You need one of two things a girlfriend or a mistress. Being fiends is great, but think of how many men take this for granted and think that grants them extra or "free" time. Ladies need to keep they're space from clients in general often because if not it will consume their lives and there could be no turn off. I enjoy the heck out of all my friends and the type of relationship I build with those I really connect with has lasted since I first began.. and retired and returned. With a mistress relationship that is what you get, a friend with an understanding. Think about it.  

Would love to see your work- post a pic of two ?

I've only been with one provider that started to turn into a friendship. When I realized what was going on in my head I says to myself "you can't see her again".  

Do I want a good rapport(yes that is how it is spelled) with the ladies I see? Of course! When you start talking friendship your just setting yourself up for emotions and then it gets ugly.

You want the sugar coated lie, along with the majority of society. A quote straight from my all time favorite movie "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!" You say you can, but you can't.

 I'm a perfect example I don't sugar coat, unless it's a special circumstance. Because of that 9 out of 10 times I offend someone or hurt their feelings. If you really want the truth, you better hope for the best, but also prepare for the worst and not retaliate against that person either, since you asked for their brutal honesty

Diva once said:

"The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing - and then marry him."

It holds true for both sides. We tend to not stay rational at times. Especially where passion is concerned. The root of LOVE is crazy. Our friends are our friends because they sincerely like us. Not because there are $ in play. Though I really believe, and this is twisted, the world would be a better place if we had more "buddies" BCD. And less drama. Especially if the guy is generous, respectful, and nice. But finding a woman who is ok with that is like finding a unicorn on Central Avenue. It's the old saying "why should he buy the cow if he is getting the milk for free" mentality. I seriously think women are missing the point of male friendships. And tend to go with the "get excited" about the wrong guy. Heck, I'm guilty as well. But asking a girl   friend to be intimate is a bit out of the box. Gosh the puns today...
Yea- there are a heck of a lot of guys who fall in love after a little cuddle as well... fo' sho' - then there are the ones who could give a crap. Somewhere in the middle....

If $ are in play, they ain't yo' friend...it's bizness bi$c#
Though they may be in love with you (for a moment),
And we all know how that ends..

A provider will be your friend for an hour.  Like the person sitting next to you on an airplane will be your friend until the plane lands.  Or how the guy at the strip club who bought everyone a round of drinks will be your friend until he goes home.  Or how the guy you hung out with in jail last weekend was your friend, until your mom bailed out out so that you could go home.  These are real examples of how long friendships last.

If you want to talk about lifetime friends, like the people you went to school with when you were a kid, those are the people you call once a year (if that often), or better yet, just friend them on facebook so that you don't even have to call them.  Then you can look at their facebook profile and read all about how they ate pie last night and how it was awesome. Then you can say "Yea! That's my Friend!"

If you want a friend that is your friend today, tomorrow, and the day after that, then get a girlfriend.  She will be your friend up until the day one of you texts the other to explain that you think you should see other people.

Hello Sacs, I personally do not think there is a problem being friends with providers. Notwithstanding, business is business and a unassuming friend should not expect anything in return if you do a favor for someone. This is my opinion and it works for me. Good luck to you!!

Good luck with that. Reminds me of a song lyric ...

"Tap dancing on a land mine"    

 
Yes, there are some very nice ladies whom you will meet.  I've been very lucky to have made some great friends along the way

Good responses...

So far I have gotten some very good responses.  As to the comment of getting a girlfriend.  lol  Like I said before, I am no idiot or sucker.  I know EXACTLY what it is I am doing and what the arrangement is.  Most of the time the providers I have seen actually talk to me about becoming friends.  At least it seems that way.  I admit I could be wrong.  I think you are right when they might be caught up in the moment as well and say something they did not mean.  The whole point of the original post of mine was for the providers to be honest.  Some like the fantasy treatment and some of us like the reality.  Does that make any sense?  Anyways, as always be safe out there everyone and thanks for the feedback.