....

will you be providing a link to the entire post?

I posted the entire tread

Ok Jazz, I agree could have worded it better, I just wondered what ,if any, was the out come of the previous posts about that subject. Thanks for the input

That's all anyone is saying. Look. If you have been on here for 2 years and not seen anyone, you need help. And that was not meant to be a mean comment for real. I have 3 reviews SHOWN under my name here. Trust me. It is a few more than that over the course of 9 years. Ouch - been to long, but that's another story.

Call an agency. Get your first appointment. Or think about why you are on this board.

It will be hit or miss. Trust me. Happens to all the guys on this site. Sometimes it is magical. Sometimes it is not. And don't believe everything you read. Pick a look you like. A body style. Read a comment or two with some above 6 reviews. See if she has reviews from guys in other cities. Look at the averages. And stick your toe in the water...

You'll find reviewers who are sympatico (guys who have the same taste). You'll catch her on a bad day. You'll catch her on a good day. You will have good and bad days. But if it is a look you like and a style, then it can be quite delicious. With or without chemistry.

My previous post was a comment on the two hour requirements. Heck, I don't book two hours on a first encounter anymore. Not worth the downside. And I thought it might be interesting conversation. I was wrong. Heck, a guy shows up for 30 and does not get out of there for 45-50min. No good for the girl.

But heck, if I was a lady in this biz, and someone offered to buy me lunch, coffee, a drink and gave me $ for my time, I'd make time.

Peace,

There is no free lunch.

I can think of exactly one provider I have EVER seen actually promote the concept of an uncompensated personal meet and greet(search back in the posts for her "sweet propositions" post of 2/13), so that's certainly the exception to the rule.

I agree with JDBY that, were I a provider and someone wanted to drop a Franklin on me for having lunch with them, I'd do it. Gotta eat anyway, why not have a potential new client pick up the tab?

You might, through making some calls, get a provider to have a compensated "break the ice" lunch or something with you-but I doubt they'd want to encourage guys to do that in a public forum.

There's an old adage in the hobby (and elsewhere in life I would imagine):

"Ya pays yer money and ya takes yer chances!"

That's the significant difference between hobbying and, well...dating.

If you been lurking that long, you've gotten about as much of a "free look" at what the hobby has to offer as there probably is to have.

As the more learned have suggested, perhaps it's time to just take the plunge-unless you're completely bereft of sense and wasted all that lurking time learning nothing, hobbying in this town is as easy and safe as it's ever been.

Take the chance-they're all nice ladies, and they don't bite...

Unless you pay em extra. LOL!


Good Luck!
Hobby Happy

JJ

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except I would want the goodies too.