I think this topic was posted a few months ago for discussion, and I would like to revive it at this time.  I am what I consider a "limited" hobbyist.  I screen the Providers before deciding which ones I want to meet, through their websites, listings, reviews, and comments posted here on TER Discussion Board.  I do not limit myself to those who represent themselves with the most reputable listings, but I do take my chances with Craigslist and Backpage-Phoenix.  I have never been thoroughly disappointed, other than a couple of "No Show/No Call" Providers.  I have to honestly admit that all of you Providers who have allowed me the honor of meeting you are my ATF in one way or another.
Now, to the point of this topic… The "Provider/Client" relationship for a first meeting is so convenient, at least for me.  But, from time to time, between those types of meetings, how do you ladies feel about a client calling you and asking if you would like to meet for coffee, or for a burger, or they invite you to their annual cookout at their house that includes all of their neighbors, friends, co-workers and families?  You are being asked and invited because you have touched that client's life in some special way, other than as "Provider/Client".
I know my feelings, and I would really appreciate it to hear all of yours.  I want to hear from other hobbyists, too.
Thank you all.

That is an interesting question, as I am experiencing that now.  I am taking a lady on a week long trip out of the country and I know I am ONLY a client.  I would love to talk to her and talk about how much fun we will have, what we will do and see, but I understand she is very busy.  It is hard to remember, especially after an amazing experience with them and you think you have "bonded".  Sorry to tell you, but this relationship should be viewed as  business.  I make my clients feel special also, but I do not want them intruding in my personal life.  Just enjoy the special time you have and keep your BIG head on straight!

Been there, done that, got the scars to show for it. Most all of the ladies are wonderful........in the usual "settings". It is hard to differentiate from that setting when you go beyond the client relationship. That being said......we discovered that while we had indeed bonded, to an amazing degree, in the client relationship....we actually had a lot of issues on the more personal basis. Tough call guy but I will never say never...Just be careful and remember that play is play and life is life.....they don't always mix in the way we intend.

I met one of the girls here as a client and I can now say she's my best friend! Would seeing her again as a client ruin things? I would like to think not, but our relationship now is so much better than it would be for one or two hours a month. She knows I'm in her corner and has her back...but wouldn't mind the front either! (wink wink **)  She knows she is always welcome to join me and my friends and family when they are in town..but you guys here keep her too busy! If I thought the hour we spent together Feb. 13th 2004 was special, having her as a true friend is 10 times better! She is definitely a friend for LIFE!

I think that in this situation, it really depends on the type of relationship that has developed.  For instance, if the chemistry is there and you have a great time together, and you both trust each other, then I feel it is okay to meet outside the usual date.  However, it really depends on the provider you are wanting to meet.  Many ladies separate their private lives from this, and will always keep it that way.  Some, on the other hand, dont mind meeting for coffee or drinks.  I have clients that want to meet for drinks at karaoke or just call to say hi, and for me that is fine.  If you have developed a relationship as friends, then go ahead and ask...if not and you have only seen the lady once or twice, be careful, cause she might just think you are looking for a freebie...it may come across the wrong way.  Be clear in your expectations, and respect her privacy too.  Thats just my opinion....
Good luck!

XXXOOO Madison